when is the right time to say I LOVE U

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Love has different meaning to men and women.

For men it's an idea whilst for women it's a survival strategy.

Don't be delusional into thinking that humans have a unisex brain.

In the end, a man can only offer his version of love because that's what he's capable of.
 

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I don’t remember saying the love word in the last 10+ years, even when I was married—nor have I had a desire to.
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Do you think that never saying I love you to your then wife might have something to do with why you are no longer married?
 

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Do you think that never saying I love you to your then wife might have something to do with why you are no longer married?
Make no mistake...

Saying isn't doing, and talk is cheap.

"Let God be true, and every man a liar."
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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This guy and the way he talks is just...so beta. Wrong, wrong mindset, but OK, he seems so eager to talk about love and romance, more than a lot of women I know LOL
 

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Experience is the best teacher, but only a fool will have no other, try to learn from other people's mistakes
 

Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

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For men it's an idea whilst for women it's a survival strategy.

Don't be delusional into thinking that humans have a unisex brain.

In the end, a man can only offer his version of love because that's what he's capable of.
I agree to a certain degree. I think those may be pillars of many in the idea of love and what it really is and the makeup of it. Love is a multi faceted concept with many working components to it. Layers.
It’s more than just an idea for a man, and a survival tactic for a woman.
 

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I agree to a certain degree. I think those may be pillars of many in the idea of love and what it really is and the makeup of it. Love is a multi faceted concept with many working components to it. Layers.
It’s more than just an idea for a man, and a survival tactic for a woman.
Multi faceted because it's an idea. Where do you think this idea was 1st mooted ?

From a biological standpoint men don't require love. Whilst women required it for survival since the dawn of time.
 

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On your deathbed. She believes that maybe she will look after your dog
 

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On your deathbed. She believes that maybe she will look after your dog
You'll notice women moving along quite fast when a husband dies.

And if you pay close attention, you'll even notice that a man's dog will be depressed and not eat properly after the passing of his master.

I've seen this play out more times then not. Perhaps 8 out of 10.
 

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Please, don't let this forum turn into a bunch of beta cucks discussing about love in "rosy" terms.
 

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Greetings DJ, I often hear that it is a mistake to tell a girl you love her or to confess your felling to her, but then how are you going to get her as a girlfriend if you don't tell her you love her... Pls help
You can tell her after you've had a make-out session or french kissed her. If she's putting energy herself into the kiss where it feels like she's kissing you and she's sticking her tongue in your mouth then maybe it would sound more natural if it happened after that. If you are not that close to her than it will just make things too ackward.
 

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you don't say it until she says it first! VERY important that's where I went wrong I said it first to my ex-wife led to think she's in control. never do it first and dont do it often. do it in sex. sparingly not every time and they want dont want too much availability...
 

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You know there is an expression that love lives for three years. I believe that this is amorousness. Over the years, it grows into love. But we must often say the words of love. Girls need it. I met my real mate here and i am very happy
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

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