What's a response in this situation

[jafyk]

I have been cuddling with a girl before and I start to reach into her clothes and start explore her geography, she doesn't try to stop but asks me "What are you doing?". How do you respond to this?
The other things is while doing it with a girl and she comes, but I haven't yet. She says, let's take a break and then after the break she doesn't want to continue. I normally feel played in this situation. What does this mean and what's the reaction to have?

 

[true romance]

I have been cuddling with a girl before and I start to reach into her clothes and start explore her geography, she doesn't try to stop but asks me "What are you doing?". How do you respond to this?[/I]

I just want to check your clothes size..

I just want to check your body temperature...


tell her: Sure we take a break ...after I come....keep banging..

 

[jafyk]

lol, i like those replies. I will use it next time. Thanks. Is there any reason they ask those questions and say lets take a break?

 

[PectoralisMajor]

'im a gynachologist - its my job'

 

[daygameguy]

HER: What are you doing?
YOu: I'm making your day

Use LMR freeze outs for any resistance.

But in your case you are getting played I guess. Next time just as she is getting really turned on.. stop and discontinue. Let her feel the discomfort. She won't play you next time.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

HER: What are you doing?
YOu: I'm making your day

Use LMR freeze outs for any resistance.

But in your case you are getting played I guess. Next time just as she is getting really turned on.. stop and discontinue. Let her feel the discomfort. She won't play you next time.

2nd, just get yours first by teasing her and then you won't have much to worry about.

 

[darkme_legendary]

Ignore it and continue slow but steady.
You can also change the subject and continue in a second. Build some anticipation in the mean time.

 

[Slick101]

HB: What are you doing?
YOU: Everything

DONE!

 

[dalton]

Her: What are you doing.
Dalton: Lets just say...pause for effect, sly smile...christmas will *** early for you..

Her: What are you doing.
Dalton: Well a real man always cums second.

Her: What are you doing?
dALTON: shut...up.

Her: What are you doing.
Dalton: My fingers are cold.

Ha ha , I crack myself up.

Cheers

Dalton

 

[Rebound Material]

HER: What are you doing?
YOU: Checking if you have a d!ck...

 

[jafyk]

To Dons

Dons, that was the first time I had done it with her. Normally, aren't guys supposed to last long? Even though I tend to last long the first time, the 2nd time it takes me longer to get there. This is a girl long in the past I was just doing some re-evaluation. Besides it's hard for me to *** wearing a condom.

 

[jafyk]

'im a gynachologist - its my job'

Pectoralis you are very funny, but I believe that's not how to spell that word, lol.

 

[Mistic]

I have been cuddling with a girl before and I start to reach into her clothes and start explore her geography, she doesn't try to stop but asks me "What are you doing?". How do you respond to this?
The other things is while doing it with a girl and she comes, but I haven't yet. She says, let's take a break and then after the break she doesn't want to continue. I normally feel played in this situation. What does this mean and what's the reaction to have?

It is highly unlikely she came before you, unless she is 40 years old. You are not ****ing her right, or she's just not that into it.

As for the "what are you doing?" comment. If you are getting this it is because you are moving faster than she is prepped for. You have to escalate to the point she wants you to be doing it. She sounds surprised, which means you didn't do your groundwork.

 

[Mistic]

BTW, dont listen to any of the above advice given to you. I dont know what happened to the knowledgeable posters here, but they certainly aren't on this thread yet.

 

[DannykDJ]

Alot of sexual inexperienced guys giving advice in this thread.

First of all when a girl says "what are you doing" in a situation like this, she is just playing dumb and it means absolutely nothing. Don't waste your time using highschool lines when she says something like this. Just kiss her and start doing your thing. If she is in the bed with you then she is fully aware of what is happening, and if she isn't it means you're in bed with a retarded girl. If you're still having to do that ****y funny act when you're already in the bed then you're already a few steps behind.

Why you guys feel the need to put on that ****y funny act 24/7 is beyond me. When a woman is in the bed with you, you don't have to pull highschool one liners to escalate things. You should be handling your business getting the two of you off, not worrying about what lines to say. In situations like this the only time your mouth should be moving is when it's between her legs.

I can guarantee you she didn't climax and when she said "lets just take a break" it was only to get you off her because you were doing a bad job . There is no mistaking it when a woman comes. I'm not trying to sound harsh but the reason she's not getting into it more is most likely because you're doing it wrong.

