when a girl is too comfortable around you

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I met a girl and she was super friendly in a class we both take, but by 2nd time I saw her again that week she was just VERY talkative with me and acting super comfortable.

Is this a bad sign? I don't know... I feel like when people act like this they just see you as a "friend" even though I've only seen her twice. I figure I'll just ask her out next week but just psychologically I wonder what this means
 

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Stop overthinking it, just ask her out next time you see her and things will be clear. Her being comfortable around you is not a bad thing, but to stay out of the 'friend zone' you need to initiate/escalate with her. She sounds interested enough so just shoot your shot.
 

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Don't put pressure on yourself, suggest rather than asking point blank. "That's funny, we should talk about it over some dinner, you hungry?" Keep it fun and casual, like you go on dates all the time and are simply filtering for the right one.
 

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Some people are just talkative. Why wouldn't she be comfortable? Are you a scary dude with no expression and brooding eyes who paints his nails and wears a spiked collar around his neck?

If this is in school, people like making friends.. Girls know how important social value is just like guys.. probably more than guys actually. She probably thinks you're a nice enough guy to chat and befriend.. She could be attracted to you on the other hand, but usually when a girl is attracted to someone, unless shes super extroverted, they usually keep that attraction silent until you make the first move.

You won't really know until you hang out with her more. Eventually you can ask her out or something or ask her to go grab a bite.. then you'll be able to make a move on her
 

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I met a girl and she was super friendly in a class we both take, but by 2nd time I saw her again that week she was just VERY talkative with me and acting super comfortable.

Is this a bad sign? I don't know... I feel like when people act like this they just see you as a "friend" even though I've only seen her twice. I figure I'll just ask her out next week but just psychologically I wonder what this means
It could be that she has a boyfriend.

When a girl likes you, she should feel a bit nervous around you while trying to get your attention.
 

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OP touch her purposefully next time and see how she reacts. (lingering slightly on the arm, high fives, grabbing her hand to lead her for a quick second, etc)
 

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I agree with the 1 or 2 posters above who said a girl who is attracted to you will be nervous around you. I wouldn't use the term nervous but self-conscious.
 

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She's a fembot extremist. Or as they used to say around here, just another AW.
 

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OP touch her purposefully next time and see how she reacts. (lingering slightly on the arm, high fives, grabbing her hand to lead her for a quick second, etc)
I've done that before and she's cool with it. That's why might just try to verbally escalate and get a number or something sooner than later
 
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