Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Dont drive drunk
"It provoketh the desire, but taketh away the perfomance."
Alcohol is NOT an aphrodesiac. True, it does lower inhibitions and perhaps disposes your wife to lovemaking. After 9 years I've perfected the 'pantydropper' - that magic formula of just enough alcohol to get her going, but not so much as to have her passed out over the toilet bowl. Still, sex is better sober and the obvious setback of whiskeyd!ck isn't going to improve her already dubious desire to have sex in the first place. Understand the dynamics of her sexuality too. Strike while the iron's hot and be sure to be up and ready to go at the peak of her menstrual cycle. I have my wife's period down to a science now and I know that she's physically ready to rock & roll here best by week 2. Catch her right after a wood workout and after I've come back from lifting and that's the benchmark for 'real' genuine sexual desire. You simply cannot inspire her to a standard of desire if one or both of you have a depressant in your blodstream. If anything you want to accelerate blood flow now impede it.
Spontaneous combustion
As Pook is wont to say, "predictable is BORING!" There's nothing more predictable than sex with the same person you've been getting busy with for 10 years. Oddly enough the spontanety principle is exactly why garbage advice like 'date night' and "keeping it fresh" articles in Marie Claire sell magazines and don't save marriages. All of these "freshen it up" ideas are predictable. For all of the wacky ideas you can come up with for 'new' sex, you're still fvcking the same old lady you married 10 years ago. You've got to be willing to push the envelope with her expectations of predictable sex.
Suggest it when she least expects it. Tell her to flash you her boobs or some other cheap thrill when the opportunity presents itself at the beach or somewhere semi-public. Creating a condition of desire doesn't have to directly and immediately lead to intercourse. Ask her for a hummer in the parking lot before you go to dinner one night. Even the asking is arousing. Even if she turns you down you can still use her rejection to your advantage since it implies that, perhaps at some point in time, she (or some other girlfriend you had) used to do this because she wanted to. When you do proposition your wife make it seem as if it just popped into your head at that very moment. Again, think covert, not overt. Overt requires planning and planning = predictable and boring. Covert implies spontaneity.
The Cardinal Rule of Relationships
In any relationship, whether romantic, personal, business or familial, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least.
This may sound Machievellian, but it holds true, especially in marriage. If you are asking who has the greater degree of control in your relationship the answer is always her. Just like a good DJ knows, she must come to you. If you are the PRIZE and she recognizes this, you wlll inspire genuine desire. Women don't want to marry other women (with the obvious exceptions), they want to marry men and you have to man up and be a man to do so. So many married guys I know have walked their entire married lives on eggshells becasue they put their wives in a position of being the gatekeeper of his own sexuality. "She's got the vagina man, I don't wanna piss her off" is the mantra they repeat to them and themselves. This then flows over into other aspects of their lives and places a woman (often unwantedly so) into becoming the authority in the marriage. Just as in single life, if her intimacy is used as her agency to get a desired behavior from her husband that's the value it has. When you can prove to her that her pvssy is no longer a rewarding reinforcer for her desired behavior of you remove this agency and reset yoursef on at least a partial footing of your prior bachelorhood.
As I stated, women don't want to marry other women, neither do they want to marry themselves. In becoming accommodating for her by allowing her sexuality to dictate their behavior, men often see identifying with a woman as the best course of getting laid in marriage. And like in single life this ends up putting a man in a sort of married 'friends zone', with which a woman feels obligated to have sex occasionally. You've got to avoid these traps by maintaining a stubborn sense of your own identity and actively protect against identifying with her. You have to make her want you, by being her opposite.
"It provoketh the desire, but taketh away the perfomance."
Alcohol is NOT an aphrodesiac. True, it does lower inhibitions and perhaps disposes your wife to lovemaking. After 9 years I've perfected the 'pantydropper' - that magic formula of just enough alcohol to get her going, but not so much as to have her passed out over the toilet bowl. Still, sex is better sober and the obvious setback of whiskeyd!ck isn't going to improve her already dubious desire to have sex in the first place. Understand the dynamics of her sexuality too. Strike while the iron's hot and be sure to be up and ready to go at the peak of her menstrual cycle. I have my wife's period down to a science now and I know that she's physically ready to rock & roll here best by week 2. Catch her right after a wood workout and after I've come back from lifting and that's the benchmark for 'real' genuine sexual desire. You simply cannot inspire her to a standard of desire if one or both of you have a depressant in your blodstream. If anything you want to accelerate blood flow now impede it.
Spontaneous combustion
As Pook is wont to say, "predictable is BORING!" There's nothing more predictable than sex with the same person you've been getting busy with for 10 years. Oddly enough the spontanety principle is exactly why garbage advice like 'date night' and "keeping it fresh" articles in Marie Claire sell magazines and don't save marriages. All of these "freshen it up" ideas are predictable. For all of the wacky ideas you can come up with for 'new' sex, you're still fvcking the same old lady you married 10 years ago. You've got to be willing to push the envelope with her expectations of predictable sex.
Suggest it when she least expects it. Tell her to flash you her boobs or some other cheap thrill when the opportunity presents itself at the beach or somewhere semi-public. Creating a condition of desire doesn't have to directly and immediately lead to intercourse. Ask her for a hummer in the parking lot before you go to dinner one night. Even the asking is arousing. Even if she turns you down you can still use her rejection to your advantage since it implies that, perhaps at some point in time, she (or some other girlfriend you had) used to do this because she wanted to. When you do proposition your wife make it seem as if it just popped into your head at that very moment. Again, think covert, not overt. Overt requires planning and planning = predictable and boring. Covert implies spontaneity.
The Cardinal Rule of Relationships
In any relationship, whether romantic, personal, business or familial, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least.
This may sound Machievellian, but it holds true, especially in marriage. If you are asking who has the greater degree of control in your relationship the answer is always her. Just like a good DJ knows, she must come to you. If you are the PRIZE and she recognizes this, you wlll inspire genuine desire. Women don't want to marry other women (with the obvious exceptions), they want to marry men and you have to man up and be a man to do so. So many married guys I know have walked their entire married lives on eggshells becasue they put their wives in a position of being the gatekeeper of his own sexuality. "She's got the vagina man, I don't wanna piss her off" is the mantra they repeat to them and themselves. This then flows over into other aspects of their lives and places a woman (often unwantedly so) into becoming the authority in the marriage. Just as in single life, if her intimacy is used as her agency to get a desired behavior from her husband that's the value it has. When you can prove to her that her pvssy is no longer a rewarding reinforcer for her desired behavior of you remove this agency and reset yoursef on at least a partial footing of your prior bachelorhood.
As I stated, women don't want to marry other women, neither do they want to marry themselves. In becoming accommodating for her by allowing her sexuality to dictate their behavior, men often see identifying with a woman as the best course of getting laid in marriage. And like in single life this ends up putting a man in a sort of married 'friends zone', with which a woman feels obligated to have sex occasionally. You've got to avoid these traps by maintaining a stubborn sense of your own identity and actively protect against identifying with her. You have to make her want you, by being her opposite.
