What's your take on leaving voicemails?

Satin

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What's everyone's general rule on what to do when you call a girl after getting her number or after the first date and she doesnt answer?

Do you leave a message? No message and call back later? Text her instead?

I generally try not to leave voice messages for girls in the early stages, but I also don't want to seem like I'm calling her over and over.

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PDubb75

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I do not. Even when I'm completely comfortable with the person I leave a voicemail for (good friend, family member) I still feel it sometimes comes off awkward. You are basically having a conversation with yourself. It's just odd.

If they don't answer, I hang up. I'll try to call the next day or something, and if they don't answer then, I'll send a text.
 

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voicemails are tricky but i have found a couple of rules i like to use

Donts:
#1 never state your name, she should know who you are and have your number already in her phone
#2 never ask her out on a voice mail or text message
#3 never say something like, just calling to see what you're doing. that can be interperated as, i'm bored, with nothing to do cause i have no life, and you are my last resort, and no other options.
#4 never give her the assumption that it is necessary that she calls you back. it makes you sound needy and desperate. dont say call me back when you get a chance.

Do's
#1 Keep all messages short and to the point.
#2 tell her something exciting you are doing right now, you thought she should know. this one includes texting.
#3 tell her you will call her later or talk to you later, instead of she must call you back.
#4 instead of stating your name say, its me.

these tips are to maintain you as high value. i also like to use baiting techniques to get her to call me or text me back. one of my fav lines is this, can be used as a voicemail or a text.

text: "omg the craziest thing just happened!" on vm, just add, hey its me & i call you later to tell you all about it.

my 2nd fav is "omg i just saw your twin!"

by the way just have a couple of made up cool stories to tell when she does actually call back, insert DHV's.
 

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I never leave voicemails unless I've been seeing the girl for months.
 

Blackmm

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I leave one voicemail and pretty much leave it up to her to get back at me. If she never calls back, cop and blow.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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