What's so great about your 30s if you don't get married anyways?

[Listen_to_Olly]

Talking about it all being women and dating related, not about other aspects of life which are definitely going to be better (more money, etc.).

Maybe I was spoiled by the game growing up and had a chance to experience things like being over at a house with my friend and some hot girls or getting invited to a sorority formal in college. I guess I loved the validation that came from the guy more than I loved the actual sex itself, as I have admitted many times. It doesn't seem like avenues for that really exist in your 30s like they did when you were younger.

I read some of these posts on other sites where they talk about how 30s are the prime for a man but really, they don't talk about how great it can all really be. Most guys aren't going to have a chance to be a Dan Bilzerian but for guys that have some out of pocket money and decide not to get married, it seems like I've picked up the following things.

1 - You can somehow travel to different places or do stuff you always wanted to do, but what's the point if you're going to be lonely as hell doing it?

2 - You can date hotter younger girls. TBH, I don't see it all that often. It seems like most hot girls I know in the 18-25 age range are dating hot and popular guys in their age range, it is the misfits and uglier girls who seem to go for older guys.

When asked what's so great about your 30s if you don't get married, it's all of things about how you get to avoid getting divorce raped but that's kinda like me advertising a product and instead of telling you what's so great about it, telling you how awful the other product is so you should pick mines instead.

I guess it is all down to personal preference, I've always loved company and could not stand being alone for long periods of time. Social interaction, friends, companions, and all of that means so much to me. Maybe the 30s are great for guys who are naturally misanthropes that prefer to be lonely as opposed to socially outgoing guys that prefer to have company.

I am one of the few that think that there are ways for a guy to get married, have kids, and live a great life. I think to myself about the other path though, what is so great about being a bachelor in your 30s anyways?

 

[Who Dares Win]

Its called FREEDOM and being the master of your life.

Thats what you get in your 30s, then its up to you if you enjoy the chance of express your free will or suffer the course of being on your own.

Its not about women or else its about you, for the first time in your life you are really free.

You're not cursed with your mother telling you what to do, not a teacher is forcing her view and judment on you.

Now its up to you, you can suggest your boss to get the fvck off and find a new one or better yet be yourself the boss just as an example.

Personally the costs and the risks are well worth the chance.

 

[Young OG]

Not every guy wants to be married and have kids in his 30s. I lived with my ex and our kid for 5 years or more. What I found out was that the family life wasn't for me. I don't think I was ever cut out for it. I like having alone time and being able to do what I want. I want to be able to go out late on the weekends and sleep till noon. I like not having someone try to tell what to do. It's all about freedom.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

I read the post and got annoyed. Kid do what YOU want....My goals are to be rich travel the world and have FREEDOM and gain worldly experiences. Lonely? When you are well cultured and have decent game you will be banging chicks from different countries.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

In your 30s you start to KNOW THYSELF. There might not be a better feeling in your life

 

[foreverAFC]

im in my 30s now, all my friends who got married and had kids are looking old and out of shape now, some of them have had divorces and abortions or gave birth to a kid who had medical issues they had to deal with from the very start etc..... on the other hand, me and a few of my friends who stayed single spent all our time hitting the gym, practicing martial arts, and enjoying our hobbies and we all look younger than our actual age

yeah im lonely a lot of times but then i get on facebook and look at all the people i knew who are all out of shape now and stuck in marriages/relationships with some fat gross chick they knocked up and i feel way better

 

[Listen_to_Olly]

im in my 30s now, all my friends who got married and had kids are looking old and out of shape now, some of them have had divorces and abortions or gave birth to a kid who had medical issues they had to deal with from the very start etc..... on the other hand, me and a few of my friends who stayed single spent all our time hitting the gym, practicing martial arts, and enjoying our hobbies and we all look younger than our actual age

yeah im lonely a lot of times but then i get on facebook and look at all the people i knew who are all out of shape now and stuck in marriages/relationships with some fat gross chick they knocked up and i feel way better

Based on your name, you aren't getting laid are you?

No offense but I rather by our friends in that situation.

