When a woman asks you what your job is even before you get familiar

[HaleyBaron]

It is a **** question like she's interviewing you. So I always give **** responses.

"CIA."
"Porn star."
"I'm the reason those towers with pulsing lights at night exist."

etc etc.

 

[corrector]

He got one checkmark for being white and the second checkmark is what job he has. The only two things most women care about. If he did not meet the woman in person or she knew how he looked like then she would ask about his background.

 

[zekko]

Can we please delete the whole pop psychology advice: “Ask people questions. They love to talk about themselves.”
That might be true for extroverts, but they try to make it sound likes it’s universally true.
As an introvert, I hate talking about myself in real life.

I don't know, I'm an introvert, but I don't think I'm immune to that effect. Really, rather than talk about myself, what I like to talk about are things that interest me. The strong thing about introverts though is that we make good listeners.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

also as a black man, I think the bar for me is pretty low regarding employment so I rarely get asked it lol.

 

[forcerecon01]

also as a black man, I think the bar for me is pretty low regarding employment so I rarely get asked it lol.

I'm a disabled vet and that turns women off too. I guess I could work but I don't need to or really want to.

 

[BadWatermelon]

A lot of women seem to ask me what I do within the first five minutes of meeting me. I usually just tell them quickly and then change the subject.

I still need to do some more experimenting to figure out how they respond exactly, but I work in tech and I've had a few respond by saying something like "oh, you probably make good money!" I usually try to downplay it and make it sound like it's not that lucrative but I'm not sure how that gets interpreted.

 

[DonJuanjr]

I'm a disabled vet and that turns women off too. I guess I could work but I don't need to or really want to.

Can't have the best genes when you're disabled. Doesn't matter if it's caused by war. You're disabled= inferior genetics...

 

[forcerecon01]

Can't have the best genes when you're disabled. Doesn't matter if it's caused by war. You're disabled= inferior genetics...

says who? Being disabled is not a bad stigma or even a stigma that should exist.

 

[DonJuanjr]

says who? Being disabled is not a bad stigma or even a stigma that should exist.

You say it turns women off, I'm guessing that's why... No it shouldn't be a stigma, neither should being short or bald...

 

[Von]

When you date Japanese women heres the 3 questions she'll start with:
1. Where you from
2. What you do
3. How much money you make

As per my previous post, turn this into a "joke" "fun moment" .

So if you going to answer her, make your job look like an adventure of fun

 

[RangerMIke]

I never get asked about my job. I don’t know if that’s good or bad.
Either they don’t think this will last…so why bother. Or they’re all about themselves. Or it’s irrelevant to them as they’re into me no matter what. Or they just want the D…too many reasons. I just roll with it.

Same... but the truth is that if you know my name and where I live, you can look me up on Linked In and get my resume'. You can also do a "My Life" search and get an estimate of my personal wealth.... in addition to reputation score. There are background check services that can peal your life like an artichoke... If you don't think women get together and pay for this service that they all use to spy you out and know a lot about you.

When you meet a woman and make a date, the 'chick network' kicks into action and they are going to dig until they get a picture of who you are. After the date, they all get together on the phone and dissect how the date went.

When questions like this come up, I usually think it's a 'test' to see if I'm going to tell the truth about what she already knows. Either that, or she didn't care enough about me to check me out.

You can't get ticked about stuff like this... it's just women being women. You just have to be who you are, don't try to be something you aren't and not let any of this bother you.

 

[SW15]

Same... but the truth is that if you know my name and where I live, you can look me up on Linked In and get my resume'. You can also do a "My Life" search and get an estimate of my personal wealth.... in addition to reputation score. There are background check services that can peal your life like an artichoke... If you don't think women get together and pay for this service that they all use to spy you out and know a lot about you.

When questions like this come up, I usually think it's a 'test' to see if I'm going to tell the truth about what she already knows. Either that, or she didn't care enough about me to check me out.

You can't get ticked about stuff like this... it's just women being women. You just have to be who you are, don't try to be something you aren't and not let any of this bother you.

