When A Woman Says This, What Does She Mean?

[OC Speedball]

Womanspeak or not, it rings true. From a man's perspective, the opposite rings true too. A lot of "women" (or should I say sluts) these days (your "HB9s" and "10s" with the fake DD cup tits) are perfect for one night stands and casual lays. Any ugly, uneducated Pickup Artists could lay them and forget them the next day. The way I see it, sex is easier than love. Love's a whole other thing. I risk sounding AFC, but it takes work. And when it's done right, love is the most beautiful thing on earth. I'd even go so far as to say that as much as any "player" denies it, it's what he's truly after. Casual sex and relationships based on lust only take you so far. I agree with the women on this. Any average looking guy (Mystery/Style) could lay the finest of sluts for just a night. Ask them to maintain a relationship with one and watch the failure unfold. Real men get the real women. Real men keep women worth keeping.

No. I disagree with you 100%.

As I said, any average schmuck can get into a long term relationship. It just happens naturally. My best friend has never gamed a girl in his life, and he has never even approached a girl. Yet some girl approached him at a party in 2008 and they have been in love since. Same thing happened to my cousin, except he wasn't approached at a party, he was approached at church. I know other guys that went to my high school that are AFCs, yet they have had girlfriends.

It's easy to sit back, be yourself, and wait for it to happen. It is true that you can "just be yourself" and get girls... but if you do that you're only going to have a few girlfriends in your whole life.

The main reason a pick up artist wouldn't be able to get into a long term relationship is because of the girls they go for. Girls at clubs/bars are trashier and less likely to become girlfriend material than "the girl next door."

Bottom line is: look around you. There are guys from all walks of life in long term relationships. But there are not many guys who are truly players.

 

[penkitten]

"Any guy can be a player, but it takes a real man to hold a relationship."

this is a shaming method for the last guy she dated to see and "feel" badly about himself that he couldn't "treat her right" and be some happily ever after story.
this is a popular trend on facebook. everyone is quoting someone else that used it. all thinking they are unique even when they copy and paste it. i've even seen it show up in "status shuffle".

what i find scary is that it is acceptable just to blame others for your failed relationships without taking any responsibility even on a site where people that know you in real life can interact with you.... how the hell are you going to pretend that you had nothing to do with the "failed relationship" when people have seen what you have done in real life also read your posts on your page?

facebook was not around when i was single. if it was and i posted a opposing sentence like "make coffee on your way out!" - my friends would have shamed me because i didn't want a relationship with everyone i met. and don't think i wasn't shamed by close friends at the time, i just didn't care what they "thought" of me all that much. if i felt that i wasn't going to handle a relationship very well because of things going on in my life or if i didnt hit it off with someone well enough to form a relationship, i avoided it. i am better off for it.
i am happily married now, and i didnt have to pressure someone into it by shaming them. the people i know that have pressured someone into marrying them and shamed them, they are unhappy if they are still married or they are unhappy and divorced.

 

[zekko]

There are guys from all walks of life in long term relationships. But there are not many guys who are truly players.

Speaking for myself, I found it much, much easier to take a girl out and get some sex from her than to find a good woman willing to devote her life to you.

To find a good LTR, you have to find a girl who is worthy of the position and who meets your standards and qualifications. That alone can be very hard to find. Then you have to be man enough that she will WANT to be with you, and you exclusively. You have to be able to find her, attract her, and then KEEP her. By definition, this is more difficult than getting a one night stand.

How many average schmucks have girls coming up and throwing themselves at them? You can't just throw two people together and make a successful LTR. Although apparently some guys are willing to settle for whatever first comes up to them.

I agree that "true players" are rare. But I think one reason for this is that very few guys aspire to be a "true player". Most guys just want to get laid, or be able to attract some girls that they like. On the other hand, a lot of people have a goal of (eventually, at least) getting into a LTR. That's one reason they are so common.

IMO, to aspire to be a "true player" is putting too much emphasis on women.

As for what the girl meant, I honestly don't care.

 

[DonGorgon]

she is saying, "you can F me but you can have me all to your self ever cause i am a dedicated ho!"

 

[TheJazz]

Speaking for myself, I found it much, much easier to take a girl out and get some sex from her than to find a good woman willing to devote her life to you.

To find a good LTR, you have to find a girl who is worthy of the position and who meets your standards and qualifications. That alone can be very hard to find. Then you have to be man enough that she will WANT to be with you, and you exclusively. You have to be able to find her, attract her, and then KEEP her. By definition, this is more difficult than getting a one night stand.

How many average schmucks have girls coming up and throwing themselves at them? You can't just throw two people together and make a successful LTR. Although apparently some guys are willing to settle for whatever first comes up to them.

I agree that "true players" are rare. But I think one reason for this is that very few guys aspire to be a "true player". Most guys just want to get laid, or be able to attract some girls that they like. On the other hand, a lot of people have a goal of (eventually, at least) getting into a LTR. That's one reason they are so common.

IMO, to aspire to be a "true player" is putting too much emphasis on women.

As for what the girl meant, I honestly don't care.

The master Don Juan speaks. My sentiments exactly.