Whats life...other then getting laid?

[S.U.R.F.]

Hey sup bros. surf here.

I have changed a lot over the summer and now I'm starting college. I no longer feel like "pursuing" women. Like the whole getting their number and trying to make them like me kinda thing. I only watched porn once in the past like 4 weeks. It feels good and I'm more calm about things. Bottom line is, I still want to get good(realllly good) with girls, but I no longer want to do the whole AFC pursue(getting their msn, or talking to them alot) of women.

Im trying to focus on other things like study, sports, mma, etc. I have more time now cuz I used to spend it on pursuing women, e.g. msn and ****. How do I improve my skills? Or does my increasing confidence just takes care of it?

Also...whats life other then getting laid? Experienced don juans, answer me. I want to hear your thoughts.

 

[S.U.R.F.]

bump hump

 

[Chromeo]

so your getting a lot of tail and realizing its not the end all be all. Thats when your eyes start to open and you start giving yourself more goals besides simply bagging a hot chick. Figure out some career goals and focus on your health if thats what your into, or any other hobby, music/cars/food whatever

 

[S.U.R.F.]

not really, still havent gotten a girlfriend. watched porn once in the last month. feels like theres more to life then getting girls man. i dunno.

 

[Lexington]

I believe that what all men need to find true happiness is a purpose. They need something to strive towards and something that gives them meaning in life.

I have only recently come to realize this. Before that, I had no real goals or sense of purpose....I was simply interested in the pursuit of pleasure (material possessions, women and partying). Only very recently, I realized that these things don't give me a sense of fulfillment. I'm still trying to figure out what my purpose is.

I say find a goal. Something that you really want to achieve. It should be something that consumes you. Sure you will have other things going on in your life, but you will always have a beacon towards which you are constantly headed. In a world full of confusion, you have something to focus on; a reference point. You will enjoy this challenge because you will feel that it is what you were meant to do.

Who's an example of a guy with a sense of purpose? Steve Jobs. You can love him or hate him, but the guy clearly has a purpose in life. He has made billions and he and his family could live very comfortably for several generations off of it. But he still works long hours every single day. Even in ailing health, he wanted to keep doing what he was doing. What is driving him? His incredibly strong sense of purpose.

That's just one famous person that came to mind. There are plenty of others out there as well. The happiest men in the world are those who can go to bed every night knowing that they have accomplished something they believe to be worthwhile.

 

[Chromeo]

See I feel like I have goals but have not fulfilled my desire to party and have wild sex with multiple women. Im hoping to establish myself financial and fulfill that before my late twenties.

Everyone around seems content with their entry level or bartender/boutique job, having enough money to get wasted 3 nights of the week and go to a cubs game or concert or what have you on the weekend.

 

[DonGorgon]

You need money to to pay for food clothing and shelter

 

[mustfirstregister]

getting laid is not everything. I'm tired of getting laid really.

 

[Acq]

Career, money, own business, power over people, travelling, meeting interesting people.

 

[Maxfarsigth]

Also...whats life other then getting laid?

Im no experienced DJ but I can tell you around 100 reasons about what life is all about!! (At least what my life is all about... and what I want it to be).

Gathering as much experience as posible in as many things as possible.
Knowing a lot of people and visiting a lot of places.
Experience the largest amount of situations including tough ones.
Breaking the records I want to break.
Showing my family and friends Im always more than what they though.
Develop myself in as many aspects of life (career, friends, health, finance, sex, relationships, family) and keeping them high and balanced.
Trying to do everyday or at least every week one of the things I LOVE: going to the beach, driving a cool car, listen to new good music, flirt with a girl, have sex, eat a very complete and tasty breakfasf (I just love all that:rockon
...etc etc etc.

Its about feeling happy and confortable on ones skin.
Like wanting to be no one else but ME!

VERY IMPORTANT: I am pretty sure that if anyone wants to be a Don Juan It is critical to understand what he wants in life and what makes him happy! (this is an advised given to me from someone from here... ill start a thread about it).

In fact!!
Thankyou! CAUSE I DINDT THOUGHT I HAVE SOOOOO MUCH TO LIVE FOR! :rockon: :rock: :yes:

 

[S.U.R.F.]

Awesome Max! I feel that its true there are many things to do besides getting women. Random hookups are like for what? Only to satisfy the need to orgasm, which I don't seem to need anymore because of my lack of porn watching and masterbating. I mean even if my biggest crush in high school had a sex vid right now on redtube, I probably wouldn't even touch myself as I watch it (if i watch it). I feel like the need to "want" something from girls is getting weaker. Instead of talking to a girl and "making her like you", I feel like I should be myself and if the girl doesn't like that, there will be others you know?

I think I got my inner game down pretty good. Not only for women but to be a better and happier person. I dont really read other threads anymore, its like somewhat contaminating my view point of things. I mean if your really a god damn alpha male, why should you limit your behaviour to what ebooks or forums tell you to do. Individual scenarios aren't really good and it all needs to be calibrated anyways. Like when I'm talking to this really cute girl, maybe I feel like I should tell her a little bit about myself or do something that people say I shouldn't do. After all, I'm alpha male now, it seems that listening to ebooks and **** is stupid. Which is why I just scroll down the forum until I see my name on this thread, I don't really bother looking at other threads.

Also I realized that theres social programming(your behaviours), and then theres inner game(your mindset). Although inner game will definitely bring good success with women. Its from the social programming that you get after having inner game for a period of time. E.g. you learn to act confidently as a habit after having inner game and the behaviour ingrained into you. Like someone disrespected me the day before, and I didn't feel bad from it, but rather I don't know how to express myself properly. Its frustrating cuz its like you try to express yourself but you don't speak english. Same thing with girls, sometimes you really enjoy a girls company and its hard to express that you know? So yeah, theres people with good seductive behaviours but are very insecure, thats a bad way to go I think.

Recently I find that a lot of girls can look "radiant". Like shes smiling and happy and suddenly you kind of think shes just pretty darn amazing and the cutest thing in the world. It doesn't even have to be that one girl you really like, but it takes more to bring that side out of a girl who isn't all that attractive, but its there. Its really nice and I want to bring that out of more people.

Do I sound like a pansy? :cheer: haha, but yes definitely more to life then just women.

 

[Sir Psycho Sexy]

1.Money
2.Power
3.Sex

 

[J. Darko]

Life is about getting what you want. What do we want. We want to experience pleasure with our senses. That's why we like winning a game, that 's why we like eating, that's why we like drinking, sleeping, sex, showers, sunsets, flowers, movies, etc. All means to an end. All input to our senses to make our brains releases chemicals that make us feel good.

So you see, you just changed your means. Instead of having sex, you try to bring the best out of people to make you feel good about yourself. The funny thing is, the reason you changed your means, the reason why you care less about sex and more about bringing out the best in people, is because it's something you have control over. It's easier for you to obtain pleasure that way and it's a pleasure that lasts longer. You just switched to a more rewarding means of obtaining pleasure.