Whats a good plan to set dates with girls met in club?

[Who Dares Win]

Straight to the point, what is the best way to set dates with girls met in clubs, both when you had time to build rapport and when you just worked few minutes and got the number.

I know that the more rapport built, the less chances of flake but thats not the point, Im more interested in your opinion about creating the date.
In my case Im mostly focused on a girl I spent about a hour at the club and escalated through kisses and kino, and an other girl with which I had the chance to talk for about 5 minutes at the most.

So some elements would be, how many days after the first meeting should be established the contact and how far from such contact the date have to be scheduled.

My plan was to call in the beginning of this week and take a date for an other week day like having a drink in the city center in day time and working from there, Im kinda good in creating the frame and escalate when alone with a girl but Im not that good in planning via phone or texts, thats why your opinion would be appreciated.

Please share as much info as possible also for the other guys to elaborate further, +1 to any useful tip.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Straight to the point, what is the best way to set dates with girls met in clubs, both when you had time to build rapport and when you just worked few minutes and got the number.

I know that the more rapport built, the less chances of flake but thats not the point, Im more interested in your opinion about creating the date.
In my case Im mostly focused on a girl I spent about a hour at the club and escalated through kisses and kino, and an other girl with which I had the chance to talk for about 5 minutes at the most.

So some elements would be, how many days after the first meeting should be established the contact and how far from such contact the date have to be scheduled.

My plan was to call in the beginning of this week and take a date for an other week day like having a drink in the city center in day time and working from there, Im kinda good in creating the frame and escalate when alone with a girl but Im not that good in planning via phone or texts, thats why your opinion would be appreciated.

Please share as much info as possible also for the other guys to elaborate further, +1 to any useful tip.

....are you trying to turn a club pickup....into a relationship? :nervous:

 

[yyc12]

Do girls you meet at the club...actually...want you to call them and go out on dates???? In my experience I've never had success with this. Back in the day, I'd get to the making out at the club then get the number, thinking they were interested only to get flaking when I got around to calling them in a day or two. The problem is, when you make progess at the club, you kinda have to keep the momentum going (as in the SAME NIGHT) or the girl loses interest altogether. Making out, getting a number, then waiting to call her to go out on a date is a bit of a regression. Makes more logical sense to hit it the same night and the women expect that anyway.

P.S. I'm new here, go easy on me, lol; I'm just trying to get better and not be so much of an AFC as you guys put it.. I'll admit that I'm still a bit AFC when I really like someone though, .

 

[Who Dares Win]

....are you trying to turn a club pickup....into a relationship? :nervous:

Guilty

Naa I dont have any problem here, I just want to enjoy as many rides as possible without investing or worry too much about the outcome, I give it a try.

So any suggestion?

Do girls you meet at the club...actually...want you to call them and go out on dates???? In my experience I've never had success with this. Back in the day, I'd get to the making out at the club then get the number, thinking they were interested only to get flaking when I got around to calling them in a day or two. The problem is, when you make progess at the club, you kinda have to keep the momentum going (as in the SAME NIGHT) or the girl loses interest altogether. Making out, getting a number, then waiting to call her to go out on a date is a bit of a regression. Makes more logical sense to hit it the same night and the women expect that anyway.

P.S. I'm new here, go easy on me, lol; I'm just trying to get better and not be so much of an AFC as you guys put it.. I'll admit that I'm still a bit AFC when I really like someone though, .

What you say makes sense and I agree but sometime its hard to close the deal especially when you hunt alone and your girl has a large and in charge c0ckblocking friend.
At that point its worth trying, I mean her not picking up the phone is the worst scenario which lead to the same result of no trying at all.

 

[yyc12]

What you say makes sense and I agree but sometime its hard to close the deal especially when you hunt alone and your girl has a large and in charge c0ckblocking friend.
At that point its worth trying, I mean her not picking up the phone is the worst scenario which lead to the same result of no trying at all.

^^^Well this exact thing happened to me back in the day. Met a chick at the club, did LOTS of making out, I though the logistics didn't allow for anything more to happen that night so nothing else happened; got her number, tried to call her the following day, no dice. I knew her friends got to her. The thing is, you have lots working against you. You have to c-blocking friends of course, and you have the stubbornness of the girl in question. Most women just don't believe that a guy they met at the club is going to be interested in getting to know her for dating/relationship; it's going to be hard to convince them. The time between you getting the number, the club closing, and you getting around to calling them is PLENTY of time for her friends to get inside her head and give her a million reasons not to go any further with you. You have to hit the girl the same night before she has time to think and debate about you and the situation with her c-blocking friends.

Anyway, this is my experience. Women have completely ruled out the possibility of a guy at the club that actually wants more than just sex. The minute I gave up on the club for finding an LTR/dating, the more fun I was able to have.

 

[ARrocket]

EDIT: Sorry, I misread the question.

I agree that you should be making the date fairly soon to keep your momentum going, it's easy to forget about folks you meet in a club.

And I personally don't like setting dates very far in advance, maybe 2 days max.

 

[In2theGame]

You have to strike while the iron is hot, So IMO soon after. Another thing to take note is if she's still contacting you back and forth through either text or phone. If the momentum is there set something up soon. If you met her during the weekend then schedule something for the weekend coming up or end of week.

BTW, if they liked you alot they will still be open to a date and meeting up long after. I have about 3 HB8's that i met month and a half ago and they are still open for dates with me.

 

[In2theGame]

^^^Well this exact thing happened to me back in the day. Met a chick at the club, did LOTS of making out, I though the logistics didn't allow for anything more to happen that night so nothing else happened; got her number, tried to call her the following day, no dice. I knew her friends got to her. The thing is, you have lots working against you. You have to c-blocking friends of course, and you have the stubbornness of the girl in question. Most women just don't believe that a guy they met at the club is going to be interested in getting to know her for dating/relationship; it's going to be hard to convince them. The time between you getting the number, the club closing, and you getting around to calling them is PLENTY of time for her friends to get inside her head and give her a million reasons not to go any further with you. You have to hit the girl the same night before she has time to think and debate about you and the situation with her c-blocking friends.

Anyway, this is my experience. Women have completely ruled out the possibility of a guy at the club that actually wants more than just sex. The minute I gave up on the club for finding an LTR/dating, the more fun I was able to have.

This guy's right about the C-blocking. Thats why her interest has to be pretty high to pass her hating friends. Especially if your the hot good looking guy, if they cant have a guy like you, they will make sure her friend wont either.

 

[yyc12]

This guy's right about the C-blocking. Thats why her interest has to be pretty high to pass her hating friends. Especially if your the hot good looking guy, if they cant have a guy like you, they will make sure her friend wont either.

^^This!! I'd say that you don't even have to be hot. Misery loves company and if they're not getting any attention that night, they won't want their friend to either.