You can take your information out of the search results on that for sites like My Life and you can limit your public LinkedIn profile.

In a lot of cases, women don't actually need to ask questions like this because they can do Google searches. I've Google searched women before and viewed their social media in early stages.

When you meet a woman and make a date, the 'chick network' kicks into action and they are going to dig until they get a picture of who you are. After the date, they all get together on the phone and dissect how the date went.

Young women are barely able to use a telephone for voice conversation. The amount of phone conversation phobia I've seen in the Millennial generation in the past decade is astounding. I feel like you're overstating this. I've even seen phone conversation phobic men.

 

[RangerMIke]

Young women are barely able to use a telephone for voice conversation. The amount of phone conversation phobia I've seen in the Millennial generation in the past decade is astounding. I feel like you're overstating this. I've even seen phone conversation phobic men.

You can text on a phone.... which is apparently how younger people prefer to communicate.

 

[DonJuanjr]

You can't get ticked about stuff like this... it's just women being women. You just have to be who you are, don't try to be something you aren't and not let any of this bother you.

So pretty much just take the lumps of her disinterested as soon as you tell her the truth, and pay for wasted drinks. Until one can get good enough to see her demeanor change, and know that she's rejecting you due to your answer. Then you can just say "obviously we aren't vibing, so I'm going to pay for my portion of the bill and leave."

 

[espanish]

I find this question rude and immediately cut contact if this is asked abruptly at the beginning
one time I told this milf something like "wow so pretty. would you like to get to know each other?"
she says "first, what is your occupation?"
I trolled her with "I am an unemployed loser"
very rude
of course as part of socializing we ask what the person does, it's the abrupt approach that pisses me off

 

[RangerMIke]

I find this question rude and immediately cut contact if this is asked abruptly at the beginning
one time I told this milf something like "wow so pretty. would you like to get to know each other?"
she says "first, what is your occupation?"
I trolled her with "I am an unemployed loser"
very rude
of course as part of socializing we ask what the person does, it's the abrupt approach that pisses me off

Okay that is rude... but this coming up in casual conversation is just part of getting to know someone. Like it or not, we are what we do for a living. I personally don't care what someone does for a living or what they make as long as they are willing to live within their means and they don't HATE what they do.

Nothing bothers me more than a person sitting around b1tching about their job. When I hear this I always ask, "Well, what are you doing about that?" If you really don't like what you do just "Say, my job pays the bills, but I'm working on moving into....." That is real character. Anyone that just up and judges you on what you do for a living it's really worth your time.

 

[espanish]

Okay that is rude... but this coming up in casual conversation is just part of getting to know someone. Like it or not, we are what we do for a living. I personally don't care what someone does for a living or what they make as long as they are willing to live within their means and they don't HATE what they do.

Nothing bothers me more than a person sitting around b1tching about their job. When I hear this I always ask, "Well, what are you doing about that?" If you really don't like what you do just "Say, my job pays the bills, but I'm working on moving into....." That is real character. Anyone that just up and judges you on what you do for a living it's really worth your time.

they are not judging you for what you do, they are gold diggers. they want to know if you have your house paid off and if you will buy them gucci handbags.

 

[Mike32ct]

The most “gold digging” question I ever got from random women (I just met) was “What kind of car do you drive?”

One was a random chick I met on a plane. The other was (understandably) at the casino.

 

[2Rocky]

 

[Murk]

I tell them straight up I quit my job, started my own firm and now I’m top g. It does help having a job you’re proud of and that actually adds value (being a business owner). I have no social media so they easily find me on LinkedIn wearing a suit with the word Director. I always see random women popping up on my “who viewed you” section, it does put me off when women start stalking. I can see why some men hate the question and don’t like talking about their job, the correct response would be to step your life game up, surely?

HR does have not the power to hire you. HR does have the power to screen you out. Yes, this approach is indicative of a woman looking to screen you out.

HR does have the power to hire you, because recruitment and Talent Aquisition fall under HR, it’s literally their job.