When She Doesn't Like You...

VladPatton

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So you macked some chick you thought was cute and she flat-blasted you and turned down your date invites without any counteroffers. Fine, you leave her be, but she's part of your social circle and she'll pop up every now and then at a get-together.

Well, this happened to me last night. I didn't care, for I did nothing wrong by asking her politely on a date twice several months ago. Here's how she conducted herself:

She walks up to meet us at our table with her friend, didn't even say ''hi''. Didn't even look at me. Barely talked 5 words the whole night, with attitude even. I don't look at her, I'm not giving her eyeball sex, fück that, she refused me twice, lamely.

So I'm sitting there like a tool just looking around while she's yappin away with my buddy and ignoring me. No problem, I don't get mad, so I say, "ok guys it's late, I'm out". I don't even finish the sentence and she blurts out over her shoulder "Bye!!" lol What an immature cünt! lol Really?

So, fellas, the moral of this is that no matter how much you work out, money you make, how awesome your dope haircut is, or how bıtchin your new car is, if the girl doesn't like you, or care for you, you're the equivalent of dogshıt in her eyes. Don't get pissed, just exit gracefully, stop trying of course, and count your lucky stars for dodging a bullet. In the end, it actually paid off that she said no to you!
 

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Mike32ct said:
Nah, it's BrownBear/BrownSpice/PinkBear, etc. :)

You are correct sir. BrownBear/BrownSpice/PinkBear has formed some sort of unhealthy crush on the Ninja Man. Took the second part of my new name right off of a chatzy convo.

Can't say I haven't influenced a few posters though..
 

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djjizzyjeff said:
You are correct sir. BrownBear/BrownSpice/PinkBear has formed some sort of unhealthy crush on the Ninja Man. Took the second part of my new name right off of a chatzy convo.

Can't say I haven't influenced a few posters though..
After showering me with compliments of how funny I am in the chatzy convo, now Mr.Ninja tries to neg me by accused me of having a crush on him. What a good push/pull strategy. Your game is tight grandpa :D

But unfortunately as this thread has explained, since I'm not interested, it won't work sir :)
 

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Dang dude, she told you bye. Go no contact and she'll definitely want you after three days :rockon: . Lol.
 

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TheFapPrince said:
After showering me with compliments of how funny I am in the chatzy convo, now Mr.Ninja tries to neg me by accused me of having a crush on him. What a good push/pull strategy. Your game is tight grandpa :D

But unfortunately as this thread has explained, since I'm not interested, it won't work sir :)

Don't hate the player son. Hate the game. Now dance for me muppet. :D

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So you macked some chick you thought was cute and she flat-blasted you and turned down your date invites without any counteroffers. Fine, you leave her be, but she's part of your social circle and she'll pop up every now and then at a get-together.

Well, this happened to me last night. I didn't care, for I did nothing wrong by asking her politely on a date twice several months ago. Here's how she conducted herself:

She walks up to meet us at our table with her friend, didn't even say ''hi''. Didn't even look at me. Barely talked 5 words the whole night, with attitude even. I don't look at her, I'm not giving her eyeball sex, fück that, she refused me twice, lamely.

So I'm sitting there like a tool just looking around while she's yappin away with my buddy and ignoring me. No problem, I don't get mad, so I say, "ok guys it's late, I'm out". I don't even finish the sentence and she blurts out over her shoulder "Bye!!" lol What an immature cünt! lol Really?

So, fellas, the moral of this is that no matter how much you work out, money you make, how awesome your dope haircut is, or how bıtchin your new car is, if the girl doesn't like you, or care for you, you're the equivalent of dogshıt in her eyes. Don't get pissed, just exit gracefully, stop trying of course, and count your lucky stars for dodging a bullet. In the end, it actually paid off that she said no to you!

Exactly. But then we wouldn't have numerous "BPD" claims based on topics like this if we all used common sense and had some true self-confidence/ self-respect.
 

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you got rejected...big deal...move along...
 

