dearsappho
Senior Don Juan
If people really didnt give a F*** they wouldnt be responding to this thread...Ooops!
Whats the best way to achieve a 'dont give a fvck' attitude?
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DjDreamer
Master Don Juan
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Well maybe the thread should have been named, "whats the best way to project a 'don't give a fvck' attitude"...
Life is but a stage...
Well maybe the thread should have been named, "whats the best way to project a 'don't give a fvck' attitude"...
Life is but a stage...
well you could say you turn emotionless when u doint give a fvck.
when u dont give a fcuk, ppl can tell and will actually respect you more, thank god.
Last semester in school i got this attitude somehow. Plus the clothing i wore were different from my usual self. Began wearing hats and dark jackets and hoodies, which i never in my life wore until now. maybe i was scared to wear those in the past cause i felt it would make me look bad or change my image but i dont care anymore. My friends and girls respected me more because in their eyes i changed, i speak my mind, joke around, and dont take anything they joke about seriously.
it's like you're brain is so zoned out that you dont even think about worrying or being self conscious for that matter. anyway i dont knwo how to explain it...but one of these days you might get lucky and wake up with this attitude.
edit: i didnt think much of this when i replied, but after some thought i have something to add.
yes, you could say its part confidence. but when u dont care you do have confidence, because u dont think of the outcome or consequences of certain actions.
its also part of loss of desire. like you have no need to make a friend or **** a girl, you have your **** together. ppl sense that and it makes you seem like you are strong character wise.
when u dont give a fcuk, ppl can tell and will actually respect you more, thank god.
Last semester in school i got this attitude somehow. Plus the clothing i wore were different from my usual self. Began wearing hats and dark jackets and hoodies, which i never in my life wore until now. maybe i was scared to wear those in the past cause i felt it would make me look bad or change my image but i dont care anymore. My friends and girls respected me more because in their eyes i changed, i speak my mind, joke around, and dont take anything they joke about seriously.
it's like you're brain is so zoned out that you dont even think about worrying or being self conscious for that matter. anyway i dont knwo how to explain it...but one of these days you might get lucky and wake up with this attitude.
edit: i didnt think much of this when i replied, but after some thought i have something to add.
yes, you could say its part confidence. but when u dont care you do have confidence, because u dont think of the outcome or consequences of certain actions.
its also part of loss of desire. like you have no need to make a friend or **** a girl, you have your **** together. ppl sense that and it makes you seem like you are strong character wise.
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While the base thought might work, in the long wrong, it will hinder your ultimate goals.
I'll first start by saying...
Anything you acquire can be taken away.
Your house, it can burn down.
Your car, it can break down, get stolen, or just get old.
Your girl, she can leave you, get fat, get old, or become your wife.
Your money, you can spend it, save it, earn it, burn it, give it away. Doesn't matter.
Having watched the Punisher recently, he had a good statement just after he resurfaces in the city.
"Upset? Is that the word? I used to get upset. When I got a flat tire, when a plane was delayed. I used to get *upset* when the Yankees won the series. So if that's what upset means, what am I feeling now? If you know the word, tell me because I don't. "
Its a matter of perception. The "I don't give a fvck attitude" is well and good, but it's far easier to develop a much healthier, manageable, AND realistic attitude.
Attach nothing of your self-worth to anything but yourself.
Many people take great offense to small comments, their girls saying something sexist, being cutoff, or someone flaming them online. Why? What for? And even if you track down the infidel who did this to you, 10 more will pop up just like Smith did in the Matrix. It's never-ending battle with yourself, not the world.
So attach nothing of who you are to what other people say or do. Don't be a pvssy when someone crosses a line you have, but ease back. The only opinion that matters is your's. Other people don't know your goals, dreams, and desires, so ANYTHING they say without proper evidence is mere opinion made in some vacuous way.
Want a good example?
Check out WAY of the Peaceful Warrior.
In the story, the main character Dan, makes a point to defend himself each step of the way. Everytime his mentor called him a Jackazz, he tried to defend his intelligence. Everytime a girl was around, he was too overzealous for his own good. Everytime he messed up, he tried to make excuses over WHY he did it. He tried to be too perfect, too perfect to enjoy life. Most people are the same way.
Are you this way? Always off kilt when a girl makes a comment? It isn't SHE who offended you, it's YOU who offended you. BECAUSE, how you take the compliment determines what it means to YOU. It's called a Meta-Frame and Framing. HOW you frame it, is how you take it, so the context of your mood as well as the environment and you're own self-worth.
Some insight:
The people who say they don't give a fvck, GIVE a FVCK. Because...they have to even THINK about it before they do anything. It's like not being a follower, but doing the exact opposite of what 'followers.' You're still a follower, just a different type of follower. It's like saying, well, everybody likes the color black, so I will pick white. And everybody who wants to be a non-conformer IS a conformer, they're just conforming to a different set of ideals.
That THOUGHT you had just before you made that statement is the motivating factor in your decision, even if it's different. Until you only do what you do for you, it's never your own.
