When is just ONE woman worth it?

lifeislearning

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When, if ever, does a DJ choose to turn from the carefree and exciting dating world and choose to pursue JUST ONE woman in his life?

When, if ever, is one woman deserving of a committed and exclusive relationship with a DJ?

I would love to see what you all think before I give my own opinion away.
 

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You will know. When you simply lose interest in ****ing other women when you don't have to force it. There is staying loyal becuase it's the right thing to do and then there is staying loyal becuase you really don't want anyone else, and no one else

The whole point of plates.. you don't spin plates for the sake of spinning plates, you do so with purpose. If I can't find another plate that I look forward to being with, or better stated, when I don't want anymore plates because i would rather be with this one, you know you got one.
 

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To me spinning plates gives me a baseline of comparison.

It sounds odd, but I am with other woman for the sake of the one i am most interested in. It keeps me in check and ultimately makes me better with the one in the lead.

I still dont trust that I would realize a good thing if it hit me over the head though...
 

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1) When you are determined to have and raise kids ..

2)... and more importantly when you have the experience and firepower to cherry-pick that one "special" woman from the masses ..

.. knowing she's really of the same fabric as all the rest and that she comes with slight "mods" and "tweaks" to your liking.

Of course there's probably a large spread in terms of their qualities and I am not doing justice to all the high-quality, educated, and dignified women out there, ... but I am assuming I am already fishing from the higher quality portion.
 

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Boilermaker said:
1) When you are determined to have and raise kids ..

2)... and more importantly when you have the experience and firepower to cherry-pick that one "special" woman from the masses ..

.. knowing she's really of the same fabric as all the rest and that she comes with slight "mods" and "tweaks" to your liking.

Of course there's probably a large spread in terms of their qualities and I am not doing justice to all the high-quality, educated, and dignified women out there, ... but I am assuming I am already fishing from the higher quality portion.
lol yeah I need to overclock my new GF lol
 

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Life Is Learning,
When a DJ is thinking of settling to one....The poor fellow is Dilerious,Take him to a Cool,Quiet Darkened Room,place a moist towel on his face and have him lie down for a while,the fit will pass,like a bad dream....Seriously though having lots of DJ's on my Dance Scene some into their seventies,they tend to lose energy and prefer the company of some Woman they have broken in,they see the Plates less regularly and this will go on for a few years,then they drift to another little bollard,for a few more years....That is if they are never stupid enough to let some Woman live with them.
 

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1. When you finally realize that getting laid and surface beauty means nothing.

2. When you realize the things that are truly important to you in a partner.

3. When you become a good enough man to attract and keep a woman like that.

4. When you literally "win the lottery" and find a woman who meets your criteria.

The vast majority of guys seem stuck on #1?
 

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It's not a matter of just "getting bored with f**king other women".

Two things I've found that have kept me single:

1) I want to find a woman who EXPANDS my universe from me being in a committed relationship with her, not one who CONTRACTS it. Many/most common men, when they marry, it becomes a reason to give up the bulk of the things he enjoys in life to "honor a commitment". Why would you even make such a commitment?? I need a woman who enriches me as a person.

2) It's frustrating when you want to f**k someone, but you're bound to a woman's schedule. That's the biggest advantage of "spinning plates"...you're not forced to rely on one woman's wiles for your sexual satisfaction or even your romantic companionship.

Personally, I think that if you have to ask yourself the question, she's probably NOT worth it. Not YET, anyway...don't rule a woman out just because after 3 months or something you haven't formed that "special bond" with her. But when it's time to form a committed pair bond, you should KNOW, you shouldn't have to ASK.
 

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I met my current gf at the peak of my game/plates-spinning. Heck, I didn't even invite her out the first coming weekend after we met because I was already too busy with other girls. The first few weeks we dated I was booked. I mean I would sometime go on 3 consecutive dates: pre-dinner drinks with one chick, dinner and drinks with another, and late evening drinks with a third.

However, after a few weeks, I simply lost interest in spending time with the other chicks. It became a simple equation: I only have so many free hours in a day, who do I want to spend them with? the answer was with my gf, and that's how we started becoming exclusive.
 

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drak_ool said:
However, after a few weeks, I simply lost interest in spending time with the other chicks. It became a simple equation: I only have so many free hours in a day, who do I want to spend them with? the answer was with my gf, and that's how we started becoming exclusive.
And there you go. :p
 

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after 3 years she willingly jumps into bed with you each night and sais "so baby which hole would you like to do tonight ? "
 
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