Originally posted by Ratisson
This is what i've been saying all along. KINO IS USELESSS.
So keep ur hands to urself, because its shows her that u got class, aren't desperate, and it makes her feel more comfortable.
That is true with some women in some situations, not true with others.
The real problem comes from wanting to rely on absolute rules like "never do this" or "always do that" in an area of life that does not lend itself to absolute rules. Social interaction is not the same as programming a computer.
Absolute rules are fine for keeping children safe from harm: "NEVER cross when the light is red" "NEVER talk to strangers" etc.
But rules like that are crude and too limiting for adults. It is expected that through experience an adult will learn about the exceptions and develop his judgement about when he should or should not do those things.
Regarding kino, some women in some situations will respond better to a gentlemanly hands off approach while some women in some situations will respond better to certain forms of kino. Don't try to get around the need to develop and exercise your judgement by expecting some simplistic rule to tell you how to act with all women in all situations.
plUS U WONT TURN HER OFF.
Actually if you keep your hands to yourself all night with a woman who is expecting you to make your move, then you will turn her off. That is why learning about when and how women DO want to be touched is a mind blowing concept for newbies. Some newbies might start out by being too "grabby", but most newbies on this site are more likely to start out with the opposite problem of being overly focused on not doing anything wrong for fear of upsetting their date.
In the process of being super careful to not do anything wrong they will come across about as dull and lifeless as a wet noodle. Those are the guys who end up feeling like a woman "owes" him something at the end of the night just because he worked so hard to be a respectful gentleman all night. Then, when she doesn't "put out" the guy tells himself that she's a bytch, so he can blame her instead of facing the fact that in "not doing anything wrong" he is not doing anything right either.
U gotta watch the things that u read into regarding dating advise.
Thats why i only listen to doc love.
-RAtisson- who's glad he's not brainwashed by these idiots on this stupid ass website.
First you say you "only listen to Doc Love", and in the next sentence you say you're glad you're not brainwashed by idiots on this site?
If you listen to ANY one source of advice exclusively then you are brainwashed yourself. It's okay to listen to everybody, but take it all with a grain of salt and temper it with YOUR experience and judgement. That is how you will develop an "inner guidance mechanism" and learn to rely on your own judgement so you aren't dependant on other people's advice or simplistic rules.
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