What you think about and what you focus on is what you attract

[RazorRambo24]

Just a small reminder that alot of guys on here need to really start changing their mindset and ASAP. The more and more you program your mind to believe a certain thing and think about a certain thing or certain ideas, whether about women, abotu money, about life, etc.. it becomes really hard to change that-- and thus the universe reciprocates by only showing you things that make those beliefs seem true..

I mean im sure you guys read books and have read stuff by dudes like Napolean Hill, Dale Carnegie, Earl Nightingale who preach this stuff because its simply truth about how life works -- so why is it you choose to think about bad **** when it comes to women, knowingthat this will inevitably be the only reality you see because you are simply reaping what you sow?

Theres a reason why bluepill guys are so optimistic and positive about women, and why their positivity is based on great experiences they have and why most blue pill guys end up in happy relationships while redpill dudes seem to forever loath women and best they can do is when they level up to a high income, ripped physique, nice car, seem to just sleep around but still not find a good "girlfriend" material type chick.

If I learned nothing else from this life, the most important thing I learned is that your OUTLOOK is EVERYTHING. What you BELIEVE about YOURSELF and LIFE, is INEVITABLY what you REAP.

Edit: I forgot to mention, the reason why you think the way you do is, not because any of its true.. Its because you LACK SELF ESTEEM AND CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF. You are plagued by your inexperiences.. or past circumstances and have struggled to move forward. Start finding 1 or 2 activities you can start progressing in, I recommend hitting the gym everyday. That progress in one area alone will help you in multiple areas of your life and self confidence. Next: stop watching negative nonsense content online.. Focus on more progressive content that is wholesome or will help build your mindset in a positive manner. Next: do something simple like MEDITATE. Why is meditation so powerful? because your mind already knows what you want subconciously.. but it never has time to allow itself to settle down enough with all the information and mental chatter to sprout ways or attract circumstances that will lead to your goals.

 

[Canadian_Man]

Sounds like the law of attraction, without the spiritual lingo.

 

[eli77]

Are you saying this cuz you read books like the science of success or the secret?

 

[BorisBeef]

I can confirm this.
Every day you can be 1% better than the day before. It takes a lot of work and effort, recognizing the mechanisms that operate in the brain and the internal saboteur can screw you if you let it be.
Highly recommended to keep a diary and perform emotional control exercises, in my case they have been perfect.
Going back to practicing contact sports has restored the balance of serotonin to my system.
When you make peace with yourself, and focus on building confidence, there's nothing a man wants and can't do.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Sounds like the law of attraction, without the spiritual lingo.

Yep. I just dont like the term law of attraction becsude its almost like a buzz term now but in essence, thats what it is.

Are you saying this cuz you read books like the science of success or the secret?

Neither of those books but its just what I found to be true in life. Should be common knowledge at this point since many books and self development experts preach this **** left and right these days.

This forum def needs the advice

I can confirm this.

Every day you can be 1% better than the day before. It takes a lot of work and effort, recognizing the mechanisms that operate in the brain and the internal saboteur can screw you if you let it be.

Highly recommended to keep a diary and perform emotional control exercises, in my case they have been perfect.

Going back to practicing contact sports has restored the balance of serotonin to my system.

When you make peace with yourself, and focus on building confidence, there's nothing a man wants and can't do.

Well said.

 

[C.I.Philosopher]

So where is my PS5 and 4k television?

 

[AureliusMaximus]

What you think about and what you focus on is what you attract

True, but only if you take ACTION.
A vision and plan that isn't executed into massive action is nothing but a worthless dream. A nice dream perhaps? Yes.. but still worthless.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

Theres a reason why bluepill guys are so optimistic and positive about women, and why their positivity is based on great experiences they have and why most blue pill guys end up in happy relationships while redpill dudes seem to forever loath women and best they can do is when they level up to a high income, ripped physique, nice car, seem to just sleep around but still not find a good "girlfriend" material type chick.

