When GF refuses to be considerate??

[JustDoItAlways]

It's actually quite amazing just how many chicks there are out there that are like this.

I call them the "Waste-of-time-game-playing-b1tches." What they want from you is simply to see how many different ways they can mind-fvck you over rather than actually fvck you. Its just a game to them and they simply get a huge kick out of it.

You weren't the first guy she's pulled this sh1t on and you won't be the last.

The only way to win with these WOTGPB1tches is to either:

1. Move on. You can't really win the game the way you want to anyway. or,

2. Just laugh at everything she does as in "you can see right through her bullsh1t little games because they are just so obvious." Literally laugh at her. Make sure she knows you're laughing at her because her games are so obvious. Literally laugh so that it appears to her than you don't really care one way or the other what she does. Call her on them.

When the WOTGPB1tch realizes you have found her out and are pulling away, she literally goes to the ends of the earth to try to re-win you over. That means SHE WILL DO ANYTHING YOU WANT just to get back to playing the game-playing stage she wants to be at. But then, don't fall for her bullsh1t again and you have a little slave around for as long as you want. You have to laugh and you have to not care.

 

[-HPNOTQ-]

Whoa bro...I just finished reading your post and everyone else's reply..

Are you sure you aren't in Seattle?!? sounds just like a girl i was seeing before..hahaha..

Seriously though...you know that you have to move one from this girl...but...It's hard...maybe you didnt have sex with her..but its about more...there's an emotional attachment, psychological need..but you know what...she's not nuturing either of those aspects now...she doesnt deserve a DJ like you..

A lot of the guys are replying and saying you're acting a lil AFC..i have to agree..in your defense..i know being in a LTR turns you that way sometimes..but hell..

look forward..you got your new degree..gonna make some good money..your circle of friends will grow...and so will the opportunites to meet classier women..

Leave the college girls and college head games to your EX and her friends..you've got more game than either of those guys she's 'GOOD FRIENDS'

 

[ShortTimer]

My crystal ball says you're getting dumped. I think next time you talk to her you should say "so, how's your other boyfriend doing?" Just call her on it, tell her you know what's she's doing. One of her "study-mates" is going to be her "fvck-mate." So just come out and ask her which one of them she's dumping you for.

No need to be nice.

 

[-HPNOTQ-]

Short Timer

I gotta agree, yet, dissagree with you.

I agree that my man Fadero is probably at the point of breaking up the relationship. I think he should be the MAN and initiate the break up.

I dissagree that he should call her out on it. What good is that gonna do? Make him feel better? Prove he was right? Prove that she's a lil lying slut for sleeping around with guys he knew about?

Or

Does it confirm to everyone that she has his n*ts in a vice? Yeah, he doesnt need to be nice..you dont have to kiss her ass while she's sleeping around...but...blowing up on her won't help..it won't change anything..

She'll tell her and his circle of friends that he attacked her verbally and he's proving to be a jealous, over-raged slimeball...

Thus, his chances of hooking up with anyone in that circle of friends is gone..

Just be civil...dont have to kiss her ass...dont have to put up with her lies..

If it makes you feel better, sleep with one of her cousins...haha..that's always helped me..haha..jk..

on the real, keep that poker face...being angry and blowing up on someone doesn't help...you don't have time to get pissy at her...you've got plans with other women..

 

[es_mer8]

She'll tell her and his circle of friends that he attacked her verbally and he's proving to be a jealous, over-raged slimeball...

Why would he want to date in his and her ring of friends? Whats to stop her from lying about you? Nothing. This girl is just using you for an ego boost. The fact that you take this **** and she does not give it up makes this relationship not worth it. I would call her on it. Chances are she has done this before and all her life she has probably treated men this way. The fact that you are not physical with her shows that you are nothing more than her *****. She probably is riding on their ****s and you are just sitting idly by with a thumb up your ass.

My advice: Call her out on it and take control. Don't soften your edge. If she seems uncaring, end it. If she genuinely seems to want to change, keep her but this gives you such an upper hand that you will be in control. Just remember, this relationship isn't going to last long with this method because its all she knows but then again, this relationship has maybe a month to it, tops.

 

[ndouchi]

Dear Fadero,

Your girlfriend is very manipulative! Not only is she not considerate of your feelings but she is also trying to make you feel wrong about very justifiable emotions.

Look, mate! You did the right thing by telling her how you felt! I disagree with anyone who says to supress your feelings and play it cool. You can't just play it cool. This is not just a woman you are on a third date with. This is your "girlfriend!" She must know what that word means and she must respect it. When she fails to do so, she is disrespecting you, Fadero.

You did the right thing to tell her how you felt, but you need to do more. You need to stop seeing her! This sounds a little too harsh and a little too hard to do, but you are in a dead relationship, mate! You need someone that will be eager to know how you feel before you even have to express them!

