When a girl's BEST FRIEND turns into your WORST ENEMY

[STR8UP]

Your girl absolutely ADORES you. She would spend every waking minute with you (often at the expense of sleep), buys you things, you can even see her planning your future together in her mind.

But lo and behold, she has a best friend who is either A) jealous of her catch, or B) can't stand the thought of having less time to spend with her friend (or both), and inevitably will try to turn your girl against you.

This is the second time I've had a woman fall absolutely head-over-heels for me just to be forced to put up with her best friend turning into a wicked witch and trying to stir up sh!t.

Some examples-
-Last night the three of us were going to eat at a restaurant about a block away. My girl goes to get into the car with me, her friend throws attitude.

-My girl feels she needs to lie to the friend about seeing me, doing things with me, whatever, because her friend always gives her sh!t about her moving too fast with me. They stayed at my place one night last weekend. I set up the sofa for the friend. My girl wouldn't sleep in the bed with me because her friend would be disappointed in her. Funny thing is the friend (who likes MY friend) stated to my girl that if she (the friend) had been "occupied" with my friend that night, she wouldn't have given a rats ass what my girl did. Pretty fukked up, and I told my girl exactly what I thought.

-In the past I had an LTR with a best friend who HATED me, for absolutely no reason other than her losing "best friend time". It was ridiculous. So bad that I didn't even like being in the same room as this girl.

Anyone else have the same problem?

 

[Ashlee Angel]

I kind of had that problem but talking to the best friend one on one for almost an hour. Everything was cool after that.


It sounds like her friend is a dyke. Her friend makes it seem like your gf is her woman.

It also sounds like her friend needs some other friends and needs to get a life.

It's hard to say what I would do if I was in your situation.

You could do a few things.

A. Talk to the friend one on one and see how that goes.

B. Tell your gf that your dating me not your friend

C. Try to work out times when she can spend time with her friend so she doesn't have to lie. Because lieing is silly in this case.

It's up to you.

 

[Slickster]

Oh yeah. Been in this position a couple of times too.

It can really suck if you let it get too out of hand. Theres no telling what kind of poisonous thoughts her friends can instill in her mind.

I've had a 5 year LTR that ended in a similar way. My girl started hanging with her best friend more and more cuz the friend was always complaining about my girl spending all her time with me.

Soon enough problems started forming out of nowhere and eventually broke up.

I know that my girl wasn't worth it in the end. To allow her friend to get between us was really lame. If she was unhappy before this incident she sure didn't show it. And if she was, she could have communicated to me the problems and things would have been fixed.

Anyways. I think even if your girls friend is a total hag you should at least try to make the peace.

However you do it your girls friends can be your biggest allies.

They'll build you up even when you're not there. Kind of like having money invested in the bank. It works for you.

 

[Quick]

When they make trouble just out of jealously, there's really nothing you can do. You have to talk to your girlfriend about it, and be a lot more mature than the friend. If you're obviously in the right, and she likes you enough, she'll pick you over the friend.

The only thing that'll get the friend to stop is for her to get her own life, specifically her own boyfriend. Is your friend willing to giver her a chance?

 

[XANEUS]

Befriend her friend. If you have to, invite both of them out with you sometimes.

 

[STR8UP]

See, the friend does like me, but she isn't gettin any herself so she has nothing better to do than try to drag my girl down with her. And I told my girl exactly that- that her friend wasn't doing her any favors, in fact she was only looking for company for her misery.

If I could hook her friend up I doubt I would still have the problem. My friend doesn't want anything to do with her, unfortunately. Can't say I blame him....

Anyone want a chunky 19 yr. old?

 

[Quick]

Ever seen "Deliver us from Eva"

You need to find a good looking guy with low morals, and pay him a thousand dollars or so to keep the friend occupied.

And then there's the ever popular "kidnap friend and lock her in your basement" strategy.

 

[hitop]

What I find interesting in these situations is this, post 1960's women are the ones who have adopted the "I'm independent, I don't need a man, I can make my own decisions", blah..blah..blah type of rhetoric.

Ok, I see the point. But, when it comes down to it I've noticed that women are incredibly influenced by GF's and family to the point of me saying, "are you fycking serious?". I mean, a lot of women I've met will disagree with me just for the sake of doing it. Like if I say that this is red she'll say it's blue, if I say it's hot she'll say it's cold. Shyt like that.

I guess that's their way of remaining independent, only self reinforced around men. But if their GF's or family suggest that they break up with you or that you do not measure up to their ignorant measuring stick, she will oblige like a non-thinking automaton. Uh, what happened to all the talk about independence? But more importantly, I believe that if you're with a certain woman that's worth her weight in gold, she'll tell her GF to take a long walk on a short pier if she gives her a hard time about seeing you.

 

[SamePendo]

If your prey is healthy, and her best friend is nuts, she will always go for you (supposing you are sane).
If she doesnt go for you, supposing you are ¨sane¨, take it as if she failed YOUR test.

 

[Player_Supreme]

Yeah, I feel you on that. Once I got into a fight with a friends best friend/roommate. We were dirty dancing at a nice club. The biatch looked over at us and said "that's discusting"....later it escalated into a loud yelling match....I told her that's why her ass is alone...my girl jump on her best friend...

I also remember when I first started seeing this one her little phillapeano friend had trouble with me and I had to shut her down and put her back in her place.

I don't hesitate to tell the friends directly to shut the f*uck up and grow up....earns their respect also as well as your girls....if she is into you then she will stand by your side.

The part you posted about her lying to her friend and not wanting to sleep with you...that kinda shyt makes my blood boil. I like being number 1 in their lives and I will not settle for anything else...yeah I really mean it...I don't care what others say about ego this or that....

I want them the old fashioned way.