Whats on My Mind....(Advice needed)

[Slick101]

Woman situations;

Check this..

Broke up with GF about 1 year 6 months ago, due to religious views, age, and other personal BS.
Have been on and off With woman, a lot has been on my mind. I’ve been getting great results on POF but every girl that is on their has problems. I met a lot and banged a lot however, still not happy. I am on a different schedule on work right now 9-5, and I cant stand it Im thinking about leaving. My energy has been through the roof for the past year for no reason just BSing around and what not however lately, I stopped going out because I am just annoyed at a lot of things. My success is not THAT great. I don’t get HB9-10s , Lately Ive been having bad luck meeting, chicks who I thought were hot they ended up being ugly when I took them to the beach or saw them dressed differently I can see that they were not as good as I though they were. I went on a blind date yesterday, I met the girl couple of days ago, while I was driving I got her numer, AND she ended up being fat. I made an excuse to leave an hour later.

Anyhow, last night, I read an email that my EX had sent me 1 year 6 months ago, just after we broke up. I was in love with this girl, and a lot of people knew my situation with her on these forums. (for those of you who know me)

Right before I read the email, I felt happy in terms of where my mentality was, and the fact that it is summer, on a scale of 1-10, I was an 8.
After I read the email, I teared. I realized how much I miss her and I wanted her back. She said a lot of things to me, but last time I read it I was in an emotional state, now Im thinking logically and saw that she was right about a lot of things. And I really feel low now.

I feel like I want to quit work because it is not my career and just a job to make money for the summer. I am 21 and not 100% set on what I want to do.

I know its wrong to go back to her and im not going to do that, but I want to be happy again. I want to have a great GF that will love me, and a great career that I love. Both, are not working out for me right now and Im very confused and need help. Im a great listener and I take advice strongly.

Thanks a lot fellas, I really appreciate it. This is the only source that keeps me moving after I feel low.

 

[thevilittletroll]

the most common problem with this type of situation is...that it usually doesnt work out, and you fall deeper into the rut you feel that your in now. most people say the same things before they get back together with an ex. they say that i'll do things differently, and we'll go back to the same place we were before things got hairy. the reality is that it very rarely ever happens that way. the best chance that you have to get back with you ex, and for it to end up being a successful relationship, is for both of you to be over each other before getting back together. the issues that you are having now with chicks are a result of your breakup. i'd say keep practicing your game, and improve to the point where you are confident enough to get with whoever you want. if at that time you still want your ex gf? i say go for it. one last point, its much easier to start from scratch with a clean slate than it is to fix something thats already broken.

ps: not all hot chicks (10's) have great personalities, just keep searching till you find one

 

[Slick101]

the most common problem with this type of situation is...that it usually doesnt work out, and you fall deeper into the rut you feel that your in now. most people say the same things before they get back together with an ex. they say that i'll do things differently, and we'll go back to the same place we were before things got hairy. the reality is that it very rarely ever happens that way. the best chance that you have to get back with you ex, and for it to end up being a successful relationship, is for both of you to be over each other before getting back together. the issues that you are having now with chicks are a result of your breakup. i'd say keep practicing your game, and improve to the point where you are confident enough to get with whoever you want. if at that time you still want your ex gf? i say go for it. one last point, its much easier to start from scratch with a clean slate than it is to fix something thats already broken.

ps: not all hot chicks (10's) have great personalities, just keep searching till you find one

Im not saying I want to get back with her. Im saying I am confused as to how to improve my game and start gaming great chicks and plan a career.

 

[sinnerman]

i can understand how u feel. im 21 as well broke up wit my serious gal last july though we were in touch till a few month back. ive too screwed around and all but emotionally im still not over her. i too read old texts & it brings everything back. the best & realistic way is not try and replace her. just accept that it was there in the past & let it be. dont try and replace her with some other gal coz by comparing and all you'll remain unhappy

 

[Slick101]

Deff. Makes menfeel lonely

 

[thevilittletroll]

Im not saying I want to get back with her. Im saying I am confused as to how to improve my game and start gaming great chicks and plan a career.

the answer to your question is quite simple. you have to just put her out of your mind and practice your game. the only way to get better at game is to practice, plain and simple. focus more time on practicing in the field, rather than reading. as far as hb10's go, if you see one, game her. you cant control wether or not she has a good personality. game her anyway just to practice, thats all you can do.