zekko said:
I think he means Sooly doesn't understand it, which he probably doesn't because he keeps posting the same drivel over and over. For the most part, I don't read his posts because, well, they don't make any sense. And they're repetitive as hell.
Sooly is an odd duck. Most of the anti-boundary crew think that objecting to your girlfriend seeing other men is insecure. Sooly won't tolerate his girlfriend seeing other men, so in that he's really closer to the pro-boundary side (which is my side, because I won't tolerate it either). But he thinks that as long as you never, never, ever discuss it with her, you're okay. But if you bring it up, then you're insecure.
You're the one posting the same drivel with the boundary crew.
All you guys live in a world of black and white fantasy.
You guys all think men who set boundaries are strong men of authority. Men who don't set boundaries are all weak.
That's the black and white world you live in and you drone on and on about it.
It doesn't occur to you guys that boundary setters can be insecure weak men who are scared to death of their woman hanging out with other men even when she has no intentions of doing so.
It doesn't occur to you that some men who seek authority are really betas trying to have a fake power trip.
Just cause you don't set a boundary doesn't mean you tolerate your woman hanging out with other men.
That's the black and white world of the boundary crew. Thinking everything in life is the same.
I feel that women should already know what is acceptable for a relationship.
I don't need to waste my time teaching, training, enforcing rules like father.
If they don't show me through their actions that they understand what an exclusive relationship means they don't get a relationship from me.
There are too many low quality disrespectful women who won't care about your boundaries you set.
They will agree to them at the start and will break them with ease when they want to.
If you guys had real experience knowing women you would all understand this .
I've hooked up with taken girls and they didn't care about any boundaries their boyfriends set earlier with them.
When their interest was low they cheated on them with me.
For some reason you guys can't understand that.
You think if you set boundaries she will always follow them no matter what respecting you.
That is not true cause she will break them when she wants.
When women are showing you through their own actions that they don't need other men that is a woman who gets it and doesn't need to have a boundary.
You guys can't understand that either.
Boundaries aren't everything. You need to have value and attraction from her or your boundaries won't work.
When you have value and a respectful woman you don't need a boundary.
You guys don't understand that either.