Good luck!

 

[Fadero]

She texted me "Sorry" and when we spoke on the phone we ended up getting into a heated argument again. I kinda rubbed it in her face by saying, "So, do you still believe that you didn't do anything wrong?" That's what made her blow up. LOL But in a sense, I laughed internally. Anyway, she said she was sorry for "the things we talked about." She didn't specifically point out what the apology was about, and in that, I didn't feel the apology was sincere.

I kept my cool this time, and we pretty much put it behind us. I really don't think she'll go out again with those guys or be inconsiderate again. Even after the fights we had about her studying late night at that one guy's house, she had amended to get her studying during reasonable times if she had to study with other people.

But the one thing I am still concerned about is if she really wants to be in this relationship, because the eagerness to be intimate and physical is still not there. It's really on my mind because when we first met, we were hot lovers. This is considered the "second era" in dating her. To clarify we dated before, but for reasons still unknown to me, it fell apart. We then became "best friends" and would always get jealous of each other when either of us would date other people. Then finally, just two months ago, we decided to put aside other people and give ourselves our real chance together. The question though within me, is this really our real chance together?

I feel like she just became my girlfriend because it was more of a make-or-break time, and she knew that if she didn't take initiative on this, then she would lose me as not only her best friend, but also a potential boyfriend.

 

[echo1212]

Dude, we all tried to offer advice on what to do but it is obvious you chose not to listen. So...you will find out the hard way and come crying here very shortly. This girl is not into you, and she never will be. She is using you for who knows what reason. Learn from this after your heart is broken, and believe me, it will be broken.

 

[es_mer8]

Originally posted by echo1212
Dude, we all tried to offer advice on what to do but it is obvious you chose not to listen. So...you will find out the hard way and come crying here very shortly. This girl is not into you, and she never will be. She is using you for who knows what reason. Learn from this after your heart is broken, and believe me, it will be broken.

I agree. She says this now but chances are she won't stop her ways. At the very best, she will stop seeing them for 2-3 weeks until her ****buddies call her out on why she isn't talking to them and within days, it will be back to how it was. Obviously, you are heading down a path of inevitable failure but its your life. You better start looking for other girls.

 

[Monkey]

Listen to these guys Fadero!

This is the type of girl who will say sorry then sneak around behind your back. You may never find out and go along naively thinking shes into you while she hanging out in some nightclubs with other guys.

Any girl that thinks you're trying to control her, yes she should know better and yes she IS being inconsiderant but in her own world, from her point of view, shes right and you are trying to control her. She'll start viewing you like her dad, and it'll be exciting to break some of the guildlines you've 'agreed' on.

You need someone who will not want to do these things, not want to go out with strange guys to clubs.

You can't control this girl but you can control what you are comfortable with. You're obviously not happy about her behavour so IMO you should end this now...before she does break your heart.

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Originally posted by Fadero

I kept my cool this time, and we pretty much put it behind us. I really don't think she'll go out again with those guys or be inconsiderate again.

You really don't think so? hahahaha, man I want some of what you're smoking

You'll be back here in a couple of weeks/months saying "How could I have been so stupid". Guaranteed.

Next.

 

[Igor]

Ah well, there are some things we have to learn for ourselves... I hope it won't be too painful for you, though

 

[trevjr]

Hope you see this. I had a girlfriend and at the beginning she would make plans with her girlfriends and then ask me if I wanted to come along. I always told her no because I thought that I should come first. We were living together at the time.
A few weeks later at a party, I could see her flirting with this guy. She came over and asked me if I was jealous, I told her no and she said she should be able to talk to other men. Fine. Later at the party I could not find her. Someone finally told me she had gone to the guy's house to get musical instruments! Although she had gone with her girlfriend when she came back I took her outside and let her have it. She tried to say that 'I thought I told you', but I told her if she wanted to be single she should do it. Then I left her ass right there. An hour later she shows up at my door crying. She made her friends wait because she didn't think I would open the door. Later my friend that gave her a ride told me she cried all the way to my house. Guess what? She never did that crap again.
In my opinion you need to tell her that you are not going to permit her to go out with other guys by herself. She was clever trying to say her 'classmates'. You should have told her that if she was going it would be over between you. You have to make a stand and not let woman treat you like that. What do you think she was telling the other guys? ' I sorta have a boyfriend'?
Look I know you kept your cool, but some things you just have to get mad about. In a way I think woman want a guy that is a little possessive. She might have been testing you unconsciously.
I had to tell my girl that she had to make a choice between being single and in a relationship and that she could not have it both ways. We lasted 2 1/2 more years after I but my foot down and I had no more problems like this.

 

[golf299]

you just have to ask yourself this: is this girl making my life more enjoyable? from your posts, i would say 'no'. i think you know what you have to do.