When She is Bad at Messaging - OLD

[BillyPilgrim]

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Here’s another one. My next message is going to be something like “that’s good because now it’s less trouble to find a restaurant to take you to.” Unless that’s too gay bestie. Open to suggestions. You guys can take the wheel.

"Maybe you can use some discipline lol".

In time OP you can learn to set this up so you know you're going with the "discipline" comment before you even broach the subject of her diet.

This is where having a loose script helps.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Catz, believe me this conversation happens more often than not. Hence the OP, it's made out of frustration..

Thats why the common advice for men is to say anything but "hey". Say someting about her profile..make it personal. I cant find the article but one dude wrote he had 100+ matches, NEVER said "hey" but always used a witty opener, still zero dates.. View attachment 9517

Let me tell you, it gets old real quick when you try to be a clownish character looking for "unique openings". Mind you, the women basically never take effort to even make conversation, but still demand you " say something unique and witty".

I use OLD as an ego boost and nothing more. Every now and then there's a woman with high interest and she'll make it easy for me. The others.. is just a little ego boost and that's it.

I concur and its why i think OLD is approaching burnout , theres been a massive push over the last few years from operators trying too monetise the service its now at the point where you pretty much need to pay to even match anyone

This is all good and well but what the platforms don't realise is you can't commoditise a natural dynamic like dating without it having very serious consequences ,

one sex was always going to get the better deal and because of natural selection women are the primary benefactors here, but theres a problem women despite all the modern B.S they NEED emotional connection with a man to able to feel anything they cannot get that from letters and words on a screen they end up getting overwhelmed and despondent

and also men don't even know WTF to say anyway lol

You have millions of men on these apps all going around in circles and worse still they are actually paying for the privilege of it

Any man that is on these apps a lot won't be the type of guy women really want to be with long term and its the same for us with women

Women who spend too long on these apps just become mentally warped ,derranged and unable to bond

 

[Gamisch]

I concur and its why i think OLD is approaching burnout , theres been a massive push over the last few years from operators trying too monetise the service its now at the point where you pretty much need to pay to even match anyone

This is all good and well but what the platforms don't realise is you can't commoditise a natural dynamic like dating without it having very serious consequences ,

one sex was always going to get the better deal and because of natural selection women are the primary benefactors here, but theres a problem women despite all the modern B.S they NEED emotional connection with a man to able to feel anything they cannot get that from letters and words on a screen they end up getting overwhelmed and despondent

and also men don't even know WTF to say anyway lol

You have millions of men on these apps all going around in circles and worse still they are actually paying for the privilege of it

Any man that is on these apps a lot won't be the type of guy women really want to be with long term and its the same for us with women

Women who spend too long on these apps just become mentally warped ,derranged and unable to bond

I wonder if there is a solution. As with most things, dating is completely monopolized by a few big companies. I feel like its similar to the food industry for example, where a French big corporations decide how and what we should eat.

In the beginning of OLD it was fun. Plenty of matches and dates. Then a shift happened, and I believe 95% of men at least once felt like they "lost their mojo" due lack of results. Now most men smartened up, and know to expect nothing from OLD. Maybe that's the solution. If men collectively stop the simping. But that's more cap and hooe than anything else...


Ironically, lately I've noticed that older women do know how to behave better on OLD. But my geuss is it's a matter of time before that also will change for the worst.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Low text investment sounds like a class A time waster….ask her out on a simple low investment coffee date and see where that goes. DO NOT spend more than 20 bucks on this girl.

 

[manfrombelow]

OP, with all due respect, there are no women that are "bad at texting/messaging", only women who are not that into you.

 

[Bokanovsky]

We've all dealt with it. I'm dealing with it now. Women who are terrible at messaging. Lame, boring, don't ask questions. Don't tell me they're not interested.

They are not interested. Hot girls get dozens if not hundreds of messages daily. It’s overwhelming and they don’t bother putting a lot of effort into their replies. Ironically, that makes the whole process a waste of time.

 

[startstrongtoday22]

I have had two LTRs from online dating, and I can tell you, none of the unique or text stuff matters. If a girl is interested, she will ask questions, reply back, and when you ask for her number she will give it to you. If she does not do any of that, then you just unmatch her and move on. Sometimes with these apps, you need to delete your profile if you stop getting matches and then recreate a new profile Then the matches appear again. The funny thing is sometimes, the girls you unmatch try to match you again and try to have another conversation. I often do not match them again, but sometimes I even have their numbers and they still try to match me lol. Sometimes, I unmatch girls when I have their numbers too.

OLD is never taken seriously, and you shouldn't take it seriously either. Just have fun. Its' for woman to get an ego boost, and get a quick lay - if any, and sometimes it works. Honeslty, OLD has dropped worse after the pandemic - it's crap now. From 2013-2020, it was solid!

 

[Solomon]

I send paragraphs and just dismiss the ones that send one liners. Start off with high interest

@jaymbrs you could have opened up the conversation by asking about her school, what she’s studying, how she’s became interested in it, what profession shewants To get into, etc

^^^This I can tell by the first interaction if I will meet a woman or not if she replies back with

-One liners
-Doesn't ask questions back
-Takes hours to respond

Next women that really wanna meet will make an effort to at least engage

When a girl is not texting you with anything interesting or unique, she doesn't care. Ever try responding to the 5th text you responded to in one sitting? Your texts get less and less interesting.. and u just end up being like "hey thats cool". or something short phrase.

They're entertaining you but not interested in you. Why? becausse there are guys they are more interested in. The sad part is soem girls will text a guy back and forth nad not even reall be interested in him. They're just killing time and then suddenly when her texts start getting less consistent until she just goes quiet, thats about the time she found someone she likes and decided to just brush u into the corner like some dirt on the floor

Thats why i start off, make it super fun and sexual and ge the girl excited as fucc.. when shes down to hang out, i already know shes sold. teh key is to jsut get them in bed and blow their minds, after that, u just reel back and watch as she chases u lol

Also this, this is why I delete women's numbers now within 48-72 hours. These are women that are lukewarm at best, no point gaming them when they don't even wanna meet up for a date