foreverAFC said:
just being polite is enough to get you nexted, its that easy huh, good times
This line of thinking is actually what causes a lot of problems. Not a lot of people care about how polite, genuine, or good you are - nor do they view things this way. They care more about status, and **** like that.
So, while you think you're being a good guy or gentleman by doing these things - like focusing solely on them, telling them you like them, doing all these kind gestures for them, reassuring them, bringing yourself down to their level and sharing insecurities / rejections to prove that you wont leave them, and making yourself appear more "normal", faithful, genuine, and less intimidating and unavailable in their eyes - even if they SAY its what they want - they're viewing you as low status, desperate, clingy, undesirable (by other women), etc. They want the best catch; the highest in demand. A lot of these things they "hate" is what they seek after vigorously - for this very reason.
This is where a lot of guys get confused, because what they thought would work is actually killing their interest's attraction towards them. But the guy who's making them uncertain - even if he's a jerk or player - is intriguing them, making them wonder, having them pursue harder to win their affection, and getting them to commit to them, and so forth. All of this despite complaining about them constantly, and claiming to want the opposite.
This is the illogical nature of attraction, and these things occur simultaneously. "Oh, he's a jerk, he's dating other girls, he's not interested, I hate him, blah blah, but you already like me"... Guess who she's interested in, chasing after, trying to prove her worth to, etc? Not the guy who she knows is already interested - even if its what she SAYS she wants - literally as she's contradicting herself, and seeking the opposite... Too easy, not exciting, nothing to worry about, over-eager, no challenge or mystery = no attraction. But you can give them attention, feed their ego, listen to them complain and give them advice, etc, like a good "friend".
Being good or bad means **** all, there is no direct connection between their words and actions, and everything you think is right is wrong.
It's all a game, really. But one you gotta play.
Good day.
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