 

[foreverAFC]

Based on your name, you aren't getting laid are you?

No offense but I rather by our friends in that situation.

like i said i am lonely, but its a result of my many inner demons more than anything else. my few friends who stayed single are all able to have the occasional relationship that isnt too serious or the occasional one night thing, and they seem to be doing well. ive said it before though, i would rather feel lonely than be stuck in a loveless marriage with some chick that looks like chris farley and a kid that needs to be taken care of

 

[BreezyB84]

I'm in my early 30's and I just found this forum..I'm scared in one sense but at the same time, I couldn't attempt to begin this new journey im on if I was married..

 

[Poon King]

30's is a great decade for any red pill man.

For blue pill betas and co-dependent faggots it can be a scary time to be single. Betas think a lot like women and believe their clock is ticking and they will get rejected by society, family and/or friends if they don't fall in line with the cookie cutter life path they have been condition by Disney movies to accept as the norm.

Once you learn to think outside the box, you will understand why 30's is so great for men.

 

[raider87]

I'm 30 next year. For me 30's is when the pimpin begins. I paid my dues in my early 20s with embarrassing rejections, now the tables have turned and I plan to abuse my power and ride the ***** carousal so to speak lol.
I'm also not sure if the family/serious relationship life is for me. I like freedom to do what I want and I train like a maniac.

 

[MrWood]

i would expect these concerns from a much older man
The 30 opens everything up, date old/young.
Being 50, I still get some early 20's, date mostly 30 something... main plate is 33

Age aint shlt, but if I could pick an age to attract all the womenz... 36/38

 

[Trump]

What's so great about your 30s if you don't get married anyways?

You are assuming for the 30s to be great, you have to be married. If that's not a terrible terrible assumption, I don't know is. It seems like you are angry about your own shortcomings and are projecting them on us.

I am one of the few that think that there are ways for a guy to get married, have kids, and live a great life. I think to myself about the other path though, what is so great about being a bachelor in your 30s anyways?

Again you are equating marriage and kids with a great life. Major assumption.

Because you are not experiencing the full effects of bachelorhood and pretty girls not cooperating with you, you are completely ruling bachelorhood out and saying marriage is the only way to go in the 30s. Essentially you are saying "If this product doesn't work for me, I'm going to tell everyone its garbage and put it down for everybody." Brutal reasoning bro.

 

[Listen_to_Olly]

like i said i am lonely, but its a result of my many inner demons more than anything else. my few friends who stayed single are all able to have the occasional relationship that isnt too serious or the occasional one night thing, and they seem to be doing well. ive said it before though, i would rather feel lonely than be stuck in a loveless marriage with some chick that looks like chris farley and a kid that needs to be taken care of

No, that is actually a big ****ing issue. If you're "lonely" and have "inner demons", you don't need to be on a ****ing dating or seduction forum. You being on here, having thousands of posts, and still being lonely is like going to a law school forum for years while you have no intentions of going to law school.

All you're doing is coping with misery as the years fly by and one day you wake up and realize, it's too ****ing late. I mean what the hell is the matter with you people and why did anyone even like his posts? This is not okay at all, it is the embodiment of what is wrong with so many of these sorts of places.

If you haven't gotten laid, are lonely, and aren't having much success then you don't have any business on here unless you want to change that which in your case you don't.

 

[skinnyguy]

Well first of all you have more money than you've ever had, and you care less about little stuff.

That being said I'm not happy. The problem with me is that it takes a LOT for me to be happy. Some guys would be happy with a $12 an hour job while living with their parents. For me, I want way more happening in my life. If anything I'm a bit bored and somewhat jealous of the guys who are in Ltr because they have travel partners and a bigger social circle. What I'm not jealous of is the arguments and withholding of sechs.

What I'm really happy about: I'm not divorced and I don't have kids from some random wh0re.

