What Would You Do?

[gwoppin]

Apply this to YOURSELF:

- Out of the game entirely for a year or two
- Started getting back in shape, finances in line, social life getting back on track, etc.
- You've learned a lot of material / knowledge to help you with your game and some type of self improvement.

You want to get back into the game with these starting stats.

What do YOU do, based on your lifestyle?

 

[DJVision]

Out of the game for a year or two for what reason? LTR

Sounds like you're on the right track in regards to fitness and self improvement.

Are your intentions a relationship or Spinning plates?

Personly I would skip dating apps, they are atrocious.. Put a big focus on cold approach, and developing social circles in which you can meet females.

Sounds like your doing everything right!

 

[SW15]

Any social circle options? You said your social circle was getting back on track. Social circle is the way to find a girlfriend with the least grief and frustration.

I think @gwoppin was in the relationship for the last 1-2 years. That's not that long away from seducing new women and he was getting practice with relationship management.

I agree with the idea of avoiding the swipe apps. If no social circle options, then approaching strangers will need to happen.

 

[plumber]

get into a couple of new social circles, with men. get into a martial arts gym, lots of choices.

double check your clothing, teeth, hands, hair and make sure home and car is "clean".

if you still have free time (haha), get a class at the local college for anything related to your work or for learning a language.

 

[gwoppin]

To answer you both in one, i was just down bad.
No women, barely worked, no gym, no money, debt, zero confidence, total shut in...

@SW15 @DJVision

Definitely will be skipping over the dating apps!

I want to spin plates and have a successful social life. I finally feel like a NORMAL human being, and i couldnt be more excited to get involved with the world again.

@plumber I have been working on this for a couple of weeks since i had made friends with a couple guys from work.


To explain the part about feeling normal:
Ive had some childhood sexual / violence trauma, which was both by women. I had never realised but a lot of subconscious thoughts caused by this had manifested themselves into behaviours around women that wasnt good for pick up.

Essentially i worked through it all over the past few weeks and suddenly i feel 'normal' and just want to be part of the social life i see around me.



I am curious though, what would YOU do in this situation if you were you?

 

[BPH]

I am curious though, what would YOU do in this situation if you were you?

Start going out to bars on the weekends with friends.

Personally, I make most of my friends through the gym. You go regularly around the same time and you'll start to see a lot of the same people, most of which will probably be decently attractive guys in good shape. Start working in or asking for a spot and hang out with the guys you feel you'll mesh well with.

Then just go out. Thursdays, Fridays, and Saturdays can all be good and most of the women you'll see here will be single and at least somewhat receptive to being approached. I think that's the best way to get your feet wet.

Also, definitely get the dating apps if you're a good-looking guy. Don't expect much from them, but they can certainly be a source of some pleasant surprises, especially if you live in the city.

 

[SW15]

i was just down bad.
No women, barely worked, no gym, no money, debt, zero confidence, total shut in...

Definitely will be skipping over the dating apps!

I want to spin plates and have a successful social life. I finally feel like a NORMAL human being, and i couldnt be more excited to get involved with the world again.

That sounds like a bad time.

It's difficult to go out and seduce new women without employment and money.

In the early 2010s, on the heels of a nasty recessionary period, Roosh wrote an article about how to get laid when you actually find yourself unemployed. No one else in seduction communities ever wrote a guide to getting laid while unemployed.

Getting Laid While Unemployed And Living In Your Dad’s Basement

For males, a job loss is going to hurt their SMV. Most men are not able to apply the Roosh lessons from the early 2010s about getting laid while unemployed.

A lot of people were shut ins during 2020 and 2021 and it affected their mating lives. I didn't notice the world getting back to normal until around mid-2022. Between 2020 and 2022, plenty of people had somewhere between 6 and 24 months of lost time due to pandemic (closures, indoor masking, etc.) and job loss (2020 had a lot of job losses but 2021-early 2022 had more hiring).