When a guy tries to steal my girl

[Straydog]

My girlfriend and I have been seeing eachother for 1 month now.
Everything is great, we're still high on eachother which is cool.

Trouble is, we can only see eachother 2 weekends per month.

Girlfriend has moved to a new town. She doesn't have any friends there though there is one guy at work who's interested in her.
He whine about his problems in life to her.
He takes her bowling with his friends.

Girlfriend is not interested in him and I am not worried.
But I am annoyed though.

If I let my guard down, if things screw up between us then the guy will be right there to take over.
Like a f****** vulture

On one hand I need to play it cool and not act jealous.
On the other hand I have to know where to draw a line.

Where do I draw the line???

 

[Sasha]

Originally posted by Straydog
Trouble is, we can only see eachother 2 weekends per month.

Girlfriend has moved to a new town.

You need to forget about her mate! Long distance relationships are plain trouble!

 

[aftershock]

Re: Re: When a guy tries to steal my girl

Originally posted by Sasha
You need to forget about her mate! Long distance relationships are plain trouble!

I agree.

A LDR can work - if you've been going out a while and still plan to see each other regulary.

You've been seeing her a month so forget her.

Go bang some other girls.

 

[STICKMAN]

I get the feeling you really like this girl.

But if you can only see each other a couple a times a month thats goin to put a huge strain on the both of you.

She will get closer to her work friend since she see's him everyday.

Your in a tough situation my advice would be keep seeing her a couple of times a month and work increasing your social circle of female friends and work on finding someone you can see anytime you want....

 

[pimpfromdayone]

Well pal, that's just tough shi-t. If she is hot, you better get used to other guys hitting on her, it comes with the territory. If you can't handle it, find a less attractive girl, and quit being so territorial and clingy, it will screw you up and she will leave you if you act like this around her. You don't own her, and the more you try to protect your relationship, the more you will push her away. Be cool man, just relax, and if she is flirting with these other guys to somehow affect you or put a hold on you or make you jealous, do it right back to her: flirt with other girls, then she'll cut the crap so fast it'll make your head spin. I have to ask though, what is the point in a LDR? There are so many other girls I don't see much purpose in it unless of course you have been dating a long time.

 

[flexion_]

The problem here is the distance not some other guy trying to hit on your GF. Remember that...

 

[Straydog]

Thanks for the advice all

Ofcourse I'm not going to break up with her. It might be more sane and rational to do but come on guys..
Do you really expect my break-ups to be dictated by an anonomous internet forum?
Why give up a great sex life and the rush of being in the beginning of a relationship just because breaking up is more in accordance with the DJ bible...

I'll work on getting to see her more often

I won't give a damn if the vulture guy hits on her. Or any other guy

If relationship ends then I wont be too shocked or sad. That's just the way it is

 

[Blatant truth]

Your one month LDR is garbage and doomed to failure because you won't be able to keep her interest level up.

Especially after so short a time and only seeing her two weekends a month.

Ofcourse I'm not going to break up with her. It might be more sane and rational to do but come on guys..
Do you really expect my break-ups to be dictated by an anonomous internet forum?

Don't ask for advice then...

Guaranteed this fool will be back next month or so...

"My girl cheated on me, what do I do". Some people need to learn the hard way.

 

[STICKMAN]

Blatant Truth i think you just told him the Blatant Truth.........

 

[JonJack]

Originally posted by STICKMAN
Blatant Truth i think you just told him the Blatant Truth.........

That's what happens when people ask questions that they already have an answer for, just for the sake of trying to get someone to tell them what they want to hear.

 

[Black_Italian]

You must do what you have to. Break into the guys house and while hes sleeping pull out your penis and slap him with it.

Ninja out

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Straydog

Girlfriend has moved to a new town. She doesn't have any friends there though there is one guy at work who's interested in her.
He whine about his problems in life to her.
He takes her bowling with his friends.

Girlfriend is not interested in him and I am not worried.
But I am annoyed though.

He's not a threat. Just chill.

BTW...the others are right...long-distance crap just does NOT work.

 

[Black_Italian]

Yeh 2 times a month i don't see it working. Atleast once a week minimum for a GF.

Ninja out

 

[NaturallySelected]

Originally posted by Straydog

On one hand I need to play it cool and not act jealous.
On the other hand I have to know where to draw a line.

Where do I draw the line???

I tried to steal this guys girlfriend. They had a similar situation with some differences.

