Whats up with my gf?

[JerryFl08]

alright so lately my gf has been acting rather strangely.. for example last saturday we were leaving from the walmart parking lot but she was gonna leave with her friends and she didnt wanta make out with me or anything before we left.. i thought well maybe cuz her friends were there but still... i havnt talked to her for two days and she keeps on saying she's gonna get married to one of her best guy friends (btw were just 17) so i know its like a joke and i know her best friend guy pretty well and i highly doubt they're doin anything at all.. and on myspace she put her status as "All i can say is (RUN,RUN) UR A JERK!!! LOL &i hope ur happy cuz im gonna MARRY LUPE&IM SO EXCITED" Now im not sure if it was intended for me but it kinda seems like it is intended for me...
We've only been going out for 5 weeks so my thoughts are.. this is just a **** test to see how i react.. but then again idk maybe she actually is pissed off cuz i havnt txted/called her.. So wut do you all think.. should i just be say like "hey babe wuts up" or should i just wait it out like if nothings bothering me at all?...opinions?

 

[dmatter]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=160570

if you did the above you wouldnt be overanalyzing some stupid away message

 

[JerryFl08]

yea honestly it just kinda made me curious.. i am talking with this other girl but like jus as friends who isnt as hot as my gf but is still fairly cute.. im jus gonna wait to see if my gf calls/txts me and see wut she says.. if it turns out that she's really pissed off and makes a huge deal for me not txting/calling her i think i might next her and start talking more with the cute girl..i doubt my gf is real real pissed but idk i guess i'll just have to wait and see.. im pretty sure she's thinking like wut the hell why isnt this guy txtin/callin me lately and she was just trying to make me feel bad with her status comments... let me just say she is a real high class girl and is used to getting whatever she wants

 

[DonGorgon]

She is cheating on you and her friends know .. so do you but your ego is wasting time making you ask silly questions on here..

but it does not matter.. just F her and go get other females to F.. its the human way

 

[mothballs]

She sounds like a real winner...

 

[Cherokee]

She sounds like a real winner...

lol! lol! lol! lol!

Seriously though, dude, do you want this sh!t in your life? start switching plates, even if she is joking about marrying some other dude, that's still pretty lame to joke about it more than once. Time for her to go me thinks.

 

[JerryFl08]

yes i know i should.... my friend said i should tell her "if you dont quit your ****, me and you are done"... its just that she's real hot and i really want to fck her.. but yea ive had it with dealling with her crap, im jus gonna give it one more day, if she dosnt call/txt me today, im probably gonna tell her what my friend told me to say tomorow.. other opinions of what i should say to end this? if i do end this..

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Okay, so you are paying some sort of psychological or social cost for dealing with this hot chick. Quantify this cost in terms of money. Imagine if it were an escort you were seeing and paying for encounters and treat it the same way. Whenever stuff like that bothers you, quantify it in dollars and cents.

So, when your gf treats you like crap -- is that about like $ 200.00 or
$ 300.00 in emotional/social/psychological costs. How much is in your 'bank account' (i.e. level of toleration).

Next thing you do is look at some escort ads of hot babes and see how much they are charging. Then check how much is in your real bank-account.

Then think -- is it worth it putting up this sort of crap with your gf, or just having random encounters with a hot escort since they are both one and the same. One charges you by the crap you have to put up with, your dignity, the other just charges money. Either way you have to pay in one way or another.

You think both of these scenerios are stupid? Then you don't play. Dump her and find someone else and keep your dignity because sticking with a gf who treats you like crap (and sleeps with other guys) just because she's hot and using an escort are the same thing.

 

[JerryFl08]

ok ok your right.. im gonna be gone for awhile but i'll be back in around 2-3 hours.. alright ill tell her flat out that she has to quit her crap or else we're done.. i'll probably do it tomorow cuz i got work to do tonight and i dont want to deal with any complications right now.. opinions on maybe anything else i should say?

 

[DJDamage]

ok ok your right.. im gonna be gone for awhile but i'll be back in around 2-3 hours.. alright ill tell her flat out that she has to quit her crap or else we're done.. i'll probably do it tomorow cuz i got work to do tonight and i dont want to deal with any complications right now.. opinions on maybe anything else i should say?

See this is the problem of calling someone a girlfriend at the age of 17 after 5 weeks of dating instead of using that time to qualify and date other women as well.

Nothing good is going to come out with your attempt to straighten up this girl. She will say yes and hold it against you or argue with you and hold it against you. The kind of relationship you are in comes and goes, so just enjoy the ride until it lasts and keep looking to date other women so you can replace her.

 

[Yce]

ok ok your right.. im gonna be gone for awhile but i'll be back in around 2-3 hours.. alright ill tell her flat out that she has to quit her crap or else we're done.. i'll probably do it tomorow cuz i got work to do tonight and i dont want to deal with any complications right now.. opinions on maybe anything else i should say?