If I learned nothing else from this life, the most important thing I learned is that your OUTLOOK is EVERYTHING. What you BELIEVE about YOURSELF and LIFE, is INEVITABLY what you REAP.

Theres a reason why the road to family courts are plastered with poor bluepilled souls that had all the positivity in the world in their heads and hearts on their wedding day. The majority of men goes quite optimistic into marriage and what they get is a divorce rate of 50% which doesnt mean the other 50% do have a happy relationship and that they wouldnt rather escape if they had the balls, the money or no kids they care for.

You know, believing to be bulletproof doesnt actually make you bulletproof. Just because you want to believe you have a good girlfriend/wife material type, doesnt mean she actually is in the long run.

I dont know what it is with you simps repeating againg and again that everyone not buying into your disney fairytale is "loathing/hating women" and basically an "incel". It just shows that you understand nothing about male/female dynamics in LTRs, most likely due to a lack of experience.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

You know, believing to be bulletproof doesnt actually make you bulletproof. Just because you want to believe you have a good girlfriend/wife material type, doesnt mean she actually is in the long run.

Yep.
The very reason for the old saying I suppose?:
"She wasn't ever yours to begin with, it was just your turn."

There been loads of studies on this and women are very easily bored in relationships, much faster than men and their interest starts tanking after just 3-4 months like a stone unless you as the man does something about it.

 

[eli77]

Yep. I just dont like the term law of attraction becsude its almost like a buzz term now but in essence, thats what it is.


Neither of those books but its just what I found to be true in life. Should be common knowledge at this point since many books and self development experts preach this **** left and right these days.

This forum def needs the advice



Well said.

Hell yeah!!

 

[Dr.Suave]

Yes. And sometimes we sabotage ourselves. For example, let´s say you want to pull an HB10 or a girl with a bunch of green flags but you never improve yourself and spend most of your time with HB8s who can give you good sex but have a bunch of red flags

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Scientifically it comes down to neuroscience. You are not attracting as much as you filter only relevant data in your brain. This is done via the reticular activating system in our brain.

The easiest way to explain the "law of attraction" is when you are in the market for a certain make/model of car. Once you allow your brain to recognize something as relevant to your existence and how you wish to perceive the world, it "comes" to you. Truth is, it didn't come to you, it was always there, your brain just filtered it out. So now all of a sudden you start seeing that same make/model everywhere. It was always there, your brain simply didn't show it to you cause it wasn't relevant to your reality.

The same happens in dating and in life in general. You need to rewire your brain to a frequency/reality for which you wish you live. Your own brain needs to be on that same "vibe" and growth spectrum to allow people of that caliber to be visible in your life.

It is a complex and fascinating subject but that's pretty much it in layman's terms. Hope this helps.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Scientifically it comes down to neuroscience. You are not attracting as much as you filter only relevant data in your brain. This is done via the reticular activating system in our brain.

The easiest way to explain the "law of attraction" is when you are in the market for a certain make/model of car. Once you allow your brain to recognize something as relevant to your existence and how you wish to perceive the world, it "comes" to you. Truth is, it didn't come to you, it was always there, your brain just filtered it out. So now all of a sudden you start seeing that same make/model everywhere. It was always there, your brain simply didn't show it to you cause it wasn't relevant to your reality.

The same happens in dating and in life in general. You need to rewire your brain to a frequency/reality for which you wish you live. Your own brain needs to be on that same "vibe" and growth spectrum to allow people of that caliber to be visible in your life.

It is a complex and fascinating subject but that's pretty much it in layman's terms. Hope this helps.

Yep 100% This. I made a reddit post about this a while back specifically mentioning the RAS. It almost sounds like you read that exact post haha but I'm sure you just know how this shi.t works. It's really not rocket science.

Ofc there's alot more that it takes to attracting women in your life and having successful relationships.. But the major point here is all about mindset/reprogramming what you believe.. because if you believe that all women are just bad, horrible, all women dislike you or simply only want a tall rich dude whos handsome, then you're just setting yourself up for failure everytime. There's a reason why even tall handsome dudes have trouble with women-- its all their m indset and what they programmed themselves to BELIEVE.

