Whats my move here? I'm lost

[DJx420]

Hey guys,

Alrighty so heres my new situation...I ended up fvcking a girl like 2 weeks ago. Now this wasn't just good sex....This was AMAZING...like I felt a real connection with this girl and she said she felt it too...We had a great weekend and all.

So here I am minding my own business a few days later and I get a text saying "Taylor knows you and I fvcked...I thought you were more decent than that.."

Now the only people I told were 2 of my buddies. She only told 2 of her friends. She claims her friends would NEVER tell a single soul and I claimed the same.

The conversation pretty much ended up with her saying "I'll get over it" and I responded saying something like "Yea, I don't want this problem to come between what you and I have."

Now that was around 5 hours ago and she hasn't answered me yet. Usually I would think shes busy or just trying to get me jealous by not answering but this time I think it may be different I don't know.

So I'm asking you guys for my help on my next move in this situation. I know most of you won't answer me but I'm really at a lose here and could use a helping hand in this situation.

Be good my boys.

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

"I thought you were better than that"? As if you had sex with her during an out of body experience? I don't know how old you are, but my only response to retarded shaming tactics is either to ignore them or say "Takes two to Tango" in your situation. You both did what you wanted to do, now all the blame is supposed to fall on you.

By your references to "who told who" and the like, I am assuming you are in high school. Let the firestorm go on around you, but don't let it bother you, or you will be acknowledging that you do, in fact, feel guilty. You shouldn't, and don't let these little cvnts try to make you feel that way.

 

[DJx420]

i'm actually in college...maybe i didn't explain this enough..

my situation is that i had sex with this girl and i she claimes she doesn't like people knowing her personal business...which is understandable. however some ugly cvnt found out, and then called her out (yes like were in highschool) and the girl flips out on me for it saying she thought i was better than that -- meaning better than to spread that stuff around..

 

[Kevin Feng]

There really is nothing you can do here. Just keep you're cool, the only real thing you can do at this point is be genuine with her.

Call her and let her know that you didn't do anything to harm her and would have no motive to do so.

At this point, **** hit the fan and it seems like neither you or her know how it happened, so as far as I'm concerned, this incident happened out of your control.

Sounds like she's upset with you and maybe lost some trust. Remember, you cannot control everything with pick up logistics. Just keep your cool buddy, keep calm and stay in control. Keep your frame.

-Kevin

 

[wjh]

Well, who is "Taylor" to you and her?

Is Taylor her ex?

 

[wjh]

I don't think you should invest anything in this girl emotionally, she sounds like trouble.

Some girls like to keep secrets like who they sleep with because they're conniving status seeking wh0res.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

"Yea, I don't want this problem to come between what you and I have."

This seems a bit extreme to say after only having got with this girl 2 weeks ago. That could have thrown her for a loop and be part of why she hasn't responded.

It's natural that she would blame you immediately, because of course her friends are perfectly loyal and yours are liars.

If you truly don't want anyone to know something, then don't tell anyone. Most people can't keep secrets.

 

[DJx420]

"Yea, I don't want this problem to come between what you and I have."

This seems a bit extreme to say after only having got with this girl 2 weeks ago. That could have thrown her for a loop and be part of why she hasn't responded.

It's natural that she would blame you immediately, because of course her friends are perfectly loyal and yours are liars.

If you truly don't want anyone to know something, then don't tell anyone. Most people can't keep secrets.

I didn't quite explain the situation to the fullest again lol. In my previous posts I talked about meeting this girl in my city (she stayed here for 2 nights -- both of which I got with her) and then we talked EVERY day via text messaging (because were both in Europe and our USA phones are too expensive to call on) and then I saw her in her city and got with her 2 nights there and then this happened.

So to explain myself better on that quote is I feel as if we both are "kinda" close to one-another because we built quite a large rapport over text messaging (I know kinda weird/afc-ish) but whatever what's done is done.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

If you care enough, why not do some investigating? You'll probably come up with nothing, but sometimes I like to pursue these things to see who isn't being loyal. It will probably be a fruitless effort, but I guess I'm just a curious kind of guy. That's why my friends call me whiskers.

*Edit: I meant about who leaked the info. It doesn't really pertain to this girl, but I guess I'd want to know where the leak/mole is.

 

[DJx420]

By doing some investigating, I'm assuming your referring to the fact about her being into me?

I see where your coming from but I do not see a way to do that without coming off as needy..

 

[joshlavarn2009]

Don't write to her. Change your mindset. You are entering afc mode. A Don Juan would be pissed that she was giving you lip about the sex. She should be proud of screwing you, not being a pissy girl about it.

If you like her, friggin ignore her for a week. Go hit on some other girls. Get your game on. Go get your rocks off at a strip club. Get your mind off her, she will smell the desperation on you.

If you try to fix things it will just get worse.

Just get your game on with a new girl, don't talk to her, actually be pissed at her and the best thing you could do if you want to write to her is to send a txt saying a jerky thing like - "I don't get why you are embarrassed about it. Seems you have some problems." Go into jerk mode and you will save this situation. Never friggin apologize. LISTEN!