Buddha_Mind
Master Don Juan
This is not in reference to the old Nickelodeon show, however:
At my place of work, which I have created a thread about already in terms of keeping myself metered there and keeping myself in check for self preservation purposes, there is a very cute intern soon on her way out.
She will be done with her position in 10 days or so, and has already told me she plans on not staying and moving somewhere new.
She is very sexually attractive to me, and I have gotten a strong IL from her.
However, I *have been* working with her, which will soon be in the past tense.
A good lifting buddy of mine, and one of my best new friends in this town, tried to get with her early on -- she denied him -- he's tried again -- she's denied him again. However my friend, a really good guy, hits on all the women around him all of the time, including my female roommate. Honestly, I don't give a fvck, but it makes matters complex, as I have wanted to try and get with this intern, but considering they had a burnt bridge together, I am wondering how he would respond if we hooked up before she left.
In some ways, I see him cuddling with my female roommate, they've made out, that's fine I don't give a sh!t, but then I am almost in some ways c0ck blocked from this chick because of their falling out.
Truth be told all the **** with them went down well before I had even started my position. I was initially interested in her, and it came to my attention, as my friendship with my buddy grew, that he had been interested in her at one point also.
Is this bad ju-ju to try and spend alone intimate time with her, despite their falling out?
In some ways I don't feel terrible about it because (a) he hits on every chick around him, likely irregardless if I have been interested in them or not, and (b) he has no apprehension making the moves on my roommate. So I ask why should I meter myself just because he was over-eager with this young intern and scared her away? Other women around me have told me that he comes off very strong, and then acts like a jerk, and this turns them off.
My association with him, has hindered any chances with some of the same females, as I do have a bro-love sort of allegiance to my buddies (lol I know this sounds gay but I think you get what I'm saying here).
I myself have sort of pulled my energy back from her too, because she did disrespect him (although in honesty of seeing his game in action I can entirely understand why she was scared away from him).
Do I try and spend time with her under the radar? Not tell my friend? Should I feel any guilt about this?
Or do I try and talk this over with him and get his perspective.
Truth be told, any chick who denies him, his "a fvcking bi.tch" and while I share his sentiments of frustration, I honestly have a very different mindset than him in regards to women. I wonder if even approaching the subject would complicate things, and also he may try and talk me out of it -- "she's crazy" that sort of thing.
But I genuinely value his friendship, I've made incredible gains in the gym with his help, and he's given me some great coding advice on a few web-based projects of mine. I want to preserve my friendship with him, but at the same time I fear any woman who comes near him, he'll hit on, if denied, label as a biatch and essentially now, because of my friendship with him, have c0ckblocked me from a chick who is sexy and could really be a lot of fun for however long it lasted.
/edit/ My goal would be to try and setup an alone time session with the intern shortly before she leaves town, use kino, charm and warmth to share a good time before she leaves. I feel fairly good IL vibes from her, and am about 80%-85% sure I'd be in, but bc of work situations, etc, I def have toned back things...so there is the possibility she wouldn't be down, but seems like a shot and I'm wondering if I'm just being way to AFC about this **** and would he do the same thing as I would if the situation was reversed?
What would you do?
At my place of work, which I have created a thread about already in terms of keeping myself metered there and keeping myself in check for self preservation purposes, there is a very cute intern soon on her way out.
She will be done with her position in 10 days or so, and has already told me she plans on not staying and moving somewhere new.
She is very sexually attractive to me, and I have gotten a strong IL from her.
However, I *have been* working with her, which will soon be in the past tense.
A good lifting buddy of mine, and one of my best new friends in this town, tried to get with her early on -- she denied him -- he's tried again -- she's denied him again. However my friend, a really good guy, hits on all the women around him all of the time, including my female roommate. Honestly, I don't give a fvck, but it makes matters complex, as I have wanted to try and get with this intern, but considering they had a burnt bridge together, I am wondering how he would respond if we hooked up before she left.
In some ways, I see him cuddling with my female roommate, they've made out, that's fine I don't give a sh!t, but then I am almost in some ways c0ck blocked from this chick because of their falling out.
Truth be told all the **** with them went down well before I had even started my position. I was initially interested in her, and it came to my attention, as my friendship with my buddy grew, that he had been interested in her at one point also.
Is this bad ju-ju to try and spend alone intimate time with her, despite their falling out?
In some ways I don't feel terrible about it because (a) he hits on every chick around him, likely irregardless if I have been interested in them or not, and (b) he has no apprehension making the moves on my roommate. So I ask why should I meter myself just because he was over-eager with this young intern and scared her away? Other women around me have told me that he comes off very strong, and then acts like a jerk, and this turns them off.
My association with him, has hindered any chances with some of the same females, as I do have a bro-love sort of allegiance to my buddies (lol I know this sounds gay but I think you get what I'm saying here).
I myself have sort of pulled my energy back from her too, because she did disrespect him (although in honesty of seeing his game in action I can entirely understand why she was scared away from him).
Do I try and spend time with her under the radar? Not tell my friend? Should I feel any guilt about this?
Or do I try and talk this over with him and get his perspective.
Truth be told, any chick who denies him, his "a fvcking bi.tch" and while I share his sentiments of frustration, I honestly have a very different mindset than him in regards to women. I wonder if even approaching the subject would complicate things, and also he may try and talk me out of it -- "she's crazy" that sort of thing.
But I genuinely value his friendship, I've made incredible gains in the gym with his help, and he's given me some great coding advice on a few web-based projects of mine. I want to preserve my friendship with him, but at the same time I fear any woman who comes near him, he'll hit on, if denied, label as a biatch and essentially now, because of my friendship with him, have c0ckblocked me from a chick who is sexy and could really be a lot of fun for however long it lasted.
/edit/ My goal would be to try and setup an alone time session with the intern shortly before she leaves town, use kino, charm and warmth to share a good time before she leaves. I feel fairly good IL vibes from her, and am about 80%-85% sure I'd be in, but bc of work situations, etc, I def have toned back things...so there is the possibility she wouldn't be down, but seems like a shot and I'm wondering if I'm just being way to AFC about this **** and would he do the same thing as I would if the situation was reversed?
What would you do?