Just a girl looking for some straight-forward advice, thought you guys could tell like it is in the Don Juan forums.
I dated a guy for a bit and one night when we went out, I acted like a nut and got upset over some trivial issues. (We had only been dating about a month and a half and started complaining that he wasn't making enough time for me, etc and that it wasn't working out). He thought I was nuts for complaining and wanting to end it after several dates but that was how I was feeling at the time- I've just been used to guys who move things rather quickly I guess and want a committment right away).
Anyways, during the next two weeks, I realize that I completely over-reacted and didn't want to stop seeing him. I attempted twice to call him to ask him out but he did not return my calls. I also saw him out the second week and tried to approach him in person but he looked annoyed so I told him this was the last time i would try that I was sorry for over-reacting when we went out, then I left.
The third week, I see him at an outdoor event we both end up going to (a band that he knows I know is playing) and I try to avoid him and not make any eye contact to show I got the point. (I'm also with a bunch of my male firends having a good time). I decide to go inside the bar to get a drink (where it is empty) and I look up and some of his friends walk in and stand against the wall staring at me. (They didn't order a drink or use the bathroom so I found it a little strange). I ignore them and go back outside.
A minute later, they come back outside and I notice they go up to him and they all start to chuckle. When I glance at the guy, he then goes over and puts his arms around this girl in an intimate way (who is really unattractive) and she starts giggling and turns around to see if I am watching them. She caught me looking (which Im sure she told him) but i was honestly thinking why would he be with someone like that? I did feel hurt though and after the band finished their songs, I quickly left with my friends.
Was just curious why someone would be so cruel after I later tried to be mature about the situation? I just hope it didn't come across that he thought I was going to "bother" him again as I made it clear I was not going to try anymore? Thanks for you input guys.
I dated a guy for a bit and one night when we went out, I acted like a nut and got upset over some trivial issues. (We had only been dating about a month and a half and started complaining that he wasn't making enough time for me, etc and that it wasn't working out). He thought I was nuts for complaining and wanting to end it after several dates but that was how I was feeling at the time- I've just been used to guys who move things rather quickly I guess and want a committment right away).
Anyways, during the next two weeks, I realize that I completely over-reacted and didn't want to stop seeing him. I attempted twice to call him to ask him out but he did not return my calls. I also saw him out the second week and tried to approach him in person but he looked annoyed so I told him this was the last time i would try that I was sorry for over-reacting when we went out, then I left.
The third week, I see him at an outdoor event we both end up going to (a band that he knows I know is playing) and I try to avoid him and not make any eye contact to show I got the point. (I'm also with a bunch of my male firends having a good time). I decide to go inside the bar to get a drink (where it is empty) and I look up and some of his friends walk in and stand against the wall staring at me. (They didn't order a drink or use the bathroom so I found it a little strange). I ignore them and go back outside.
A minute later, they come back outside and I notice they go up to him and they all start to chuckle. When I glance at the guy, he then goes over and puts his arms around this girl in an intimate way (who is really unattractive) and she starts giggling and turns around to see if I am watching them. She caught me looking (which Im sure she told him) but i was honestly thinking why would he be with someone like that? I did feel hurt though and after the band finished their songs, I quickly left with my friends.
Was just curious why someone would be so cruel after I later tried to be mature about the situation? I just hope it didn't come across that he thought I was going to "bother" him again as I made it clear I was not going to try anymore? Thanks for you input guys.
