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What's my next move?

Oni

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Well long story short, i met a girl. definite interesting coming from her side. lots of kino involved. shes always having a great time and laughing while with me. my question is, im ready to have my first real relationship, and i plan on asking her after a while but i dont know how to go about it. never asked someone to be my gf before so idont know how to approach it. advice?
 

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IceCream said:
Don't do it, if you really like this girl, dont ask until she literally brings up being exclusive.
Exactly.

Start seeing her two or more times a week, and doing stuff, and it will feel like it to her, then she'll ask.
 

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IceCream said:
dont ask until she literally brings up being exclusive.
Yeah i agree. If she wants a relationship you'll know it for sure. (cause she'll request it)

Don't worry about it though, focus your energy on just having fun, and go ahead and have sex with her .(from your post doesn't sound like you've even done that yet) Whatever you do don't be needy for a relationship.
 

JDA70

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Well you could just sit around all day and wait for her
or you can go get what you want.

So what you going to do?

I suggest you go get what you want.
 

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Coming from one "exclusive" relation, I would advice you to never commit to a woman exclusively until you know you are ready. I may never commit until maybe in my late 50s....
Don't ask her to be exclusive. Even if she brings it up, tell her you're not ready to be exclusive and simply enjoy the ride or RUN!
 

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alright, form what most ppl posted, it seems i have to wait for her to ask for it. will do that. the thing is i thought if u stick around a girl too much without making your move, you enter her friend zone or something like that
 

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JDA70 said:
Well you could just sit around all day and wait for her
or you can go get what you want.

So what you going to do?

I suggest you go get what you want.

I agree. We are acting like girls are the enemy. They are human too just like us. How much time do we have to sit around and wait? If the girl likes him and the stuff they do together, she'll definitely say "yes". If she doesn't, she'll say "no, you are boring".

I'd go for it. You wait around and she meets Brad, you're in trouble.
 

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DonJuan11 said:
I agree. We are acting like girls are the enemy. They are human too just like us. How much time do we have to sit around and wait? If the girl likes him and the stuff they do together, she'll definitely say "yes". If she doesn't, she'll say "no, you are boring".

I'd go for it. You wait around and she meets Brad, you're in trouble.

All were saying is that when a guy has developed himself into a good catch he'll have girls always trying to course him into a relationship. From what he posted it doesn't seem like this girl is doing that. Also wanting to be in a relationship, thinking about how you can "get her to be" your gf etc is coming from the wrong frame of mind in my opinion.


And Oni i think your confused, if your worried about getting into friendship zone. Were not advising you to sit around with her all eager hoping she'll suggest a relationship. You should be already having sex with this girl and should be in a f*uck buddy setup with her right now. If your sexually involved with her then friendzone isn't going to be an issue. Just HAVE SEX with her asap!
 

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@DonJuan11
Thanks :)

alright, form what most ppl posted, it seems i have to wait for her to ask for it. will do that. the thing is i thought if u stick around a girl too much without making your move, you enter her friend zone or something like that
Wrong! You go make her your GF or else you put yourself
in a position to end up in the friends zone.

the thing is i thought if u stick around a girl too much without making your move, you enter her friend zone or something like that
You got that right dude!
 
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