what would you do if after being with a girl for 1.5 years she says....

[daniel26]

what would you have done to a girl who is with you for 1.5 years and constantly says to you she loves you but leaves you because you are not ready for marriage, and 10 days after the breakup she gets back together with her ex-boyfriend.

it happened to me 6 months ago, but I just wanted to hear some opinions)

 

[JT47319]

Fycking special flower.

First time reader, first time poster, huh? Get over it. She's gone. She's never coming back and odds are she was never interested in your AFC ass. Get in line with your fellow DJ, WBAFCers.

Tough love buddy. Go to The View forum if you want touchy feely "dating" advice from a bunch of females who'll coddle you with platitudes.

 

[CLOONEY]

I would say she is confused. She is not a stable girl to have a long term relationship with. She is not worth your time. If a girl leaves you just because u wont marry her right away, she has serious issues or is using it as an excuse to break up. Either way, not worth your time.

 

[NRM]

The only reason a woman breaks up with a man is because she is no longer interested in him or something better has come along and her interest in him lowers under some other man. So no matter what excuse she gave you, she just has lost interest and that shows by what she did. If she loved you, would she break up with you and run to the arms of another man?

No.

You would never do that to her, she did it to you. She's a liar and a woman. 6 months later, you shouldn't even be thinking about this. Move on.

 

[NatureGuy]

She's in her twenties and her primary goal is probably marriage and children at this point. She senses you can't provide this so she is moving on.

 

[Miliaris]

"what would you have done to a girl"

Not a thing - she is not worth it... erase her from your life and mind... move on!!!

Become a better man and you shall get the woman you want.

 

[Eternal]

Haha, I love how some of you guys act like he's still with her...

Personally, I probably would have shot her ex bf. Though, that's just me.

 

[Dirtheart]

Daniel, if you're anything like me, you'll be wondering about this for a long time, but it's not healthy.

I was quite lucky finding this forum because even though it helped me see my ex-s were feeding me bullsh*t break up excuses, it did help me realise why she had lost interest in me. It hurt a lot to discover this and to realise I wasn't getting her back, but things have picked up for me considerably since then.

Spend some time on this forum, check out the posts and the Bible. Once you start getting women throwing their numbers at you, you'll soon forget her. Trust me.

 

[HuangBei]

Don't sweat it. The bi*** isn't worth your time. Do away with the emotions and start looking forward to the happy life of a Don Juan. They aren't worth all the emotions, go for the "sluts."

 

[DJ_Dork]

if she wants to get married and have kids and you don't want to get married and don't want kids... obviously this was not a matchmade in heaven.

ALWAYS guys.. ALWAYS find out if the girl you are dating early has any kids, wants any kids, etc. If she said she wants 3-4 kids, while you don't want any kids or at most one kid.. THIS IS NOT GOING TO WORK OUT.

 

[n0body]

please....

I've been in a 'similar' situation. For the first time in my life I actually cared about the girl, and another first timer was HER breakin up wit ME. We broke up cause we got 'too deep' and she was feeling the feelings she thought she might feel when she gets married, and it was too much for her. Either way this was more than a year ago, and i told myself then that I would get her back. And after she dated 2 other guys over the span of almost a year, she was just trying to deny her strong feelings for me the whole time. Point is we DID get back together, so those of you who say he can't get back with her are wrong. But I do agree with them in the sense that if she really cared, she wouldn't of broke up wit you for a stupid reason like that, and then started dating her ex. Good luck thou bro

 

[entropy]

cough cough BS

QUOTE]We broke up cause we got 'too deep' and she was feeling the feelings she thought she might feel when she gets married, and it was too much for her.[/QUOTE]

This is utter shyt.

She was scared of the "deepness"???

And after she dated 2 other guys over the span of almost a year, she was just trying to deny her strong feelings for me the whole time.

She was in DENIAL

Maybe you like left-overs, I personally don't.

Point is we DID get back together, so those of you who say he can't get back with her are wrong. But I do agree with them in the sense that if she really cared, she wouldn't of broke up wit you for a stupid reason like that, and then started dating her ex.

Do you understand that you've contradicted yourself?

I'd try and talk you out of this, but I can see you do not want your illusions shattered.

 

[WaterTiger]

OR...

You could thank your lucky stars/guardian angel/God that she didn't "accidently" get pregnant & make you marry her. Now THAT would be something to b!tch about.

She wanted to get married, you didn't. The longer she stayed, the more miserable, resentful and nasty towards you she would have gotten. If you DID marry her, the more miserable, resentful & nasty you would have gotten.

She did you a favor. Go find another girl who doesn't wear fluffy white dresses and read "Modern Bride Magazine" all day.

Peace!

 

[dietzcoi]

Amen, Water Tiger! You just described my life story is a few sentences!

Dietzcoi

 

[biker_gixxer]

Originally posted by daniel26
what would you have done to a girl who is with you for 1.5 years and constantly says to you she loves you but leaves you because you are not ready for marriage, and 10 days after the breakup she gets back together with her ex-boyfriend.

it happened to me 6 months ago, but I just wanted to hear some opinions)

I would have moved the fuk on bro. I'm sure it wouldn't have been easy, but i sure as hell wouldn't go after her, fuk that.

Her loss!

 

[zerocelcius]

what would I do....

*first let me say good job not giving in to her marriage nagging...cause if she wanted marriage that bad you know she was laying it on you. And you did somthing right so she couldn't use the "I am pregnant" ****.

now lets answer your question shall we....

I would set down, think of all the things she would nag about and I would wright them down. I would put on my favorite song she didn't like, watch my movie she hated, call all the girls that she didn't want me talking to, scratch my balls, drink out of the jug, and let out a sigh* "ahhhhhh whhhoooooooo that was a close one."!!!!!!!!!

Take a shower wash her away get your DJ out of the closet and start pimping.