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VladPatton said:
So you macked some chick you thought was cute and she flat-blasted you and turned down your date invites without any counteroffers. Fine, you leave her be, but she's part of your social circle and she'll pop up every now and then at a get-together.

Well, this happened to me last night. I didn't care, for I did nothing wrong by asking her politely on a date twice several months ago. Here's how she conducted herself:

She walks up to meet us at our table with her friend, didn't even say ''hi''. Didn't even look at me. Barely talked 5 words the whole night, with attitude even. I don't look at her, I'm not giving her eyeball sex, fück that, she refused me twice, lamely.

So I'm sitting there like a tool just looking around while she's yappin away with my buddy and ignoring me. No problem, I don't get mad, so I say, "ok guys it's late, I'm out". I don't even finish the sentence and she blurts out over her shoulder "Bye!!" lol What an immature cünt! lol Really?

So, fellas, the moral of this is that no matter how much you work out, money you make, how awesome your dope haircut is, or how bıtchin your new car is, if the girl doesn't like you, or care for you, you're the equivalent of dogshıt in her eyes. Don't get pissed, just exit gracefully, stop trying of course, and count your lucky stars for dodging a bullet. In the end, it actually paid off that she said no to you!
Mistakes everywhere!

1. Don't ask her out twice. One chance that's it. If she gets another its not for a long time and best if she initiates.

2. Don't feel hurt about the rejection. You mention feeling like a tool. Why? She ignored you? Who cares. Treat her like a stranger. You wouldn't give two fvcks if a stranger ignored you would you?

3. You left your buddies cuz she was there. This is brutal dude! Her presence caused you to alter your plans. Talk about giving her the upper hand. She knows how hurt you are now. Wow man, never do this again!


Rejections can be tough sometimes. Learn to let go of your ego. Roll with the punches. It's one thing to "say" you are cool with it and another thing to actually BE cool with it.

She probably didn't act with any class but that doesn't mean you need to leave either. There will be hundreds of rejections just like this. Forget all of them and focus on the ones with high interest.
 

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VladPatton said:
So I'm sitting there like a tool just looking around while she's yappin away with my buddy and ignoring me.
So, she was with your buddy. Was your buddy ignoring you? There's nothing wrong with asking a chick out twice. My guess, you've played it cool since so now she's beginning to wonder. This chick was playing a game with you. Was she doing it on purpose.....why?

VladPatton said:
No problem, I don't get mad, so I say, "ok guys it's late, I'm out". I don't even finish the sentence and she blurts out over her shoulder "Bye!!" lol What an immature cünt! lol Really?
Yes.

Her yapping to your buddy could have been a show of force. You didn't buy into her BS. Willing to bet she wasn't yapping away once you left.
 

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You should've just said, "Whatever...wh0re.." then a whiteknight may have col' ****ed you but..who cares? You have to not give a sh!t. It's all about that not givin a sh!t about how other people think or see things, just fvckin say/do whatever. fvck em

If you know yourself and love yourself that's all that matters
 

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VladPatton said:
So you macked some chick you thought was cute and she flat-blasted you and turned down your date invites without any counteroffers. Fine, you leave her be, but she's part of your social circle and she'll pop up every now and then at a get-together.

Well, this happened to me last night. I didn't care, for I did nothing wrong by asking her politely on a date twice several months ago. Here's how she conducted herself:

She walks up to meet us at our table with her friend, didn't even say ''hi''. Didn't even look at me. Barely talked 5 words the whole night, with attitude even. I don't look at her, I'm not giving her eyeball sex, fück that, she refused me twice, lamely.

So I'm sitting there like a tool just looking around while she's yappin away with my buddy and ignoring me. No problem, I don't get mad, so I say, "ok guys it's late, I'm out". I don't even finish the sentence and she blurts out over her shoulder "Bye!!" lol What an immature cünt! lol Really?

