What would you do next?

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I took this job and the first day I was greeted by this very attractive female whose eyes caught my attention, she then smiled and said "hi" I looked at her lips and thought "God I want to kiss her right now!"

She and I hit it off very well and talk everyday when we are both at work. She writes and asked me to read in something of hers like a journal. I did and in a week gave it back to her. She immediately brought me another book of writing and handed it to me. This book rode around in my car for about two weeks before I even opened it. I was eating lunch and remembered it and started reading. On the last page was a quickly scribbled note that read "Lately I've been toying with the idea of f'cking the sh't out of you."

I was thrilled and went inside, got a sticky note and wrote something like "I have been thinking about this for some time now." and gave it back to her. We openly discuss sexual things, have had a coffee date, a after work sushi date. I am calling these dates but they were very short and uneventful.

Once I walked with her to her apartment which is across the street from where we work to fix her computer. Later I told her that 'She had no idea how much constrain and willpower I was using to not take her.' (rarely have I ever been alone with a girl and not made some advance.) She said that she had thought that and was proud of me. (I am 41 and happily married for 21 yrs in an open marriage and this girl is 21 has a pipsqueek for a boyfriend)

Three weeks ago she asked me to come to her apartment to watch some comedy show during her break. As I sat on her couch I reached up and moved her hair back and started kissing her neck, she relaxed and fell into me. We made out for about thirty minutes and there was absolutely no resistance from her. We kissed heavily again just before we left her apartment and later that night in one of the rooms at work we made out like crazy again.

We see each other at work but we are so interrupted with the phone ringing and me taking care of clients. She has to deal with her boyfriend and I with my two daughters and wife.

I know if I ever get her alone for any length of time we will have sex. I attempt to maximize oppourtunity of time together, I just want it not to be at work or her apartment. She has agreed to go out sometime or even come out to my house it is just the timing issue.
 

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dhouston1000 said:
We see each other at work but we are so interrupted with the phone ringing and me taking care of clients. She has to deal with her boyfriend and I with my two daughters and wife.

I know if I ever get her alone for any length of time we will have sex. .
Don't do it man. You've got a wife, two daughters....if you love your family, show some restraint. Do the right thing.
 

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I sense danger here. Work an play generally don't mix when it comes to women. You're taking your chances if you continue with this. If it's worth it to you, then do it. I wouldn't.
 

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what would I do? IF I was happily married..truly happily married, I walk away.
You've already crossed the line by goin to her apartment and makin out with her. And its just a matter of time before you bone her. Dont come back her in a few months cryin about how ur wife found out and now wwants an divorce and the other woman tells u its over and she only slept with u because she has "daddy Issues".
 

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dhouston1000 said:
(I am 41 and happily married for 21 yrs in an open marriage and this girl is 21 has a pipsqueek for a boyfriend).
Open marriage or not you - she is 21 and you will eventually find that you are incompatible intellectually. Additionally, once you hit it and the relationship eventually cools it'll may make for an awkward work environment. How you gonna feel when she makes a move on the next new fellow that takes a job there.:crazy:
 

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you already crossed the line man, might as well smash that azz
 

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Dear Housten,
Hate to say it but your account doesn't ring true "a quickly scribbled note that read "Lately I've been toying with the idea of f'cking the sh't out of you."regular Emile Zola isn't she?
 

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Happily married in an open realionship for 21 years?? I myself wouldnt stay in an open marriage let alone for 21 years sure those daughters are yours?Ovousily you have been banging other women the last 21 years besides your wife right?Why are you now getting all moral ? What makes this different other than you haveing to work with her?Or are you just bragging about haveing a 21 yo who wants your weiner:yawn: Is there something else your not telling us???? Actually if your in an open realionship why do you care if your wife and daughters find out???
 

