When Sexuality Is Wielded Against You

[TheException]

This thread is quite ironic in light of the "Sex is not a really a huge concern in my life" thread that Exception posted only a few months ago.

All I can say is my gf has NEVER denied me sex.

I could not for a second imagine her behaving in the same way as OP's girl.

Whether this an indication of low interest is not up to me decide. Good luck Exception.

I am merely pointing out your inconsistencies....although Pairs Plus and Social Leper have done a better job at that then I have.

Here we have Exception, a very young man who proclaims to know everything about relationships, but is being denied sex. Something doesn't add up.

Pile on top of this your terrible advice regarding letting another man hang out with your woman (it turns out the other man was fvking his woman) and the fog really starts to lift.

Lastly, add in your inability to present your problem as reality you instead hide it behind an "interesting topic to discuss".

Exception, you are fooling nobody. Your gf has cut you off and we all know it. The point which really gave it away was your acknowledgement (twice in this thread alone) that men cannot get sex whenever they want it.

Well I get sex whenever I want it from my woman. But how can that be you say? Danger set boundaries at the onset of the relationship and that is supposed to drop interest level!!

It turns out Exception that you do not know anything at all. Even worse, you are trapped in a committed relationship and you aren't getting any sex, only teasing.

........:crackup:

lol for you guys thinking I need to come here for "dating advice". Lately I'm almost (not quite) convinced this place does more harm than good for men.

Besides the few clowns in this thread, attempting to derail it as usual, this has actually generated some insightful discussions and points of view.

It is your decision. It starts with the boundaries I mentioned before but which you are too frightened of.

The point on boundaries is relevant because this all comes back to your inability to set them.

You really are a drone. On and on and on about boundaries. You ever take a second to listen yourself? Where the liberals spew "tax the rich, tax the rich!", you belch out "set boundaries, set boundaries!".

Any thread I am in, you want to redirect to that debate. I have no interest in doing so. It is a waste of my time.

I don't know about that bro. How can rejecting her turn her on? Rather than wanting to rape you, she'll think she is worthless and get angry and reject you. You make it difficult once or twice she'll look elsewhere.

Yes, this is definitely a legitimate concern.

Really comes down to the woman. If she is a confident, sexy, HB 9+ ignoring her sexual advances is sometimes a creme de la creme tactic. If the woman is emotionally unstable, depressed, not confident, think her body is average, etc etc.......it may in fact do more harm. These type of woman RARELY get all sexy and seductive. So when they do.....rejecting them is a real shot to their confidence.

 

[Jaylan]

OP let's settle this once and for all in this thread.

How often do you see your woman and how often do you have sex with her?

I see my gal about once a week...and if we are alone and it's not her time of the month, we usually have sex. So basically 85% of the time I see her, we have sex.

 

[VikingKing]

Enough of the usual b1tching and moaning that has come to clog these discussion boards on a daily basis.

Instead indulge yourself in this thread and let the intellectual side of you take over. Allow yourself to be stimulated. Use the faculties of your mind instead of emotion.

This thread is not intended to power you with some sort of advice or mystical technique.....the point of the thread is to allow you to think and be made aware of fact. Now onwards.....




You're a man with a girlfriend/wife. Very happy in the relationship. Could use a bit more sex.....but who couldn't right? Both of you seem on the "up and up" and both are excelling in your respective careers.

The woman is an attractive woman but also a caring one. There are women you have banged before (and even dated) but none compare to how compassionate and kind this current woman is. She puts your interests and hobbies into hers, because she seeks to support you in all your dealings.

One night you get into a disagreement and you are left angry at each other. The woman subconsciously understands that the main source of value to the man is her sexual presence. So she often appeals to that when things go awry. So before bed, she proceeds to undress and call your attention to her...

"Whoops....my clothes fell off".

Now in the past this woman will display sexual advances such as this, but rarely if ever actually sleeps with you. In essence it is a tease. Its purpose is to smooth over the tension. So.....what is a man to do?

A) Reciprocate with attention and maybe even get to fondle her! wow yay awesome. You try to escalate things but she rejects you hard. You try to plow but you reach that WALL where if you take it any further it may indeed be rape as she clearly doesn't want it. But....the tension is gone. You two find that things are back to normal and kiss good night. The following day it is like the disagreement never happened. But you can't help to think to yourself that you caved. You feel like less of a man....and you are not sure why.

B) Ignore her attempt at reconciliation. This path may jump out immediately as the correct choice, but upon further pondering you realize that this may lead to an even more hostile situation as she will now feel embarrassment. And we know women.....they won't ever blame themselves. So naturally she blames you. Calls you names, says things like "guess you don't love me" and ultimately tries to shame you into caving into a little beta b1tch basket. The next day things will remain tense until someone brings the dispute up and things may spiral in a circle and you may find yourself back at square 1.


Almost seems like a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" ?

What path would you take? Is there a "Path C" ? Be realistic in your approach to this. Don't say things like "I'd just smash her and show her who is boss". Use that noggin of yours. Looking forward to a bunch of spirited answers for once. This should be interesting.

If she baits you just to reject you she is not sweet caring and compassionate. It's one thing if you were really in the wrong, and you actually were hurtful, and as a result of that she doesn't want sex because she is legitimately mad at you. But what you described, a gf or wife baiting you to reject you would break my trust in her, just like it would break a womans trust in me if I got drunk and beat the sh1t out of her one night. How could she trust me if I took advantage of the fact im way stronger than her? If a woman ever uses sex to manipulate you, ever, dump her ir if u can handle it emotionally.demote her to sex toy. Huge violation of integrity, I would lose all respect. Even my ex never did this to me. Ever. And I was a sh1t boyfriend, alcoholic doing drugs. She even left me with like 2 k of her money. I dont see how in your mind this is even a question. Of course iv would never let women treat me how ive often treated them. Maybe a bit when I had.no experiance. I learn quick. Maybe im a dark triad. Whi knows. Tell you what though, being real indifferent to her emotionally will bring her to her knees if you are capable of.doing it, not acting. They hate that sh1t and will pine for years.