 

[Roober]

I am 34, divorced in January. I can tell you that 30's is the better age to settle down if that is your goal. You are well established in your career, likely have a decent net worth if you were smart, and banged all through your 20's. I got with my wife at 20 and only recently divorced. We have two beautiful boys that I would never give back. But looking back, women hold men back. At that age, they become a distraction with the marriage and/or kids. They may not have the same goals and don't always support your dreams, my exwife certainly didn't.

30's
-have a wider pull range. older women want mature men, younger women are tired of the boys in their age group
-should have a solid foundation
-your not thinking with your dingaling so much. You still have a healthy sex drive, but make more sound decisions

Now I have only been divorced since January, so I may be singing a completely different tune a year from now. I will tell my boys to wait until their 30's to settle down to get themselves a home, a solid job, a good woman, etc. Getting married in your 20's was more feasible when our average life expectancy was 60 or so. With people living to 78+ years now, you would think that number would go up as well, but nooooooo, there is still so much pressure to marry in your 20's.

I got to a point in my marriage where I asked myself.. "is this it?" I am willing to bet 90% of married individuals ask the exact same thing... most stayed married because frankly it's easier

 

[bigneil]

To be honest, I enjoyed my 40's way more than my 30's. That's because I started commanding $80+ per hour after I had 20 years experience in my career. That, combined with dating experience makes thing go extremely smoothly.

By year (and estimated number of women I seduced)

Age - # HBs
-------------
18 0
19 1
20 3
21 0 (used to hope and pray)
22 1
23 1
24 0
25 1
26 1
27 2
28 3 (used to host parties)
29 1
30 1
31 1
32 1
33 1
34 1
35 1
36 1 (suddenly old enough to be their dad)
37 2
38 1
39 0
40 1
41 4 (master seducer level)
42 2
43 4
44 5
45 4
46 5 (living on borrowed time)

 

[BlueAlpha1]

1 - You can somehow travel to different places or do stuff you always wanted to do, but what's the point if you're going to be lonely as hell doing it?

Brother I'm not an expert on this post in general since I'm still in my 20's. I don't know what people are referring to when they say how great the 30's are and I often wonder, BUT I do know this one area above.

Travel is my passion. I's what I do when I have even a little bit of spare time and money, and I often do it alone. I invite others - friends, family, and 90% of the time no one can join. So I go anyway. Fortunately with the rise of the youth hostel in the 21st century, it's almost impossible to be lonely traveling to big cities now no matter where you are in the world. 20 minutes of research into a hostel's reviews and reputation, and you can find one that is specifically geared for the solo traveler who needs to meet people on the road. A good hostel will create activities, game nights, and pub crawls to help you get to know other travelers just like you. There is no reason for anyone to ever feel lonely traveling anymore.

Put it this way, I'm a shy guy who doesn't chase women when I'm home. I actually get a lot of guff at work for being so reserved and anti-social, and it's really annoying. And even I have gone on dates with foreign women from the Czech Republic, Germany, and New Zealand. And the charm of these girls puts North American women to shame. I've also met a few guys I could talk politics or play chess with, and I still have their contact info a year or 2 later.

 

[foreverAFC]

No, that is actually a big ****ing issue. If you're "lonely" and have "inner demons", you don't need to be on a ****ing dating or seduction forum. You being on here, having thousands of posts, and still being lonely is like going to a law school forum for years while you have no intentions of going to law school.

All you're doing is coping with misery as the years fly by and one day you wake up and realize, it's too ****ing late. I mean what the hell is the matter with you people and why did anyone even like his posts? This is not okay at all, it is the embodiment of what is wrong with so many of these sorts of places.

If you haven't gotten laid, are lonely, and aren't having much success then you don't have any business on here unless you want to change that which in your case you don't.

hey dont get mad at me cause i refuse to be a typical out of shape guy who is willing to settle with some gross chick just for some sex

 

[Fireballs]

I work 2 weeks on 1 week off. On my week off I fly to Bali to live as it's cheap and only 3 hours away. It is so easy to get laid over there if you have some game and I'm not talking about Balinese girls , but from girls all over the world .. There is world class surf there too and a genuine community feel which is lacking in Australia ..

My married friends hate me lol