The power of Belief is immaculate. Just like the power of HABIT, Consistency, -- But Belief is the thing that shapes and has people continue to do the habits toward something. It's the overall stencil for the picture which you paint. The brush strokes are the habits and actions necessary to make that picture come true.

 

[BadBoy89]

Bro you seem to get girls begging to have sex with you with your eyes closed but I don’t agree with this.

forgot to mention, the reason why you think the way you do is, not because any of its true.. Its because you LACK SELF ESTEEM AND CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF. You are plagued by your inexperiences.. or past circumstances and have struggled to move forward.

It’s not about lacking self esteem and confidence, it’s more about the system, a man’s genetics and the fact men want young hot women.

Guarantee most guys on Sosuave have confidence if push comes to shove. Guarantee most guys here can get a women in her mid late 30s losing her looks, especially if they have money. But that’s not what they want. The guys here are generally looking for young hot girls without making the interaction transactional. That is where men have problems. They want the girl to “have sex and (get pregnant) while she is young and he has nothing. They don’t want sex from the girl when she js 37 and he has assets”

The “past circumstances” will save men from bankruptcy and not being made of fool of. Because of what Ive seen what women can do, with society’s training and blessing, my goal is destroy a girls self esteem and make her cry, all while getting laid. This is what society has taught me to do:

Start finding 1 or 2 activities you can start progressing in, I recommend hitting the gym everyday. That progress in one area alone will help you in multiple areas of your life and self confidence. Next: stop watching negative nonsense content online.. Focus on more progressive content that is wholesome or will help build your mindset in a positive manner.

Gym is ok but generally women won’t care if a man not tall. I was ripped in my 20s, women could have cared less. I actually got more sex when I let myself go.

To avoid negative content online is to avoid reality. Wouldn’t advise men to ignore reality and just live in fantasy. They have to know it’s a brutal world out there that will destroy them if it can.

What you are saying is Positive and possibly true, but it’s alot of “self help thinking” Women only care about what you can do for them.

 

[SargeMaximus]

I should be banging pornstars 24/7 by this logic

 

[RazorRambo24]

I should be banging pornstars 24/7 by this logic

The idea of the post is about changing a belief system.. how would you by changing your belief system "should" anything? Should and change don't go together. This is like the preliminary step to not being a loser.. aka stop having a victim mindset about women.. That's literally what the point of the post is.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Bro you seem to get girls begging to have sex with you with your eyes closed but I don’t agree with this.



It’s not about lacking self esteem and confidence, it’s more about the system, a man’s genetics and the fact men want young hot women.

Guarantee most guys on Sosuave have confidence if push comes to shove. Guarantee most guys here can get a women in her mid late 30s losing her looks, especially if they have money. But that’s not what they want. The guys here are generally looking for young hot girls without making the interaction transactional. That is where men have problems. They want the girl to “have sex and (get pregnant) while she is young and he has nothing. They don’t want sex from the girl when she js 37 and he has assets”

The “past circumstances” will save men from bankruptcy and not being made of fool of. Because of what Ive seen what women can do, with society’s training and blessing, my goal is destroy a girls self esteem and make her cry, all while getting laid. This is what society has taught me to do:



Gym is ok but generally women won’t care if a man not tall. I was ripped in my 20s, women could have cared less. I actually got more sex when I let myself go.

To avoid negative content online is to avoid reality. Wouldn’t advise men to ignore reality and just live in fantasy. They have to know it’s a brutal world out there that will destroy them if it can.

What you are saying is Positive and possibly true, but it’s alot of “self help thinking” Women only care about what you can do for them.

This entire reply is you fighting cognitive dissonance. Even a child would be able to see the values of the post and be like "yes this makes sense"

1) having a positive belief system about anything is more likely to reap you positive result than an negative one. 11 yr olds would agree

2) Being in the gym is a positive confidence building habit.. not rocket science. Habits that build progress and confidence will only be good for you.