whats the hardest lesson you've learnt ?

[Bingo-Player]

for me its been learning too master my emotions

before i came here i was ok with chicks but as soon as one showed me a ounce of interest in my head i would start planning out our wedding and imagining what my family friends would think of her

( yea real sad i know )

looking back just over a year its easy to see why i was like putty in a chicks hands

1) if a chick didn't reply in an hour i would start falling to pieces

2) i would stalk Facebook and twitter for hours to determine what she was doing

3) NEVER in a million years would i think there was possibly another guy involved

4) and then when things cooled off it would take me months to get her out of my head

chicks really do pick up on stuff like this so quickly and its a major turn off for them

now I've become one ruthless son of a b*tch , i estimate I've blown off something like 14 chicks this year purely because they lacked a basic level of respect towards me

i don't work for chicks no more they work for me , il give them an inch and if they wanna take a mile they can keep on going cos i won't be around to see it

just blown a HB 8 off for being a disrespectful b*tch ......shes blowing up my phone and twitter trying to get my attention i aint interested

i now always assume theres other guys on the scene and screen accordingly

i can get a chick i like out of my head in around 3 - 4 days now something I'm real proud of

still got a long way to go but I'm getting there

so whats the hardest lesson you've learnt whilst being here ?

 

[GS750]

i now always assume theres other guys on the scene and screen accordingly

Yeah...leaned that one the hard way. Never underestimate the number of orbiters she may have waiting in the wings that she can replace you with if you fvck up or things go south. Count on there being at least 3 but probably more.

 

[Bingo-Player]

indeed

Ive actually been quite surprised how far she will let orbiters get when desperate for attention

i know the relationship between orbiter and HB will never stand the long run

but i know a few HB's who have been more than prepared to sleep with an orbiter just for the self satisfaction of knowing she can have

 

[GS750]

Well orbiters are there for a reason...attention/validation. If she's seeing someone and it goes bad; he splits, he gets distant, he hurts her, whatever. Then she's going to turn to someone for an ego boost or rebound. Orbiters are there to swoop in and capitalize. She's desperate for attention or to feel wanted, he's desperate for some pu$$y. Match made in heaven...for a while anyway. And with Facebook/Instangram/Twitter/etc. it's all too easy.

 

[mugatts]

When you are detached from someone you like or care about, then there is very little disappointment and it does not affect you as much. You have your own life, they have theirs and when you're together you enjoy the present. That is the greatest thing I have learned. My life should not change just because I have met a woman who makes me think of marital bliss. I look at it this way, two weeks or two months before you met this person, they did not exist in your life. So why should your life change just because you're going out, sleeping together, meeting the parents or breaking up? We choose how to respond to their actions, whether to keep them in our lives or let them go. We have no control over anyone except ourselves. So loving your life as it is, having no attachment and expectations is a great way to approach dating and life in general.

 

[Eternal_water]

That I will probably never get the hang of this.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Hardest lesson I have learned is that everything I was told was wrong and everything I knew was in fact right. Still having trouble with that last part too.

 

[Albatross953]

That men value love and women love value. And half the time they will even marry value.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Hardest lesson - do not ever date a girl with low interest

 

[mikey2012]

Never ever trust a woman . Never reveal to them what you are thinking.

 

[MOTU]

That women, and many men, will always do what they percieve to be in their own best interest.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Well orbiters are there for a reason...attention/validation. If she's seeing someone and it goes bad; he splits, he gets distant, he hurts her, whatever. Then she's going to turn to someone for an ego boost or rebound. Orbiters are there to swoop in and capitalize. She's desperate for attention or to feel wanted, he's desperate for some pu$$y. Match made in heaven...for a while anyway. And with Facebook/Instangram/Twitter/etc. it's all too easy.

AGREED 100% White-knight orbiters.....I need to do a better job weeding out low quality low self esteem woman. It sucks cause they as so good as masking it. As soon as it goes south here comes the emotional tampon. Desperation seeks desperation.

 

[Serenity]

The hardest thing I learned is to trust experience and make choices according to what actually makes me happy, to not let others rule my life. I told some people to fvck off while discovering who my real friends are. I learned to handle fear and to show love. I'm tired of bullsh!t and drama, I'm empty. I met a girl I believe it's possible to create a future with, I like her and she likes me. No bullsh!t, no games, no lies. Finding a girl like that certainly wasn't easy for me, I dodged quite a large amount of b!tches to find her.

 

[Bingo-Player]

some great posts almost all of which i can relate to in one way or another

hope everyones sticking around for the ride 2015s gonna be

 

[RangerMIke]

That women can practically read your mind. I don't care how good an actor you think you are, women will ALWAYS know when you want them, and they will know with some degree of certainty when you are lying to them. This is why they dislike "nice guys". Nice guys are the biggest fvcking liars on the planet, because they deny their own nature.

It's much better to let a women know you want to fvck them then to try to manipulate them by trying to be 'nice' to them. This was a hard line for me to cross years ago, but when I did my life changed completely.

 

[Huffman]

Yeah...leaned that one the hard way. Never underestimate the number of orbiters she may have waiting in the wings that she can replace you with if you fvck up or things go south. Count on there being at least 3 but probably more.

But that's a very stressful way to go about it right? I think it's more healthy to just ignore those guys, there's no use feeling threatened by some douches.

With them being orbiters, most aren't a real danger anyway.

 

[pyros]

When I was around 24, in other words, a few years ago, I realised that nowadays Disney dating/relationships do not exist. It doesnt exist anymore that you meet (by chance) a nice, beautiful girl, she likes you too, you go on a date, you kiss, you go on more dates, you have sex, everything goes nicely and you get married etc.

The majority of women nowadays are way too spoiled, they're selfish, egocentric, manipulative, emasculated, flakey, attention wh-ores, wh-ores, etc etc even if they look 'nice' at first sight.

This has been hard to accept.

 

[mangotot]

Don't put people including women on a pedestal, you are far more important then them.

 

[zorg198]

When I was around 24, in other words, a few years ago, I realised that nowadays Disney dating/relationships do not exist. It doesnt exist anymore that you meet (by chance) a nice, beautiful girl, she likes you too, you go on a date, you kiss, you go on more dates, you have sex, everything goes nicely and you get married etc.

The majority of women nowadays are way too spoiled, they're selfish, egocentric, manipulative, emasculated, flakey, attention wh-ores, wh-ores, etc etc even if they look 'nice' at first sight.

This has been hard to accept.

This i learned the past year... so true in many ways!!!

 

[GS750]

But that's a very stressful way to go about it right? I think it's more healthy to just ignore those guys, there's no use feeling threatened by some douches.

With them being orbiters, most aren't a real danger anyway.

Definitely ignore. Don't let their existence get to you. But always keep in mind that they are there waiting to pounce. Count on it.