Originally posted by MindOverMatter
You girls are being too hard on guys. It's not that guys don't know how to read subtle hints, it's that you ladies don't know how to give them properly.
If you want the guy to ask you out, and you wanna hint it, mention how you've been feeling really lonely lately and that you miss having a relationship. That's a subtle hint any guy can read.
Saying you have guys chasing you is not a hint, it's a statement saying that you're pretty well off and don't need another guy.
Perhaps...but likewise...if a guy is showing interest in me while also trying to set up his own little harem as "social proof"...it's a HUGE turn off.
Here's a little story of a guy I went on one date with. I was using an online dating service and he contacted me. He didn't have a picture on his profile so I told him that I don't meet any men who don't first show me what they look like. He sent me a picture and he was attractive so I agreed to meet him. I gave him my number and he called me right away. He had to go to a town a couple hours away that afternoon to have dinner with what he referred to as "some friends", so we were going to meet up at a local bar if he got back early enough.
Well, he called me and I had put my cell down and didn't get to it in time, so I called him right back. He mistook me for someone else and said "What did you, chicken out?" Clearly he was supposed to be meeting some other woman he met online for dinner and she didn't show up. I almost didn't go meet him because of that alone. But I said, well he probably already had that set up, so I'll let it pass. We met at the bar later that night and got along really well. We had a good time and he was pleasantly surprised that I actually looked like the picture he saw. Apparently he had met mostly women who didn't resemble their photos that much. He offered to buy me drinks, but I insisted on buying my own...sodas, as I was driving and am not a big drinker.
So after a couple of hours he said he had to run over to another bar nearby to say hi to his friends. Big red flag popped up right there. He said he'd be back in a half hour. Well, exactly 30 minutes later, I headed out the door. I met him in the parking lot. He asked if he could come to my place to hang out and I said that no, he couldn't. He then said he'd like to get together for lunch the next day. I hesitantly agreed...I say hesitantly because he had already screwed up twice and my patience was wearing thin. He asked me to call him at 11am the next day to set up the time and place. So I call and again, he mistook me for some other woman he was supposed to be meeting right then. I just hung up on him. He called a couple of hours later and I had my teenage daughter answer the phone and tell him I was sleeping. He kept trying to call for about a month and I never picked the phone up or returned his calls. Three stirkes, and he was out. He went from looking attactive to being really gross and nasty.
At least for me...any guy that spreads himself around to many women is just disgusting and dirty. I like my men a bit more choosy and uncontaminated.
