oneboy21
Senior Don Juan
How you guys deal
Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
This. I learned it the hard way with one chick who went brought her ex up in nearly every damn conversation. It took me longer than it should have to realize that she just wanted someone to listen to her whining and didn't have any real interest in me at all. Ah well, live and learn.Buddha_Mind said:If she refuses to stop blabbing about it, clearly she's got some **** she hasn't dealt with and you ought to find a chick more emotionally available!
Then don't waste another minute on her.oneboy21 said:This chick mentioned about her ex while testing and she also texts telling me they are going to a party for new year eve. She also tells we were dating for a longtime and he always make me laugh!
According to Pook, the difference was between feelings and actions. If a girl talks about feelings, the girl is attached to the guy. If a girl talks about the boyfriend’s actions then you can take action.jafyk said:If you read the "The Book of Pook" you will learn that a chick talking about her bf is often an insight as to what is going on in that relationship. Listen to what or how she talks about him. If she's saying good things about him etc then she's not interested in you. If she's saying bad things about him then she's hinting at wanting you to rescue her.
You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I swing the conversation away from it and if they swing back to it more than once after that (I operate on a 2 strikes rule, not including the playful warning) I cut the outing short and bounce. If they want to talk about the ex that means they want you to be their tampon. They have gay friends for that.oneboy21 said:How you guys deal
Well, she's not interested and seems happy with her relationship. Now you know not to waste your time. You move on.oneboy21 said:This is what she said
"Yeah should be fun, we dated for years I see him a lot. He makes me laugh which is good"