What would you do in this situation? HB9, very confident

[Fash]

Fellow DJs,

At a recent New Years Eve house party (which I was part hosting) a very attractive HB9 turned up.

She came with my friend's girlfriend. I instantly noticed her, did some c+f, some negs, lots of playful jokes, danced with her a bit, but kept her on her toes... basically did what I do best.

A few minutes later, her friend (my friend's gf "fgf") came up to me:

fgf: Hey, do you have a gf?
me: no
fgf: why??? but you're such a great guy!
me: i know... I'm just too busy babes... you know how it is!
fgf: you should speak to my friend and give her your number
me: well if she likes to, she can give me hers. If I like her, I'll call her
fgf: oh come one! she isn't like that! you should ask her for hers! let me speak to her and i'll tell you what she thinks! I think she likes you.

So she goes and speaks to her HB9 friend, comes back and says "you should definately ask her out!"

So I still played it cool and by around 2am, I said infront of the fgf,

me: do you think i should invite your friend out for a drink sometime?
fgf: absolutely!
HB9: oh my god! do i get a say in this?
me: unfortunately no. Should i take your number or do you wanna take mine?
HB9: are you asking me for my number?
me: well duh!

Then I handed her my phone and she put her number in.

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ok... here is where it gets tricky and i need your help

When I was alone with the fgf again, she told me that HB9 is kinda seeing someone, but it's not going anywhere and when she spoke to HB9 she was kinda worried about what she was gonna do about him, etc...

so i just said:

me: f*ck him! i really really don't care about the fact that she is seeing someone. I didnt force her to give me her number. infact SHE initiated it!
fgf: well i think you're much better for her anway. so make sure you call her!

so....

My friend who's gf I had been talking to took the girls home and rang me the next day. He filled me in on the HB9's wishes for the 4 of us to go out so that there is less pressure and so on...

So I rang her last night and spoke for a bit, some fluff, a bit of c+f, a couple of negs... etc...

me: hey, i was thinking we should all go out as a 4sum for some drinks/dinner
HB9: yeh, i'd like that. that's a good idea.
me: ok, i'll speak to my friend and tell him to set something up next week. I guess i'll see/speak to you soon

Later in the night I got this text from her:

"Hi, I should have told you this when u rang me earlier. My friend probably told you but i want you to hear it from me. I'm seeing someone. I really dont know what your intentions are just thought you should hear it from me."

So i replied saying:

"Hehe... easy tiger! i have no plans or intentions. I'm simply intrigued to find out more about you. Anyway, I wont ever let anything happen between us while you are 'seeing' someone! "

So this morning i got a reply saying:

"well, i'm glad we have an understanding. I'm also glad you mentioned that YOU won't let anything heppen between us while i'm 'seeing' someone. thank you for reassuring me... cheeky! have a good day"

I havent replied yet.

I'd like to hear your guys take on this situation and some suggestions on a reply and possible course of action from this point on.

Cheers guys,

Fash

 

[vorbis]

well Fash, you're a bit more experienced than me so take what I say with a grain of salt. Sounds to me that she's one of those branch swinger girls. She wants to go out with you and if things go well, she'll swing onto you If things go bad, she can tell her current guy that she just was on a group night out with her friend. What do you want yourself, to bang her or to date her?

 

[MissionX]

Text her back, **** with her head a bit, make her know you are a lot more interested then you seem, it's all in the basics soon on my thread. But simply, Text her back

Saying something like....

"Hey doll, I know I reassured you, but to be honest I am kind of a wild guy.... if something were to happen, I apologize ahead of time.... Wait never mind why would I appologize? It would be out of passion, more so than anything else."

If you feel the need to change it, do so, so it sounds more like you, but something along the basis of that. It keeps her thinking more about YOU and what you could do. and If she reacts badly to it, String it up with something like

"Sorry doll, I just wanted to see you reaction on this. *smily face."

And if she takes well to it, you are set.

Everything is a mind game, in her head, right now she is thinking you won't try anything, and she is probably wanting something to, once you let her you want her, and it doesn't matter if she has a "boyfriend", gets her mind wondering, and who knows you could be the next boyfriend. And the better match.

Mind ****ing with girls is fun Haha!

Payne

 

[Tyron]

Good looking girls always have more phone numbers than just yours and more likely are seeing someone on or off. If you want to hook up with girls like these you must not think anything about it. (and Im not saying you do, just dont) Yes, she's looking for the best branch but so are you. Don't make a big point out of it, by giving her number to you she already has made her mind imo. (that she's not going to spent much time with this "other dude", not saying she will with you either"

I don't see the point answering that sms anymore. The point is clear. In future though (when a lot of things has happened and you played your cards right), she will ask you not to see anyone else and will commit to you and ditch other guys. If not, then she's not the girl for you and you can still have fun with her or use as a social proof or whatever.

 

[Fash]

What do you want yourself, to bang her or to date her?

I wouldn't put up with this much hassle just to bang her. I'm kinda ok from that angle at the moment with a lot less stress.

I'd like to date her if things go well. I'm genuinly trying to find out more about her and get to know her, to see if she is worth the effort.

