When on a Date… Sit Beside Her or Sit Across from Her?

[BadBoy89]

Studies show the best distance is:

2.3 feet - to make her fall in love
1.3 feet - to make her have sex with you

 

[Murk]

Movies over dinner.

Clown business

 

[StacksHitEmUp]

Lol, appreciate the visual Pan was that done intentionally?

I'm teasing.

Anyway, could have probably done without, but it had the intended effect of
proving it works! And was good advice.

Can you two finally link up and smash yet?

 

[manfrombelow]

ALWAYS sit beside the chick on the 1st date, for escalation purpose.

 

[manfrombelow]

In a restaurant booth, sitting next to her (with the opposite side of the booth empty) would feel weird/awkward to me.

That's why I don't do "restaurant date" with chicks on 1st date.

 

[bat soup]

I’ve heard differing opinions on this.

I get that sitting beside her lets you be more physical on the date but I hate turning my head to make eye contact the whole date lol. It just feels awkward.

On the other hand, sitting across from her you can’t be as physical so you risk the date being more platonic. But, you can effortlessly make the strong “lazer” eye contact.

I know different people have different results, so I’ll have to find what works for me. But I was curious what the Don Juans on here did.

Sitting somewhere where you can't touch a woman makes it easy for her to suck down free food and drink whilst not giving you any play.

It's much better to put her to the test from the beginning and deal with her or not based on her reactions.

 

[Grounded eagle]

I’ve heard differing opinions on this.

I get that sitting beside her lets you be more physical on the date but I hate turning my head to make eye contact the whole date lol. It just feels awkward.

On the other hand, sitting across from her you can’t be as physical so you risk the date being more platonic. But, you can effortlessly make the strong “lazer” eye contact.

I know different people have different results, so I’ll have to find what works for me. But I was curious what the Don Juans on here did.

I always like sitting beside her because kino is basically effortless that way.Eye contact is just as effortless as if she was sitting across from you.But the best thing for me is the proximity,which makes creating intimacy easy.

You’d have to really be slow witted to be unable to create a connection with someone seated right next to you.

 

[nicksaiz65]

Turn your body, don't just turn your head.

Lolz, why not just look straight ahead and only turn your eyes?

Sometimes the simplest solutions are the best ones

 

[nicksaiz65]

Sitting beside her is better for first date escalation purposes. It's more difficult to do some of the pre-kiss escalation tactics when sitting across from someone at a table on a first date.

It matters less after the first date. Being beside her does help you test the waters of attraction more easily to escalate into kissing more easily.

First date escalation is very important. I’ve found that if you don’t make some serious moves on her on the first date, you will never see that girl ever again. That’s just the way it goes

 

[nicksaiz65]

Beside. Always. Excuse for kino and esculation.

Sit and signal her to sit beside you. Compliance test always.

Moreover always pick quiet destinations and preferably darker than lighter. Movies over dinner. If you can have your own booth or something more intimate pick that.

Build W algorithms. Have contingency plan. Free association ftw. General outline. Flow state kicks off naturally after enough experience.

When in doubt always shoot your shot. Always esculate. Make your move.

“W Algorithms,” I absolutely love it lol.

Sounds like sitting beside her is the best play because you absolutely need to go through the kino escalation steps on the date for it to be effective.

Here’s what the plan should be, in my head:
Wherever possible, sit beside her. However, there are some situations where sitting beside her just doesn’t make logical sense.

For example, in a coffee/smoothie shop in my town that has the smaller booths. Sitting beside her in that situation makes absolutely no sense lol, I don’t think there’s even room to make that work.

In that case, I suppose the “W Algorithm” would be to sit across from her, making sure you are sexualizing the date as always, of course. Lazer eye contact. You’d have to do more kino once you got to the house later on, as other members suggested. Which is fine.

So our “W Algorithm” is kind of dynamic lol

 

[nicksaiz65]

If you are seated at a bar, sitting next to her makes perfect sense.

In a restaurant booth, sitting next to her (with the opposite side of the booth empty) would feel weird/awkward to me.

I agree with this… like in the coffee shop example I gave. There’s just two booths with not that much space. In that situation, sitting beside her makes absolutely no sense lol. It literally wouldn’t even work.

So in that situation, I’d have to sit across from her, use the lazer eye contact, and sexualize(as you always should be doing.) Then, I would kino more later on the date after I brought her home so that the escalation is smooth.

 

[nicksaiz65]

That's why I don't do "restaurant date" with chicks on 1st date.

No dinner dates for sure

 

[nicksaiz65]

I always like sitting beside her because kino is basically effortless that way.Eye contact is just as effortless as if she was sitting across from you.But the best thing for me is the proximity,which makes creating intimacy easy.

You’d have to really be slow witted to be unable to create a connection with someone seated right next to you.

And that’s exactly what I need. Absolutely fool proof methods

 

[nicksaiz65]

That helps out a lot though, guys. I’ll definitely implement this on my next date, for the escalation!

 

[darksprezzatura]

Sit wherever tf you want

 

[SW15]

First date escalation is very important. I’ve found that if you don’t make some serious moves on her on the first date, you will never see that girl ever again. That’s just the way it goes

It's a delicate balance.

You're correct that not escalating on the first date will result in no second date. Women today have no patience for anything. They expect "all the butterflies" and instanteous connection. Their standards for connection are getting higher and higher. Dates that were quality enough to earn me 2nd dates in 2003-2007 were resulting in ghostings/flaking 2015-beyond.

If you try to escalate and all attempts at escalation are refused, you won't see her again either.

 

[Thewolfquest]

It’s a dance. I sit across, then if something interesting comes up or I “need” to show her something I move to her side briefly, but then jump right back to my spot across. Usually do this a few times each time amping up the level of kino until I get the compliance I’m looking for.

Once I was on a first date with a 9 who put up early resistance. We sat there for about 5 hours talking and it definitely became a game to me. I’d move in, hold her hand, maybe small kisses and then just abruptly pull away and back to build up tension. Closed the date by saying, “I had too much to drink, but I planned for this and got a hotel nearby. Let’s leave”. She followed. For all her early resistance she put out about 4-5 times over the next day. One of the best nights I have had, heck afterwards we ordered food and she was cutting up my food and spoon feeding me in bed

 

[BadWatermelon]

If it's a first date, I prefer to sit across.

Assuming we're vibing well and there is chemistry, slowly up your game with subtle (or not so subtle) eye contact aka eye fvcking and build the sexual tension that way.

As the tension builds, tell (don't ask) her to move to your side, next to you and escalate accordingly as per the advice previously given.

I had a girl put her hands out on the table when talking to me once (when I was young). I later figured out that she probably wanted me to touch them.

 

[BadWatermelon]

Studies show the best distance is:

2.3 feet - to make her fall in love
1.3 feet - to make her have sex with you

-0.5 feet during sex, because you're inside of her

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

only half a foot?

-0.5 feet during sex, because you're inside of her