I had the conversation with a girl this weekend who's looking into job opportunities now and for after college. She asked my opinion, and I countered with:
What type of life do you want to lead?
She was rather aghast, because it was such a huge question when it only encompassed a "job", but it was needed. Here's the logic...
To be different, you must break free of traditional paths.
She wanted a life of wealth, freedom, and success, and to achieve this she'd have to work harder and do what other college students wouldn't. Work 40hrs/wk full-time, while doing full-time college work, while interning. What else is there to do in life? The parties get better the harder you work, because the harder you work, the more you can play, IF you work in the right way.
Don't use negative thoughts to attempt to conjure positive states.
The biggest epidemic on this board is that people try to find out what NOT to do, to do the opposite. However, in life, the mind doesn't work that way. It's all black and white. Whatever you focus on, your bring to fruition. So if you're trying to determine WHAT an AFC IS, you will have to imagine what it's like to NOT do it. Funny thing is, because you're imagining it, you're doing it, and possibly becoming it.
Saying you don't give a fvck isn't true, because to extent we all have some desires, you just have to learn NOT to get so attached to just 1 desire or 1 outcome. Guys here want a great girlfriend or lay. Guys here want happiness. Guys here have monetary needs, otherwise you couldn't log online. You want your familys' to be safe, and healthy. So why fake a fake attitude?
Just stop tying your emotional states up into life where you feel like a victim.
So you wore a bad outfit one day? So what, make fun of it.
So you are/were fat? So make fun of it. You're lifting now, and slimming down, and who wants a girl who'd ONLY like you if you had 18" guns?
So your car was wrecked? It happens, to millions. It's called car insurance. Besides, a new deal will come along. That's how I got my new car.
Everything you "think" is the result of the mental prison you got going on. To even believe one must develop such an attitude proves you have these internal demons running around concocting false thoughts. And if they are real, you can deflect and deal with them realistically, because you know you did what you could.
I know some of you guys are smart enough to "get" what I am saying, about the attitude. It is counterproductive to what you aspire to become, and doesn't work in the professional word from that vantage point.
A-Unit
While the base thought might work, in the long wrong, it will hinder your ultimate goals.
I'll first start by saying...
Anything you acquire can be taken away.
Your house, it can burn down.
Your car, it can break down, get stolen, or just get old.
Your girl, she can leave you, get fat, get old, or become your wife.
Your money, you can spend it, save it, earn it, burn it, give it away. Doesn't matter.
Having watched the Punisher recently, he had a good statement just after he resurfaces in the city.
"Upset? Is that the word? I used to get upset. When I got a flat tire, when a plane was delayed. I used to get *upset* when the Yankees won the series. So if that's what upset means, what am I feeling now? If you know the word, tell me because I don't. "
Its a matter of perception. The "I don't give a fvck attitude" is well and good, but it's far easier to develop a much healthier, manageable, AND realistic attitude.
Attach nothing of your self-worth to anything but yourself.
Many people take great offense to small comments, their girls saying something sexist, being cutoff, or someone flaming them online. Why? What for? And even if you track down the infidel who did this to you, 10 more will pop up just like Smith did in the Matrix. It's never-ending battle with yourself, not the world.
So attach nothing of who you are to what other people say or do. Don't be a pvssy when someone crosses a line you have, but ease back. The only opinion that matters is your's. Other people don't know your goals, dreams, and desires, so ANYTHING they say without proper evidence is mere opinion made in some vacuous way.
Want a good example?
Check out WAY of the Peaceful Warrior.
In the story, the main character Dan, makes a point to defend himself each step of the way. Everytime his mentor called him a Jackazz, he tried to defend his intelligence. Everytime a girl was around, he was too overzealous for his own good. Everytime he messed up, he tried to make excuses over WHY he did it. He tried to be too perfect, too perfect to enjoy life. Most people are the same way.
Are you this way? Always off kilt when a girl makes a comment? It isn't SHE who offended you, it's YOU who offended you. BECAUSE, how you take the compliment determines what it means to YOU. It's called a Meta-Frame and Framing. HOW you frame it, is how you take it, so the context of your mood as well as the environment and you're own self-worth.
Some insight:
The people who say they don't give a fvck, GIVE a FVCK. Because...they have to even THINK about it before they do anything. It's like not being a follower, but doing the exact opposite of what 'followers.' You're still a follower, just a different type of follower. It's like saying, well, everybody likes the color black, so I will pick white. And everybody who wants to be a non-conformer IS a conformer, they're just conforming to a different set of ideals.
That THOUGHT you had just before you made that statement is the motivating factor in your decision, even if it's different. Until you only do what you do for you, it's never your own.
I had the conversation with a girl this weekend who's looking into job opportunities now and for after college. She asked my opinion, and I countered with:
What type of life do you want to lead?
She was rather aghast, because it was such a huge question when it only encompassed a "job", but it was needed. Here's the logic...
To be different, you must break free of traditional paths.
