what's it mean when girls talk about other guys?

[mungro]

This has happened to me in the past before bunches of times. Most recently, I talked to a girl that I met just briefly months ago... We hit it off and began chatting about a few topics, (we both went to the same college). And I asked her what she was up to that weekend, and she told me about how she was going to so-and-so town to "stalk" a guy she liked... Of course I pretended to entertain her for a few moments longer wished her luck on her stalking adventure etc... sorta made fun of the situation a bit. And then I suggested that if she's ever in my area, she can visit me in the city... she says, sure and gives me her cell phone number. And that was it...

The problem is... what the heck is going on when girls start talking about other guys? Personally, I've always found that to be weird and almost offensive. Are they just running some sort of test again? Are they socially verifying that they are interested in other men? Is that supposed to be some signal? I don't know, its just a peeve of mine... it doesn't always happen, but it happened recently and I wanted to see if somebody could explain it. And how to deal with it. Thanks

 

[Interpol]

There's a slight chance she's trying to make you jealous or test your reaction, but usually it's a sign she's not interested.

In any case, it's best to make a quick brush-off comment and change the subject.

 

[vaan]

i was going to say the jealous thing too

 

[[]D [] []V[] []D]

I think it read somewhere that it means she wants to do those things with you or something..

But my own opinion is that it means that she thinks of you as a friend and shes not interested...

BUT this is a topic that i would really like ppl replying too cuz its happening to me too!

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

yo..what if a chick goes out of her way to tell you about another guy. for example, this is an old B!tch that i next'd, i called her and she said something like "ohh i thought you were _____, this guy that i met at a bar, your number looks just like his" at the time i said "hah, ok" and quickly got to the point i was tryin to get to. She was an AW, so i thought it was a sign of her trying to show me that iam just "another guy" in her pool of afc's.

 

[mungro]

gimmeyofonenumba,

that's exactly what I'm talkin about! once in awhile you meet one of these girls... and she just finds a way to slide a story in about another guy like that... its absurd in my opinion.

my personal feeling is that these girls are sending out not interested signals, and furthermore they are trying to shoehorn you into the friendship zone when they start laying "boy stories" on you... but maybe I'm just misreading them... maybe they are just setting up a test.

that's why, like Interpol says, I usually make a polite brush off and then just change subjects. I don't know if that's the right way to do it...

 

[Viking25]

I gotta disagree . Talking about some random guy a girl dated is a major sign of interest. Usually 16-19 y.o girls do that tho...the mature ones don't do that sh1t anymore.
I think what they trying to convey is that they are not tottal losers and other guys have been interested in them. Kinda like they want you to be jelous a little.
That's pretty much all that's happening in young girls lifes...boys!..They got nothing else to talk about. The best way to deal with this is jokingly say: "oh..that guy sounds cool...what happened?" Then she'll say:" oh no..he was an ashole!"..
Just make your move on a little hoe then.

 

[Craig Reeves]

Hm.

It could mean that she's interested in the guy, but that certainly doesn't mean that she's not interested in you either.

Girls can be interested in more than one guy.

 

[Nightspark]

why we can all sit here and discuss how many formulas and concoctions that you think this girl is using to 'test' you, or you can just ignore it completely.

if she starts talking about some other guy, just ignore it. It's neither a test nor a warning, it's just something that they do to try and annoy us.

think about it for a second! It's the same underhanded sh~t people use to try and jump out of a girl's 'friend zone'. jealousy indeed is a motherfycker not to be trifled with, as it can be a double edged sword.

Godspeed b~tches!
-Nightspark

 

[joe45]

or maybe her talking to other guys is just making freinds uh duhhh and nothing more.
if a gal talked to me i'll talk back to her if she was a nice gal and all ,doesn;t mean i want her for gf or date just friends and all. both sexes can be just freinds and thats all and nothing more. if it happens that i like her and all then i will ask her out if not i talk to all girls and even guys too eveyrone