I recommend going on google and reading up on proper foreplay of how to kiss her body, finger her, and how to eat her out so that she gets off and is super aroused before you even begin having sex. There are even videos on how to properly finger and go down on a woman (not porn). I have never been with a woman who lost interest in having orgasms so the problem is on your part. Read up on proper technique and the practice it on her and eventually you will be a sex machine. Get to the point when you can get her off multiple times and you won't have this problem, but you need to know what you're doing first.


And to the guy who said that you should stop in the middle of it, stop giving advice. If you want her to be more sexual with you and crave it more then you will achieve that by giving her multiple orgasms not stopping before she comes. Stopping in the middle of bad foreplay and bad sex isn't gonna make her want it more.

 

[jafyk]

Alot of sexual inexperienced guys giving advice in this thread.

First of all when a girl says "what are you doing" in a situation like this, she is just playing dumb and it means absolutely nothing. Don't waste your time using highschool lines when she says something like this. Just kiss her and start doing your thing. If she is in the bed with you then she is fully aware of what is happening, and if she isn't it means you're in bed with a retarded girl. If you're still having to do that ****y funny act when you're already in the bed then you're already a few steps behind.

Why you guys feel the need to put on that ****y funny act 24/7 is beyond me. When a woman is in the bed with you, you don't have to pull highschool one liners to escalate things. You should be handling your business getting the two of you off, not worrying about what lines to say. In situations like this the only time your mouth should be moving is when it's between her legs.

I can guarantee you she didn't climax and when she said "lets just take a break" it was only to get you off her because you were doing a bad job . There is no mistaking it when a woman comes. I'm not trying to sound harsh but the reason she's not getting into it more is most likely because you're doing it wrong.

I recommend going on google and reading up on proper foreplay of how to kiss her body, finger her, and how to eat her out so that she gets off and is super aroused before you even begin having sex. There are even videos on how to properly finger and go down on a woman (not porn). I have never been with a woman who lost interest in having orgasms so the problem is on your part. Read up on proper technique and the practice it on her and eventually you will be a sex machine. Get to the point when you can get her off multiple times and you won't have this problem, but you need to know what you're doing first.


And to the guy who said that you should stop in the middle of it, stop giving advice. If you want her to be more sexual with you and crave it more then you will achieve that by giving her multiple orgasms not stopping before she comes. Stopping in the middle of bad foreplay and bad sex isn't gonna make her want it more.

Danny, like I said at the beginning we were cuddling on the couch. I'd figure i'd start exploring so that we can both do it. Like I said she asked what I was doing. I said nothing, I just paused momentarily and continued. She didn't try to stop me. While I think it's a stupid question coming fromt he girl. I do think the one liners above are funny and useful.
As far as me doing a bad job with the sex etc. I doubt it. I've been with a lot of women. Example I knew this one girl she'd let me finger her and eat her out and she seemed to be enjoying it (I know because she keeps getting weather and her breathign changes) but she wouldn't do the deed itself with me and then she says let's take a break and then we never continue. I've noticed that when it's a girl I'm in a steady relationship with a break means a break and we normally continue afterwards. To me if the girl is not enjoying it first I'm not. I get my pleasure first and foremost from the reactions coming from the girl, then secondly the way it feels to me.

 

[DannykDJ]

I was just pointing out the most common problem in this situation. If you can rule out that you're performance isn't the problem it means that she has a hangup somewhere that is preventing her from being comfortable with sex or it may be because she is inexperienced herself.

Assuming you want to put the time into this woman, you can either talk to her about it and find out whats wrong or you can take your time and delay your own pleasure until she gets to a point where she is comfortable enough around you to follow all the way through.

Sure some of those lines are funny, but that doesn't mean you should use any of them. You already have her in bed. That is not the time for talking. These other guys are more concerned with the illusion of being sexy to the girl than they are with actually being sexual with her. When she is in your bed it's time to prove

Bottom line is she isn't enjoying herself and if you want to enjoy yourself with her then you need to talk to her and find out why

 

[jafyk]

DannyKDJ, this girl is long gone, about over a year gone, lol. I was just looking back on some problems I had encountered and what to do about such situations before they arise again.
Danny, if she was already in my bed I wouldn't care that she asked that question. This happened when we were sitting on the couch and watching a movie but I was doing this to get her to the bed which happened eventually. I mean why would a girl ask that question to begin with. It almost sounds like she needs an answer. Anyways this girl is 27 yrs now.
The other girl who just liked to be fingered, I thik with her I was in the LJBF zone but yet she'd allow me to finger her but not touch her boobs (claimed it was sensitive), kissing her was out of the way and the sex well, it was history. ANyway, this is from the past.