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Hey said he has an open marriage.
wait OP has an open marriage? well sheeeiiitt that changes everything. what the hell is the problem then? Does he need wifeys premisson to bang other chicks if shes not goin to be present? Or when he says "open marriage" is he talkin about the communication part? Im kinda lost now.
 

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The wife is not the issue, when the time is right I will tell her and she will get all hot and turned on and we'll have lots of sex. My question was concerning DJ'ing. The next suave move or all of a sudden become completely unavailable to illicit rarity or take her to dinner.
 

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After the deed is done it never seems to justify the consequences. You always think......why in the blank did I do this...........just to get my nuts off......It wasn't worth it.


10 minutes after you nut in her honey pot and your eyes roll back into the normal position you will wonder why you did it. The aftermath never exceeds the build up.

One time I thought I wanted to bed a fat girl who I was in contact with on a regular basis. She could dress well to make her rolls of fat look nice and solid. My imagination was running wild. This will be good I thought. The day came. I accomplished my mission and just about puked 5 minutes after I emptied my load on her. What was I thinking. the imagination or fantasy took over in the beginning and became reality after I relieved myself.

Dont do it. Its never as good or as worth it as you imagine.
 

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Either F her or don't. Stop screwing around on "dates". You're married.

EITHER cheat, get it over with, and go back to your wife and hope she never finds out...

OR don't cheat and tell this girl that you can't do it, and stop wasting her time on stupid touchy-feely dates. I strongly encourage this option so this girl does not develop a fatal attraction for you and start ruining your married-life.

You're 41...when do you plan on growing up?? THINK about what you're doing here. I'm not one for screwing around, but if you're going to do it, you don't DATE the "mistress" any more than you'd date a hooker.

You get together, sh!t around for a minimal amount of time, take care of each other, then she's OUT of your life, either permanently or until the next time you are both feeling horny.

It's when you start DATING the mistress that you end up setting yourself up for a psychotic drama-triangle.

You also have to consider your JOB...again, time to grow up.
 

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Time for some DJ Math: You're 41. You've been married for 21 years, thus you got married at 20. I'm just going to average that you hooked up with your wife around 18 and got married at 20 after an 'unplanned' pregnancy?

In the 21 years of your marriage, when did you establish the understanding that it was an "open" marriage? How do you and your wife define that? Is she just open for threesomes or can either of you go knock it out with another person if the opportunity arises? How often have you hooked up with another girl, or is this the first? Is your wife the only woman you've ever slept with?

I'm not trying to judge you, but knowing all that will help sort this out. The only thing holding these guys back from telling you to sh!t or get off the pot with this girl is your wedding ring. If you were single and 41, ready to bang a 21 y.o. hottie my only reservation would be, how attached are you to your job? That's the greater risk in my experience.
 

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dhouston1000 said:
The wife is not the issue, when the time is right I will tell her and she will get all hot and turned on and we'll have lots of sex. My question was concerning DJ'ing. The next suave move or all of a sudden become completely unavailable to illicit rarity or take her to dinner.
suave move? sounds like its on lockdown my friend. If this chick is invitin u over for half hour make out sessions then ur good. The real question is how did u convince ur wife to let u sample other p*ssy???
 

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I know a number of people in open marriages. The rules and guidelines that these people set up are as varied as can be. Some expect communication and agreement before the deed, some don't. Some are open to sex but not "relationship" and some are the opposite.

To the OP. It sounds like you have no problem with the wife. If the gf to be understands your limits (if you have limits) what's holding you back? Don't let any moralists stop you.
 

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Wife is into separate or threesomes sometime it has been foursomes) whichever the universe happens bring our way. I've invited this girl out and it just has not happened yet.

My wife and I did meet early, she 18, me 19. Both children were planned and I let them them know that on occasion. We didn't have the first one until we've been married for 6 years, the next one 4 years later.
 

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This is your mid-life crisis.... It's all because you finally realized that you're more than halfway dead... Don't do it. This is why you live your life when your in high school and before marriage.
 
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