What you did RIGHT as an AFC

[Desdinova]

Time to take a look back into our pasts. When you were an AFC, what are the things that you did right, and did it work?

For me, it had to be Kino. I was out with this girl as a "friend", and I needed to let this woman know that I didn't want to be a friend and that I wanted more. I figured touching her might work, so while we were out, I leaned on her shoulder while looking at something she was looking at. Guess what? We ended up dating afterwards.

So, what did you guys do correctly? Did it work?

 

[Jariel]

Strangely, being too afraid to make a move or show any interest in women worked in my favour. I was hanging out with some scorching hot women and they were getting frustrated that I wasn't showing interest. In my head I was thinking "I'm not good enough, so I'm not even going to bother", but what they saw is me being cool and indifferent.

It used to get to the point where they were all over me, dropping hints and asking me out directly. Unfortunately that's when I'd reveal my inner AFC and blow it.

 

[zerocelcius]

The number one step out of AFCness was just letting go of my fears. It was a sudden and cut decision. Something in my life broke and I stoped giving a F. That is when I realized you can stop being afraid, and that life is too short to be quiet.

I know not everyone can just quit being afraid instantly, but if you want to try I am here to say that it is possible.

 

[booga]

when i was 21 i was on a trip w/a buddy & met a great girl, but since i was far from home & an afc the thought of gaming her didn't cross my mind. she showed me & my bud around town, we had a blast, then i went home. she wrote me (pre-email days remember) to tell me how much she liked me. i went back to see her & we had crazy sex 4 a week, then i returned home. after that she started f***ing someone else, then dumped him & tried to get me back, but i was young & emotional so i didn't go back 4 seconds.

anyway, punch line is, my disinterest got her where i wanted her, even though it really stemmed from lack of confidence.

 

[Aaron B]

I've always attracted girls naturally, but I was horribly AFC and didn't hit on girls at all in the past, I just took whatever came to me. Also I managed to run off a bunch of girls that were initially attracted to me because of how AFC I was.

When I met my ex-wife for the first time in college, for some reason I was able to pull off a picture-perfect seduction without trying.

I busted on her, refused to give her any of my power, and just generally treated her like my little sister. It was only after recently learning about seduction that I understood why this worked.

Other than that, the only thing I did right as an AFC was attracting women, everything else I did was wrong. I always had girlfriends but I spent all my time trying to appease them and eventually they couldn't take anymore and broke up with me.

 

[Schlep]

Some interesting stories.

The only thing that I have to contribute is that I've always had C&F, girls punching me/being playful, etc. Just never realized it before I found this site.

 

[shark]

I wasn't the biggest AFC i'll admit..but i was pretty good and making girls guess and not coming out and being too needy.

 

[thefonz]

I wasn't the biggest afc either, just afraid to initiate and got jealous very easily......what i've always known however is that if you act desperate around a girl or ANYONE for that matter it will scare them away. I was good about not 'acting desperate'

 

[il_duce]

Originally posted by Jariel
Strangely, being too afraid to make a move or show any interest in women worked in my favour. I was hanging out with some scorching hot women and they were getting frustrated that I wasn't showing interest. In my head I was thinking "I'm not good enough, so I'm not even going to bother", but what they saw is me being cool and indifferent.

It used to get to the point where they were all over me, dropping hints and asking me out directly. Unfortunately that's when I'd reveal my inner AFC and blow it.

Took the words right out of my mouth.

I don't think there's anything right about it though. The end result of that scenario (which I had many times as an AFC): failure AND regret. Some of my worst regrets stem from those AFC days.

It's one thing to get shot down by a chick, but it's another when she practically sets the table for you and you still mess it up. The latter leaves you with a feeling that is 10000x worse. :crackup:

Damn I'm glad those AFC days are over.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

When I was an AFC, I would always shower my girl with love and such, that all ended after getting rejected, dumped, etc in which I became more of a man with each girl trying to take advantage of me and weren't really interested in me completely.

There's nothing wrong about showering the girl with love, but not being able to have my own goals which in the case if she were to go away, I'd get all messed up.

 

[diablo]

Back before I found this site, I got physical as much as possible, kept her laughing, and didn't take no for an answer. If she hadn't put out by the second date, it was time to move on to the next girl.

Wait a minute, that's still how I operate. I guess some things never change.

 

[So pimp its scary]

Describe more or less everything AFC, and that's pretty damn close to how I acted before the 'wake up call' (which was getting dumped by the fugliest girl, then getting asked out by the hottest girl days later... only to shoot her down out of my own stupidity).

 

[Chosen1]

Begging

I begged this girl for her number and talked to her being friendly because at first I didn't want a relationship but I ended up going to the movies (a big no no for a first date) and she was in the bed with me that night (I'm still a virgin) but she later ended up breaking my heart and said I need to get some f-ing confidence 1 year later and i'm the biggest mack ever

 

[Dr Box]

Back in my AFC days I was great at c&f and laid back with girls........but only the girls I wasn't interested in, any girl I did like I would do and say anything I thought they wanted. For years I wondered how come I could always get girls I didn't want......now I know.