 

[counselor]

Text her back, **** with her head a bit, make her know you are a lot more interested then you seem, it's all in the basics soon on my thread. But simply, Text her back

Saying something like....

"Hey doll, I know I reassured you, but to be honest I am kind of a wild guy.... if something were to happen, I apologize ahead of time.... Wait never mind why would I appologize? It would be out of passion, more so than anything else."

Payne

What ever you do dont do this!!!!!!

I but if you ask me shes just keeping you in the back burner as a back up just incase her other sitiuations ****s up.. I would cancel on her at the last minute and rearage it for some other time..

 

[MissionX]

You never even gave a reason why not to do it. It always seems to work for me. I want to hear a well developed reason for that. It's clear she it toying with him, to see if he will do anything, and if he is just going to sit back and play it the AFC way he will get the LJBF. It's better to give it a shot rather than just sit on your ass and do nothing about it.

Payne

 

[Fash]

It's better to give it a shot rather than just sit on your ass and do nothing about it.

Ofcourse! I never said I was going to see here and just take her sh*t like some AFC!

I am going to sarge the f*ck out of her! The question is here how do I respond to her messages and "condition" her right for when I do see her.

If anyone has any killer lines that I could say about her situation with the other chump, i'd love to see them.

 

[MissionX]

Set something up, but don't be a p*ssy about it, Send her a message to meet you somewhere, and tell her when to be there, don't ask her tell her It puts you in control.

Payne

 

[JPFromTally]

Keep playing the "whatever happens" game with her.

 

[Zerotwoonenine]

dj her properly, keep doing it for a month at least.

 

[Ratisson]

Im sorry to say but i think that whole night when u first met her was a weak approach. When her friend first told u she liked u, u should have gone up to her right then and got her number. Then when u did get the number u made a group date with a bunch of other friends. if u wanna game a girl you should do it 1 on 1 , not 1 on 8. All these other people are going to get in the way of u and her. When she says that she's seeing someone u should just say "only one?"
Phone her up and tell her you're taking her out, just u and her and see what she says. if she says no then get rid of her. Being on a group date with her will just get u more into the friends zone. How are u suppose to kiss her with other people there?

 

[sav]

make sure the opportunity for isolation is there... tell her you'll pick her up at her house (which will ensure that you drive her back <--- bam, isolation) and take it from there... make sure to catch the signs and dont pressure... she'll open up to you, just make sure to catch on, and dont be afraid to take it to the next level.

the fact that she'll go out with another guy and his group of friends is enough to say that the relationship she's in right now is as good as over. play your cards right and ur in!

 

[counselor]

Ok cool so you want to get her under the radar right? Ok so this is what you should do in my humble opinion if you insist on keeping the "date" with her.

Check what kind of underwear shes wearing.

If its sexy your good. Sexy meaning thong, victoria secret. ect ect. After you see that its sexy, just gunwich her...make sure to issolate before you heavy kino though.

*If she really likes her bf or what ever the fuk he is. she will not wear sexy underwear. but if she digs you she will wear some thing nice just incase some thing happens.

Dude you know whats up. I can tell from your post you have game.. You already know what to do.. just stick to your instints dog.

 

[counselor]

dj her properly, keep doing it for a month at least.

Yes!!! i agree..

 

[Charm]

Im sorry to say but i think that whole night when u first met her was a weak approach. When her friend first told u she liked u, u should have gone up to her right then and got her number. Then when u did get the number u made a group date with a bunch of other friends. if u wanna game a girl you should do it 1 on 1 , not 1 on 8. All these other people are going to get in the way of u and her. When she says that she's seeing someone u should just say "only one?"
Phone her up and tell her you're taking her out, just u and her and see what she says. if she says no then get rid of her. Being on a group date with her will just get u more into the friends zone. How are u suppose to kiss her with other people there?

This is the only really good advice ive seen in this thread. LISTEN to Ratisson.

 

[Charm]

Yes!!! i agree..

Neither of these guys seem to know what they are talking about. They are giving you newbie advice and sound like AFCs themselves. Ignore counselor and Zerotoweenies advice if you are really trying to advance here. Sorry to be so harsh but look at how long some of us have been here and you'll know we speak from experience, not wishful thinking.

 

[counselor]

Neither of these guys seem to know what they are talking about. They are giving you newbie advice and sound like AFCs themselves. Ignore counselor and Zerotoweenies advice if you are really trying to advance here. Sorry to be so harsh but look at how long some of us have been here and you'll know we speak from experience, not wishful thinking.

Well doctor what would be your prescription then?

 

[counselor]

If shes in another relationship why not keep spining her for couple of weeks... while you work on other prospects... since getting into lawschool I havent been on this site alot but I used come here all the time as a guest..

 

[Charm]

Set something up, but don't be a p*ssy about it, Send her a message to meet you somewhere, and tell her when to be there, don't ask her tell her It puts you in control.

Payne

This is good advice ^. Simple and easy. One on one isolation. Take it from there. Bite off one piece of the apple at a time and you wont choke.