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Ricky

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When I was 14 I fell in love with a girl from school and I was heartbroken when it didn't work out. It was mostly my fault, because I didn't make a move even though it was obvious she liked me. I was a shy kid and I missed loads of opportunities like that. I didn't realise at the time that the guy is one that has to make the move.

The first time I had sex I was 16 and it was with a woman that worked at an airline office in Indonesia. I left my book on the plane and she helped me get it back, then we ended up going out together that night and sleeping together. Then she told me she was married. Her husband was working on a boat and spent a lot of time at sea.

The second woman I had sex with had a boyfriend. I was giving her English lessons in Spain and for the first lesson she invited me into her bedroom when there was noone else at home. I just couldn't resist her sexy accent and ended up kissing her. At this point she told me that she had a boyfriend. I left, but one week later she called me up and said "let's meet" and we ended up having sex in a park. I guess she liked that, because we ended up doing it in parks all over the city.

Actually at the time I found all of this quite frustrating because I really wanted a girlfriend. So I got hung up on women that just wanted sex and wondered why they didn't want to have a relationship with me. If I had just accepted the situation and enjoyed it for what it was, I could have probably kept it going for years with several of them. But of course, I scared them away by being needy.

When I was in a relationship, generally I was the one cheating although there were some women that didn't really want to commit or were just basically liars and also a bit crazy, so it's not surprising that they were also messing around on the side. I've run into quite a few attention whoares, that strung me along for a while before I realised what they were doing. That taught me not to get emotionally involved with women that have not proven themselves. It took me a long time to learn this lesson, so I got stung by these types several times.

I used to listen to a lot of Tom Leykis and I liked his take on women. I always enjoyed how he would confront them about their lies and hypocrisy. He talked a lot about how women use men financially. This, together with my own experiences, showed me that women have more tricks than a clown's pocket. I became more mistrustful of women generally, which I guess today is known as being "red pilled".

Despite that I think I've generally been lucky in my relationships. I've always had women that really loved me and appreciated me, even though they had their flaws and I was often the bad one because I've always liked variety. I know that there are a lot of tricks that women play, but since I have experience I don't think I'm too easy to fool. I think it's important to be aware and to listen to other men's experiences so that you know what's up.
Leykis has some great stuff.. or had.. not sure if he is still on
 

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2001 in college, couldn't figure out how girls were so attracted to all these jerky as$h0les and no matter how nice I was to girls they friendzoned me instantly. This one d1ck that hated me called Roderick used to ride a motorcycle and he picked up a girl that I was talking to, she was an ULTRA hot indian girl. He came while I was talking to her, swooped in and picked her up in like 30 seconds. I found this site accidentally on a search after watching the movie DonJuan DeMarco, the rest is history.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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My story.... 1997-2002 I was with my highschool sweet heart. Gave up all friends... was happy going to a community college so we could be together. She went off to a university 2 hours away. She ends up doing the “ we are missing out and need to experience other people”. Turns out she was already seeing other people. Her roommate finds me on AIM and messages me that I deserve better and my girlfriend was had a boyfriend at college.

I was devastated... I had no friends... no social support... nothing. I ended up developing double pneumonia and collapsed on my way to class spent 3 weeks in the hospital. Only my parents, brother and family visited.

I realized at that point that your alone in this world. The only people that unequivocally care about you are your parents and family. I found this site... I ate this stuff... i wasn’t about pick up but self improvement.

When I recovered I went on to get myself in insane shape.. focused on my studies... end started setting goals and living with a purpose.
Man thats brutal, you're masters of your own emotions, heroes now
 

manfrombelow

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My story:

Was heavily influenced by my mother mother since she's the bread winner in our family because daddy was a total failure and loser who taught me nothing beside giving me his inability to control emotions - which, as you all know, is a vital skill all men must have.

Growing up that way, I was always a loser and bluepilled beta. Until a few years ago, while in a relationship with my girlfriend, whose average in the looks department, I was head over heels with this married chick, to the point I ditched my then girlfriend to show my "real love" for this married chick with the hope that she'd leave her unhappy marriage with her uncaring husband or at least that's what she said.

But the moment she knew I broke up with my then girlfriend, she started to lose interest for me, bit by bit, day by day, to the point she eventually gave me a long-a$$ sms about how she thought this is a mistake and that she's sorry blah blah blah...

