karmavsDogma
Don Juan
Okay, let me preface this by saying that I already know marriage is pretty much the last thing on most guy's minds here. I didn't quite know where to put this topic, but I was interested in getting some opinions on this subject. Moderators, if you think this should go elsewhere, please move it accordingly.
I just watched "Serendipity", a cutesy, John Cusack-starring romantic comedy. And yes, I know that movies are basically bullsh*t when it comes to actual matters of the heart (and other major organs ). But I had a question after watching this movie, and having seen many like it. How old do I want to be before I get married (if at all)? I'm 25 now, and I like the idea of being married someday. I noticed that in this movie, the characters were all in their mid-30's and never-before-married. Now, this is very atypical of modern American culture (and yeah, this one's a little USA-centric, since that's where I live). Hell, by the time a guy's my age, he's usually been married at least once, and has a kid or two besides. Most of my friends my age are already married, or engaged, or divorced. Should I ever decide to get married, I'd rather be in my 30's. Many benefits to it, I feel. I'd be well established in my career, most likely be a home owner, etc. And I know it would be a challenge to find a woman who has taken care of herself into her 30's (i.e. no kids, no jealous former husband axe-murderers, retained physical beauty, emotional and mental stability, etc.), but if I were going to back down from challenges, I wouldn't be reading this site. It seems that most of the women I meet in my age range, however, have been married (or even still are), have kids, have all this baggage that, frankly, I'd rather not deal with. And I know that it will get worse as I get older.
Anyway, any thoughts as to when is the ideal age to get married? I'm putting my ideas out there and saying that I'd like to at least be considering it by the time I'm 32. Of course, I have to find the right woman first, which is where the real challenge lies.
I just watched "Serendipity", a cutesy, John Cusack-starring romantic comedy. And yes, I know that movies are basically bullsh*t when it comes to actual matters of the heart (and other major organs ). But I had a question after watching this movie, and having seen many like it. How old do I want to be before I get married (if at all)? I'm 25 now, and I like the idea of being married someday. I noticed that in this movie, the characters were all in their mid-30's and never-before-married. Now, this is very atypical of modern American culture (and yeah, this one's a little USA-centric, since that's where I live). Hell, by the time a guy's my age, he's usually been married at least once, and has a kid or two besides. Most of my friends my age are already married, or engaged, or divorced. Should I ever decide to get married, I'd rather be in my 30's. Many benefits to it, I feel. I'd be well established in my career, most likely be a home owner, etc. And I know it would be a challenge to find a woman who has taken care of herself into her 30's (i.e. no kids, no jealous former husband axe-murderers, retained physical beauty, emotional and mental stability, etc.), but if I were going to back down from challenges, I wouldn't be reading this site. It seems that most of the women I meet in my age range, however, have been married (or even still are), have kids, have all this baggage that, frankly, I'd rather not deal with. And I know that it will get worse as I get older.
Anyway, any thoughts as to when is the ideal age to get married? I'm putting my ideas out there and saying that I'd like to at least be considering it by the time I'm 32. Of course, I have to find the right woman first, which is where the real challenge lies.