Recovering AFC, been lurking for a while, wanted opinions on this one:
Met a women in a bar last week, had a great night, snogging, dancing, hands all over each other etc. At the end of the night, I said I was going and was going to ask for her number but she asked me for mine before I had the chance so I suggested swapping. She called me straight away as I was there to check it was genuine (lol, I think I look suspicious giving my number because I was struggling to remember it because it was new). She sent me an SMS first thing the next morning, was SMSing me all day asking questions and complimenting me (She was looking at some pictures on a social network site and was saying that I was hot etc.) and carried on SMSing me all week; I wasn't even replying to all of them as I was busy and then I called a couple of days ago and said we should meet up tonight and she seemed keen; even SMSed me a minute later saying it was great to speak and she was looking forward to it. All the signs seemed right, she seemed to be in hot pursuit of me and then BAM... a few hours ago, she sends me an SMS (i.e. she doesn't call) to say, sorry something has come up can we reschedule it for another night? I tried calling a bit ago, no response but she sends another text message saying that she can't go into it but it is a family situation etc. but she was looking forward to meeting up and she hopes we can sort something else out.
1) What is this bullsh1t? I don't understand how she couldn't at least have called an offered a bit of an explanation seeing as she was chasing me all week and seemed really keen. That is of course assuming there was a 'family situation'
2) Should I even give her another chance or is that just too weak?
I know that the fact that I have let this bother me is the first mistake but as I said at the beginning, I'm improving all the time but am still pretty much a chump at these things but normally I can tell when someone is going to mess about or not and she seemed keener then girls I have been out with for long periods!
Met a women in a bar last week, had a great night, snogging, dancing, hands all over each other etc. At the end of the night, I said I was going and was going to ask for her number but she asked me for mine before I had the chance so I suggested swapping. She called me straight away as I was there to check it was genuine (lol, I think I look suspicious giving my number because I was struggling to remember it because it was new). She sent me an SMS first thing the next morning, was SMSing me all day asking questions and complimenting me (She was looking at some pictures on a social network site and was saying that I was hot etc.) and carried on SMSing me all week; I wasn't even replying to all of them as I was busy and then I called a couple of days ago and said we should meet up tonight and she seemed keen; even SMSed me a minute later saying it was great to speak and she was looking forward to it. All the signs seemed right, she seemed to be in hot pursuit of me and then BAM... a few hours ago, she sends me an SMS (i.e. she doesn't call) to say, sorry something has come up can we reschedule it for another night? I tried calling a bit ago, no response but she sends another text message saying that she can't go into it but it is a family situation etc. but she was looking forward to meeting up and she hopes we can sort something else out.
1) What is this bullsh1t? I don't understand how she couldn't at least have called an offered a bit of an explanation seeing as she was chasing me all week and seemed really keen. That is of course assuming there was a 'family situation'
2) Should I even give her another chance or is that just too weak?
I know that the fact that I have let this bother me is the first mistake but as I said at the beginning, I'm improving all the time but am still pretty much a chump at these things but normally I can tell when someone is going to mess about or not and she seemed keener then girls I have been out with for long periods!
. I'm still on the road to recovery but sometimes, I get in a bad mood and act like an idiot. I need to learn to control that and keep my smile, good mood and confidence a bit more constant no matter what goes on around me. As it turned out she started texting again and saying we should meet up the next afternoon. I couldn't respond straight away as I decided to follow my own advice and have a night out at a club on my own and to make sure it was a good one. After a couple of pints, I started to get in a good mood again and just told myself I was going to have a great night and I did. Was dancing like a wild man, chatting to loads of girls and inviting myself to join big groups sitting down all night. If people asked where my friends were, I just told them that they had gone home but I was having such a great day that I decided to stay out. I think I managed to turn this around so that rather then people thinking I was pathetic, they were impressed that I was man enough to go and enjoy a club on my own (which was what it actually felt like to me). I ended up going back to some girls house for what was supposed to be a party (but there was only me and three other girls there! lol) The two who didn't live there ended up going home and I ended up snuggled up on the couch with the girl whose house it was. We were chatting for a while and she said she had to go to bed and asked if I was staying, so I said yes and went in her room. She went out to get some water and when she came back, I had taken my gear off and gotten into her bed. She joked when I came back that I was a bit forward so I laughed it off and said no, it looked too comfy, you should come and join me. So ended sleeping with her. She wasn't as good looking as the other girl but at the end of the day, it has put me in a pretty good mood. The other girl was texting the next day asking if I still wanted to meet up in the afternoon but I was too tired and would have only been able to stay a couple of hours (family commitment that evening) so I just suggested another night and she seemed keen.