At this point, of course I begged her, I literally cried and begged for her love like a little b!tch hahaha. Now, looking back, I should have just kept her as a plate for a quick weekend fvck no more no less, instead of buying into her BS and tried to "rescue" her from her "unhappy marriage" hahaha

This happened when I was in a foreign country to study. So, being a weak, needy, and desperate beta that I was, I was in fetus position all day and night, didn't eat anything, cried myself to sleep, drunk, smoked... and stopped going to class.

And since I stopped going to classes, I quit school and went back to my home country. No job. No girlfriend. Nothing.

That's when I started to learn about all these things, and become who I am now. I wish I had knew this stuff in my early 20's but that's life. Being a lateboomer is better than being a beta forever.
 

Ricky

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Ricky Part 2..
The Ross Jeffries ad i saw was from a site called Persian Kitty. This site had alot of photos of women so it was popular. In any event I think it was a few years later that Napster and other file sharing sites showed up. So between that and maybe getting a book and reading some stuff online, i got an idea of what it involved. As i said I noticed that certain things related to seduction really resonated with women, but it felt challenging to casually bring up in conversation. I didn't find a way to do this well until i started using instant messaging services.

When instant messenging took off, there were various forums and other things i could start to talk to women with. It was decent field practice for when you weren't out at bars.

I can't forget to tell a low point in my history although its where i gained alot of experience shall we say in the bedroom. My first job out of college was not the best. It was an engineering job but there were some not so classy people working there. They were fun though. I started to go out to happy hours and there was a secretary in her mid 40's that would join us. She seemed to be available alot and noone really knew the whole story on what was going on with her and her husband.

Well to enter a condensed story, the secretary ended up seducing me. She was separated she told me. Indeed she was because her husband was in prison for some white collar crimes. I greatly regret everything that transpired between us other than the experience it provided me which gave me bedroom confidence. We ended up getting caught when a call went to the answering machine tape and the husband heard it. This was about a year and half later after he had been released. By the way this whole experience didn't require any gamemanship on my part as she approached me. I even turned her down initially because i didn't think she was serious the first time she tried to convince me to go back to her place.

That experience shook me. I'd never mess with a married woman anymore and have turned down several experiences with them.

I left that job in part to get away from the secretary but there were also better jobs out there. The next job provided alot of unique experiences including my love for Latina women.

At this particular job and at this particular time in my 20's well i was in a group of wild engineers. We would go on the road and party. Needless to say this was a very formative time in my life. I learned to drink and party and made out with alot of Mexican women. Logistically it was challenging to work at a plant in Mexico and find a way to hook up with some of the women that worked at the plant. I also felt there could be a great deal of danger in this due to angry or jealous guys that worked there..

Strangely though.. i hadn't really improved my skills with American women. I realized i had a very good sense of humor but i was still doing something wrong. I was using self deprecating humor alot. Women would laugh but at some point you just became the joker. I remember one of the intern engineers we worked with. She seemed to really like me. We got on yahoo instant messenger one night for 3 hours. She laughed alot at my jokes, but i couldn't turn it into attraction. To make it worse she ended up sleeping with one of the other engineers brothers who was a jackass and he rubbed it in my face.

I did find some forums where i could meet some women. Since the internet was new.. it was an odd assortment of women on there. I think alot of them were yahoo groups for an area. Definitely not your high class groups, but some that were more adventurous. I had a few experiences from that.. none of them super great.

The year turned 2000. I was really hoping to go to a party but was coerced to go to a nightclub by a couple of friends with a promise to show up at the party later. I ended up kissing a girl from South Africa as the century changed. Nothing happened, but got a kiss. Then my friend was too lazy to drive us to the party. There was a girl named Julie i had hoped to meet up at the party. We are still friends today but i kind of think that was my night for a relationship with her since her buying temperature had been increasing. By the time i had a chance to see her several months later, seems like things had cooled off.

Since i spent time in Mexico alot for work, i learned a fair amount of Spanish. I made out with some girls in Mexico, and I partied in Cancun a few times and made out with the Tequila shooter girls, but also ended up with a case of blue balls. It seemed destined i'd go to the route of some of the engineers from work who married Mexican women.

But i also had a different thought about my career. I was feeling a calling to go back to school and work on something more closely related to the medical field. Automotive engineering really wasn't my thing and no offense but some of my trips to Detroit made that even more the case. The arrogance of some of the engineers in Detroit was ridiculous, but i worked for a vendor company so we had to kiss their asses.

(part 3 coming soon)
 
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