She wanted a life of wealth, freedom, and success, and to achieve this she'd have to work harder and do what other college students wouldn't. Work 40hrs/wk full-time, while doing full-time college work, while interning. What else is there to do in life? The parties get better the harder you work, because the harder you work, the more you can play, IF you work in the right way.
Don't use negative thoughts to attempt to conjure positive states.
The biggest epidemic on this board is that people try to find out what NOT to do, to do the opposite. However, in life, the mind doesn't work that way. It's all black and white. Whatever you focus on, your bring to fruition. So if you're trying to determine WHAT an AFC IS, you will have to imagine what it's like to NOT do it. Funny thing is, because you're imagining it, you're doing it, and possibly becoming it.
Saying you don't give a fvck isn't true, because to extent we all have some desires, you just have to learn NOT to get so attached to just 1 desire or 1 outcome. Guys here want a great girlfriend or lay. Guys here want happiness. Guys here have monetary needs, otherwise you couldn't log online. You want your familys' to be safe, and healthy. So why fake a fake attitude?
Just stop tying your emotional states up into life where you feel like a victim.
So you wore a bad outfit one day? So what, make fun of it.
So you are/were fat? So make fun of it. You're lifting now, and slimming down, and who wants a girl who'd ONLY like you if you had 18" guns?
So your car was wrecked? It happens, to millions. It's called car insurance. Besides, a new deal will come along. That's how I got my new car.
Everything you "think" is the result of the mental prison you got going on. To even believe one must develop such an attitude proves you have these internal demons running around concocting false thoughts. And if they are real, you can deflect and deal with them realistically, because you know you did what you could.
I know some of you guys are smart enough to "get" what I am saying, about the attitude. It is counterproductive to what you aspire to become, and doesn't work in the professional word from that vantage point.
A-Unit
Don Juanabbe
Master Don Juan
That's a damn good post and I like this part especially because I think I can relate to it in my stage of development:
"The biggest epidemic on this board is that people try to find out what NOT to do, to do the opposite. However, in life, the mind doesn't work that way. It's all black and white. Whatever you focus on, your bring to fruition. So if you're trying to determine WHAT an AFC IS, you will have to imagine what it's like to NOT do it. Funny thing is, because you're imagining it, you're doing it, and possibly becoming it. "
"The biggest epidemic on this board is that people try to find out what NOT to do, to do the opposite. However, in life, the mind doesn't work that way. It's all black and white. Whatever you focus on, your bring to fruition. So if you're trying to determine WHAT an AFC IS, you will have to imagine what it's like to NOT do it. Funny thing is, because you're imagining it, you're doing it, and possibly becoming it. "
A-unit, all i gotta say is, excellent post man.
A lot of what you say is on the spot.
in your example of attach nothing but your self worth to anything but yourself, the guy tries to be perfect. Yet he doesnt just accept the facts and admit that he is wrong. He goes on to protect his perfectionist image of himself, he's allowing others to intervene in his self perception in which he puts himself into a self concocted situation of which he is in defensive mode.
One of my friends, in the past he'd always repeat the same **** to me and other friends: "does it look like i care?" "i dont care" whther its online or in person. The truth is if he really didnt care, there was no need to brag about it.
Yet he cared enough to say that he didnt care, which contradicts it. Only insecure people like to brag about things like these.
Altho my friend has changed over the year, he's saying this much less now.
Sometimes in the past he would get a little overcocky he woujld say things to piss me off which i did, whether its jokingly or not he'd say it to me. Yet i got upset over these silly little things for no reason at all. But now whenever he says that **** to me, i give him a good response back, and example the other day:
"no one likes your music" (meaning him and our friends)
"what? **** you all, i like it!"
we both said this to each other in a jokingly way, as we always do. well recently anyway
that response was definitely something i wouldve never thought of in the past cause i worried about to much. Yet responses like these is what makes him respect me more.
A lot of what you say is on the spot.
in your example of attach nothing but your self worth to anything but yourself, the guy tries to be perfect. Yet he doesnt just accept the facts and admit that he is wrong. He goes on to protect his perfectionist image of himself, he's allowing others to intervene in his self perception in which he puts himself into a self concocted situation of which he is in defensive mode.
One of my friends, in the past he'd always repeat the same **** to me and other friends: "does it look like i care?" "i dont care" whther its online or in person. The truth is if he really didnt care, there was no need to brag about it.
Yet he cared enough to say that he didnt care, which contradicts it. Only insecure people like to brag about things like these.
Altho my friend has changed over the year, he's saying this much less now.
Sometimes in the past he would get a little overcocky he woujld say things to piss me off which i did, whether its jokingly or not he'd say it to me. Yet i got upset over these silly little things for no reason at all. But now whenever he says that **** to me, i give him a good response back, and example the other day:
"no one likes your music" (meaning him and our friends)
"what? **** you all, i like it!"
we both said this to each other in a jokingly way, as we always do. well recently anyway
that response was definitely something i wouldve never thought of in the past cause i worried about to much. Yet responses like these is what makes him respect me more.