Yea. You go ahead and give her an ultimatum. That ought to bring her running right back to you.

Listen, and listen well. If she had high interest in you, you wouldn't be here complaining about her bad behavior. Calling her out isn't going to magically up her interest. More likely, she'll just use that excuse to label you as a jealous, insecure freak (which has its basis in truth, but I digress), and then leave you officially and for good.

The first big no-no you did was calling her your gf after only 5 weeks. (You probably started doing that after the 1st week, didn't you?) You haven't even fvkked her, for fvkk's sake! What you need to do is nothing. Yes, don't call her, don't text her, don't try to "accidentally" bump into her, etc... and plz stop considering the both of you a couple and go fvkk someone else. Most importantly, if she calls or texts you, DO NOT ANSWER. Take your time and let her wonder.

Also don't tag along after her when she's going to the mall with her friends, next time.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=160570

if you did the above you wouldnt be overanalyzing some stupid away message

Just when i saw the title i was about to post this thread but i see that u posted it before. Thanks.

( i didnt read other responses )
@OP: Forget about that b1tch , move on.
U don't have value enough in her eyes and this is the reason that she's playing these fvcked mind games with you. And if she's not cheating on you , she will do it sooner or later.Ditch the b1tch.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Yeah, it's best to just not think about this girl and give her the ego-satisfaction at the expense of your dignity that she feels she is doing you a favour by giving her an ultimatum or talking to her about this. She's going to say that you don't trust her or some other stuff and put the blame on you and leave you as other people said.

This should just become an issue in your mind.

I mentioned the escort thing because you said you like her because she is hot and you want to fvck her. That is why people go to prostitutes and hookers. It's because they look hot and they want to fvck them. That's a poor rationalization for sticking with this girl just because she looks hot. If that is the case, it's less grief to just see a prostitute. In other words -- get that "hot" girl stuff out of your mind.

It's better to spend money on an escort that looks hot or that looks like your gf, than to pursue this girl any further -- it's way cheaper. Now, don't actually do that, I'm just making comparisons -- these comparisons helps you to become emotionally detached and facing the ugly truth that you just want her because she is hot and you are putting up with all sorts of nonsence because of that. Pursue other women and forget about her.

You'll get over this chick. You have oneitis or are hung-up over her. Make an ultimatum with yourself that you'll forget about her and move on with your life. You are playing golf, that's great. Do anything and forget about her.

 

[Cherokee]

my friend said i should tell her "if you dont quit your ****, me and you are done"... its just that she's real hot and i really want to fck her..

Thats the key to fcking her my friend, it shows 2 things.
1. You're a man
2. You're not willing to put up with petty BS.

Sometimes women wanna be put in place, just like how sometimes we do stuff for attention, when you constantly prod something for a reaction?
Push and pull, hot and cold, action and reaction, give her emotions a rollercoaster, why? because women think with emotions and if their emotions are having the time of their lives, so will she!!!

BUT, I think you should leave this girl, it'll probably make her come crying back for more, but if it doesn't, she had a low interest to begin with.

good luck.

 

[JerryFl08]

alright you know what, your all are right and obviously i think you all know that...

Yes, don't call her, don't text her, don't try to "accidentally" bump into her, etc... and plz stop considering the both of you a couple and go fvkk someone else. Most importantly, if she calls or texts you, DO NOT ANSWER. Take your time and let her wonder.

ALRIGHT I WON'T TRY TO TALK TO HER NOR ANSWER HER CALLS/TXTS. If she does constantly txt me or something (which I currently doubt) after awhile i'll maybe respond casually just saying like "oh wuts up" As it is i am kinda talking with this other girl so i'll go after that but of course i'll make sure i still talk with some other girls so I dont get into the same situation i'm currently in.. I'm sure this weekend she's going to ask me if i wanta go out with her and her friends again but this time i'll say "yea no thank you" or "nope i'm gonna be busy tonight"

 

[Warrior74]

go quiet and be non chalant. Get your emotions out of the equation and get your ego in check. Talk to other girls....good luck.

 

[Cherokee]

Get your emotions out of the equation and get your ego in check.

Dam, that should apply to all desicions in life. Well spoken sir.

 

[JerryFl08]

Get your emotions out of the equation and get your ego in check.

yea this is very true.. honestly i'd have to say she's kinda out of my mind now.. if she calls/txts me i'm jus gonna ingore it and not answer, and i know its going to drive her crazy cuz she usually gets everything she wants from everyone so i know this has to driver her crazy but i gotta keep myself in check and make sure i dont txt back or anything cuz im sure this is probably easier said than done..

Talk to other girls....good luck.

i did start talkin with this cute girl and it does seem if she's interested in me but today i saw her with her ex and it looked like if they were going to get back together but whatever, i'll try to start talking with some other girls too