When a girl leads you on......

[REPEM]

and has you believing you're gonna get some, then stops answering your phone calls and stops talking to you. Then she goes around bragging about how badly you want her while she was fully flirting (and more) getting you to think there was something more.

How do you deal with this? Do you just move on like nothing happened or call her out on her BS?

 

[Jay Dee]

You know it.
Move on to someone who respects you.

 

[REPEM]

Im moving on either way, but I feel this urge to call her out on her BS

I asked her when she was free to hang out and she said she'd let me know. This was 2 weeks ago and she never got back to me, but instead decided to join my game on XBL and play games with me online lol. I feel like saying "soooo are you ever gonna get back to me when you're free or do you just like to lead guys on?" and hear what ever silly response she can muster up

 

[AMDG]

I feel this urge to call her out on her BS

It's pointless and will only please her.

 

[horaholic]

If you call her out, do it tactfully, or you look like a douchebag. Do it in a funny way if at all, but it really is pointless, and she will get off on it.

 

[Kari]

I feel like saying "soooo are you ever gonna get back to me when you're free or do you just like to lead guys on?" and hear what ever silly response she can muster up

Don't do that, it will make you look super desperate. Just stop talking with her and go after someone else.

 

[Robert28]

it took me a long time to learn how to deal with girls that do this but i finally figured it out. it would bother me to no end when they'd go around telling everyone the way she did, but it only makes you look dumb when you run around trying to cover it up. let her go tell whoever she wants her version. if those people ask you about it, just say something like "let her think what she wants it's her loss not mine". just don't care. there is such a thing as karma, trust me, and someone will do the same thing to her oneday i promise you. that'll be all the revenge you need. i've seen it happen so many times i've lost count. it will bit her in the @$$ oneday, worse then it bit you.

 

[hansol]

You know when you're driving your car, and you call some wanker a **** cause he cut you off, and then you both go about your merry ways? That's about how much sway you have over this girl.

We guys tend to overestimate our importance in a chick's life. We really aren't anything more than some random "driver" she encounters that day. When we call them out on their ****, it's the same as the example above, and holds about as much sway. If anything, it tends to re-affirm her abilities to toy with guys.

So just move on and ignore it. She's a selfish ninny, you just dodged having to waste more time on a selfish ninny, so all in all it's a win for you. She got her rocks off toying with you, you avoided being with a juvenile she-devil. Karma does happen, and she will be on the losing end.

 

[Igetit!]

and has you believing you're gonna get some, then stops answering your phone calls and stops talking to you. Then she goes around bragging about how badly you want her while she was fully flirting (and more) getting you to think there was something more.

If some chick did this to you,then that means that there's a weakness in YOU somewhere,and she found that weakness and exploited it to pump up her own ego.



You said that she "LED" you on to believing that you were going to "get some". Well she can't "lead you" anywhere to believe anything unless you WILLINGLY followed.




Something about you let her know that you could easily be taken advantage of by using your OWN SEXUAL DESIRE against you.



So basically she was never interested in you at all,or maybe she was initially,that is until she saw how easily it was to control you.




Have you ever seen someone hold a piece of food or some type of doggy treat over a dog's head and have the dog standing on it's hind legs? They'll make the dog walk on two leg's for a while,have it twirling around in circles,make the dog bark,and all kinds of tricks.




That's how some girls are with their sexuality.



They'll hold it over a guy's head just out of reach to make him do all kinds of things he probably wouldn't normally do,and it's all for the girl's ego and amusement.



It's one thing for the girl to try to do this to you,and if she actually suceeded in doing it,then you have something somewhere within YOURSELF that needs to be adressed.

How do you deal with this? Do you just move on like nothing happened or call her out on her BS?

I agree with AMDG.

This girl is an attention wh0re...with YOU. You running up to her and calling her out will only give her more attention.



I mean if you did call her out,what would you say....what,that she's a bad person who shouldn't treat people like that?




The lure of sex is a POWERFUL WEAPON that women have. All she's going to do is just be on the lookout for the next weak guy who comes along in order to sucker him.



I say to just forget about her and go strengthen yourself so the next potential AW won't be able to do this to you.

 

[REPEM]

Thanks for the replies everyone, I really appreciate it.

 

[Dubh]

I asked her when she was free to hang out and she said she'd let me know.
never ask when your free you tell her when your free.but u messed up b4 this so its even harder to reframe the relationship
plz read the dj bible

 

[jophil28]

I asked her when she was free to hang out and she said she'd let me know.

When are you rookies going to learn HOW to set up a date or a meeting ?
The way that you worded the invite placed her on a pedestal...not so good at all.
Your feeble attempt to entice her to "hang out" with you (above) reeks of lonely desperation. You come off as someone who is besotted by her to the extent that you will wait until "Her Royalness" deems you worthy of a spot in her itinerary.
IF I were a chick I would not get back to you either.

MEN! Learn to lead women with boldness and by taking risks. Be firm, be definite and be decisive and PLAN a date or an outing before you open that gibbering chasm just below your nose.
Women EXPECT men to take charge and make decisions, and rightly so.

Carry on, soldiers.

 

[REPEM]

This girl texted me saying she has a new phone #

Im tempted to reply back saying "Why send me your new number when you dont pick up my calls any way" lol. But I wont do that.

 

[Joe Stud]

Dont do it, dont let your frustrations show. Be composed, confident, like being with you is "where its at". who knows, maybe her, or one of her gf's will approach you. either way, it's good practice.

 

[f283000]

This girl texted me saying she has a new phone #

Im tempted to reply back saying "Why send me your new number when you dont pick up my calls any way" lol. But I wont do that.

You are letting the afc in you get the best of you. Just remember that if you do reproach her for leading you on she will be laughing HER ARSE OFF AT YOU! And she will probably be telling all her girlfriends about the chump that got mad because she didn't answer his calls!

Is this what you want? Of course not. Do what any masculine man does when disrespected. Get rid of her cell, get rid of her facebook or whatever else you have her on and erase her from your life. Don't initiate contact with her every again. It's that simple.