So, fellas, the moral of this is that no matter how much you work out, money you make, how awesome your dope haircut is, or how bıtchin your new car is, if the girl doesn't like you, or care for you, you're the equivalent of dogshıt in her eyes. Don't get pissed, just exit gracefully, stop trying of course, and count your lucky stars for dodging a bullet. In the end, it actually paid off that she said no to you!
Yeah, she's definitely an immature cvnt. It's cool to walk away and be the better man, but in this case you were there first and she decided to come into your group and treat you like sh!t. You should have called her out on that. She's being indirectly hostile to you. We as men don't play those passive aggressive highschool girl games. You confront her directly about why she's being such a b!tch and bring it to your court.

I'm not saying freak out and start shouting or anything, be calm and assertive and find out why she has a problem with you. Sometimes you have to stand up and confront a woman about her ****ty behavior to force her to behave like an adult. If your friend is any good, he should back you up.
 

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To clarify, I left with another friend who had to be up at 6 am. Dude's eyeballs were closing and asked me if I was leaving soon so he can get a ride, so I said sure, let's blow this joint. So I did hang with them for about 2 and a half hours, I didn't split once she came. I actually wanted to see what happens.

Yes, for the better time of the night she was talking with my other buddy, who introduced me to her. He basically tried to hook us up, but she didn't wanna have it. She is more than likely into him.

I put this up not for advice per se, but just to make some SSers realize that the early signs are dead giveaways if you should/should not pursue a chick. Don't ignore them. Save yourself the Advil and a whole lot of time.
 

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VladPatton said:
So you macked some chick you thought was cute and she flat-blasted you and turned down your date invites without any counteroffers. Fine, you leave her be, but she's part of your social circle and she'll pop up every now and then at a get-together.

Well, this happened to me last night. I didn't care, for I did nothing wrong by asking her politely on a date twice several months ago. Here's how she conducted herself:

She walks up to meet us at our table with her friend, didn't even say ''hi''. Didn't even look at me. Barely talked 5 words the whole night, with attitude even. I don't look at her, I'm not giving her eyeball sex, fück that, she refused me twice, lamely.

So I'm sitting there like a tool just looking around while she's yappin away with my buddy and ignoring me. No problem, I don't get mad, so I say, "ok guys it's late, I'm out". I don't even finish the sentence and she blurts out over her shoulder "Bye!!" lol What an immature cünt! lol Really?

So, fellas, the moral of this is that no matter how much you work out, money you make, how awesome your dope haircut is, or how bıtchin your new car is, if the girl doesn't like you, or care for you, you're the equivalent of dogshıt in her eyes. Don't get pissed, just exit gracefully, stop trying of course, and count your lucky stars for dodging a bullet. In the end, it actually paid off that she said no to you!
I feel for you man. This happened to me years ago. Got rejected by a girl I asked for a date whom I had met through a friend. She was pretty cold the next few times I saw her. I didn't get it. You would thought I was the one who rejected HER. I just carried on as normal and didn't make it a point to talk to her.

Then a few months later I saw her again. This time I had a girlfriend with me who was hotter than she was. At that point, her whole attitude towards me changed. She was much warmer and talkative towards me.

Women.
 

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This exact thing happened to me. I was rejected with the IHAB (true) excuse after a month of heavy flirting. It's been about a month and I see this girl almost every day. She's 28 - I assumed incorrectly that women would stop playing the "ignore you" game at some point in their life. We both talk to everyone else in the group except each other. People have even commented "whats up with you and her?" - my reaction "What? we're friends."
 

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Uncharted said:
This exact thing happened to me. I was rejected with the IHAB (true) excuse after a month of heavy flirting. It's been about a month and I see this girl almost every day. She's 28 - I assumed incorrectly that women would stop playing the "ignore you" game at some point in their life. We both talk to everyone else in the group except each other. People have even commented "whats up with you and her?" - my reaction "What? we're friends."
I don't know what the benefit of that is either, Uncharted, shıt's crazy. The only thing I can deduce is that regardless of their rejection towards a date they still wanted to be pursued relentlessly for their own ego boost. When they didn't get it, they got pissed. Amazing.
 
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