1) They could only see each other every second weekend.

2) They spoke to each other on the phone every day.

3) In a sense they had a long distance relationship. They were only an hour away from each other, but neither of them had their own transport. Which is why they saw each other so little.

4) They were dating for a year before she met me.

5) He was the first guy she ever had sex with (which made her attachment even stronger to him)

To cut a long story short, I tried to steal this guys girlfriend. It didn't work, at least not right away. The main reason (as I found out two years later) was that she loved me and didn't want to leave her BF unless she knew I loved her. That was the only reason, she wasn't really that happy with him. She also had that bond with him because she lost her virginity.

I ended up "failing" at stealing her BF (although I now see what I could have done to succeed back then).

She did tell her BF when she was with me, in the beginning. But she did eventually start lying to him (because he got jealous about it) and she and I did make out a lot (never had sex though).

My advice to you? Meet this guy that is trying to hook up with your GF, if you don't think your GF would go for him, then stop being paranoid.

If he seems even remotely attractive, move on to someone else. You have only been with this girl for a month and she is going to be spending more time with this guy than with you.

 

[Straydog]

To put a closure on this thread..

You need to forget about her mate! Long distance relationships are plain trouble!

You've been seeing her a month so forget her.

what is the point in a LDR? There are so many other girls I don't see much purpose in it unless of course you have been dating a long time.

BTW...the others are right...long-distance crap just does NOT work.

If he seems even remotely attractive, move on to someone else. You have only been with this girl for a month and she is going to be spending more time with this guy than with you.

You guys crack me up. Look at what kind of advice is given on this forum!
It's like this: In the "tips section" you can go and mentally masturbate over your own (superior??) male gender. It's as if "being a man" is nothing more than
- admitting to yourself that you're a horney bastard (ie. embracing your sexuallity)
- Being capable of walking away from a situation and acting with indifference and/or hostility towards rejection.

So you so-called "Men", "pimps" "DJ's".., the ONLY f****** advice you can give to anyone who's feeling unsure about his relationship in any given way is this: Dump the girl. Like a spineless coward. Just turn and run away with your tail behind your legs 'cause God forbid you would actually try and fail.

Hell I will always choose trying and failing over being a coward who walks away from something good because he's afraid his feelings might get hurt if he tries to be a better person to someone he cares for.

You on the other hand, will run away from a potential good relationship the minute you sense it might not work out. 'Cause you're afraid of your inflated ego's being hurt in the process.
So I guess it's alot better to go bang some random girl.
Yeah have fun doing that.
Be a male slut, I've been there..

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[Straydog]

Your one month LDR is garbage and doomed to failure because you won't be able to keep her interest level up.

Especially after so short a time and only seeing her two weekends a month.

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Ofcourse I'm not going to break up with her. It might be more sane and rational to do but come on guys..
Do you really expect my break-ups to be dictated by an anonomous internet forum?
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Don't ask for advice then...

Guaranteed this fool will be back next month or so...

"My girl cheated on me, what do I do". Some people need to learn the hard way

I didn't ask if I should break up with her Fool. Why don't you read the post before posting

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

I ended up "failing" at stealing her BF

lol... that came out gay..

 

[pimpfromdayone]

Funny how you make a post and then argue with the people who replied, as if you already had all the answers. It is not about ego my friend, it is about being independent and not settling for 2nd best. It is not cowardly to run away from hopeless situations, it just makes sense. Since when have we embraced the idea of quitting before we even tried? Noone said you should try, they are just reminding you that YOU have the power in this situation and you should act accordingly. If anything, it is much weaker to try to force women to be in relationships with us when they don't want to. It is said that some men take it too far and feel powerful by walking away from every woman, even within minutes, but that is not what it is about.

 

[akindofblue]

Depends on what kind of girl you have, too. If she's a classy girl who keeps her commitments, then you have a whole lot less to fear.

You did say that you all were having sex within a month into the relationship, which would indicate that she may not be the girl who is going to place her loyalty above her momentary desires.

I've got a girl friend who I hang out with. Another guy tried making moves on her, and while she was friendly with hm, she'd do things like call her boyfriend in front of him (in a group) and tell him that she missed hm and loved him. The other guy backed out.

If your girl is like that, don't worry. If not, well, it makes things more difficult.

 

[pimpfromdayone]

I just love it when the girl tells you she has a bf right from the beginning.... saves me a lot of wasted effort, saves her any trouble, what a great way for a woman to behave.