What Would You Do Here?

[Greasy Pig]

"Cheerful Charlie" comes to work and says good morning to the woman and all the c0cks who are making his life hell.
But he doesn't engage in conversation, just keeps walking.
It shows you're not afraid and that you're above their petty games. It's easy to bigger than small people.
Just be a nonchalant, happy, helpful work colleague. But don't engage. Just say hello and keep moving.
If they try to talk to you, humour them for 1 minute max and then make an excuse to leave.
You want to show them you're not scared or butthurt. You want to give off an air of confident aloofness without getting bogged down in drama.

The chick I used this routine on was fvcking my boss while leading me on BIG TIME. He was too by encouraging me to pursue her while the whole time he was screwing her.
You think your situation is awkward? This fvcking sucked.
But I always made a point of saying good morning to her and him. If they contacted me about work stuff, I'd help them like a professional should.
If they tried to chat about nothing, I'd listen for a while and then make an excuse to end the convo.
If they emailed me about anything non-work related, I'd either ignore it or give a closed reply (ie: making it clear the I didn't want the messages to continue).
But six months later, I got a new job and on my last night in town, this ho asked if she could help me pack. I reluctantly agreed because I wanted to see if she was DTF. She was, I pounded the shyt out of her and left the next day.
Perfect.

 

[glass half full]

this stuff gripes me, it is what happened for a long time in my workplace and led me to a stroke, three weeks after my 44th bday.

You really need to nip this in the bud now, workplace/relationship drama that keeps going can be deadly, not worth it. just sayin'

 

[YawataNoKami]

Plenty of reasons why you should never date a coworker.

 

[yeahbuddy14]

this stuff gripes me, it is what happened for a long time in my workplace and led me to a stroke, three weeks after my 44th bday.

You really need to nip this in the bud now, workplace/relationship drama that keeps going can be deadly, not worth it. just sayin'

I am very sorry to hear that, well I have nipped it in the bud...I don't speak to her and I don't contact her and all of her Friends that I know (except for one, who is a *****y drama Queen and gossips about and backstabs most people) have been warming up to me again.

I have been watching a lot of hypnosis videos and they work, I don't think about her, I think about the situation and what is has taught me.

 

[yeahbuddy14]

Plenty of reasons why you should never date a coworker.

I never dated her, we had lunch twice and I asked her a third time, she said yes but I never followed through...maybe she saw them as dates?, I have no idea and I don't care, she is going to a colleagues farewell drinks on Friday night and I won't be interacting with her.

 

[yeahbuddy14]

:yes: it looks like she has finally gotten the message, she hasn't been on my floor all week (this is a first) and I feel so much better, plus I have noticed that a couple of other girls in the office are really easy to talk and get on with and I have spent a bit of time with them during lunch breaks etc, the drama queen ***** is still there and playing games, I suspect that she is possibly jealous or she just takes sides and is an unhappy Woman in general, I have noticed how much she talks about other people.

She leaves soon and it will be good riddance to bad rubbish, she needs to grow the **** up though.

 

[yeahbuddy14]

We don't talk anymore and I have been ignoring her, pretending that she isn't there as unfortunately we are working in the same office again, she looks at me I look away as if I am looking at something else and not her.

I forgot how annoying her laughing and whistling were, thank **** for good music and headphones lol, it looks like she is still playing games though, I went to lunch with a co-worker (female) who leaves for another country soon and this ***** gave me a side look when we came back...I don't get it?...she won't/isn't talking to me but still gives a **** what I do and with who on my lunch breaks?

She often walks past my desk with a pissed off look on her face, truth be told and it did take me to a while to wake up to this but I can't stand her, she is an immature drama/gossip Queen that needs to shut her mouth and learn to have some respect for herself, she slept with another co-worker last weekend and it's hilarious and really awkward between them (this is not the first time this happened with her either)...anyway my thing is I want to remain professional but I really don't want to give her the time of day, so should I just adapt the "Cheerful Charlie" routine?

 

[yeahbuddy14]

LOL and the games continue, well today folks she was laughing up a storm and being very vocal with a guy she sits next to, my guess is this is just her seeking attention from me?

I don't get this silly ***** at all, she blocks me on Facebook, she talks about me to other people, she doesn't talk to me...so why the games?...who wins?...how do I get her to stop?

I ignore her as it is, but I notice all of these things, what does she want and why is she STILL acting this way?

 

[Zunder]

Why do you even give a shyt about this chick and what she says, thinks, acts like.....did you like the attention? Did it give you an ego boost?
Mate, you work with some tools and she is a bytch, but you also sound like a tool.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

Excellent, well yeah it's almost 2015 and I want a fresh start with myself and the way I react to things, I do care but all I am doing with this post is to gain some understanding and to not dwell on her or these situations anymore, it's not healthy, I am aware of this, ZTIME how would you deal with her and the situation?

A coworker (her best Friend) actually said to a Friend of mine that I need to grow up as I am married, I am not totally sure what she meant, but she was right, I did wish that she told me that personally though.

As for this confusing girl, I should note that she is 21, still lives at home with her folks and in all of the 3 and a bit years I have known her, she has never had a relationship and often stays out till 4:30 am in the weekends and goes home with dudes that never have anything to do with her afterwards.

Do I need interaction with someone like that? No
Do I need to keep it professional at work with her? Yes

Thanks so much for your inspiring replies, you are making me think a lot, in a good and positive way.
Lastly, I don't think we would have all of this drama and confusion, if I wasn't married, I have done pretty well with the Ladies in the past (I'm married) and I know how to escalate etc but 2 major blocks that have stopped anything happening with her and perhaps why I have acted like I have, have been my marriage and the fact that we are coworkers.

I won't lie, I was attracted to her and there has been chemistry there, but it serves no purpose.

Sometimes you gotta accept that certain age ranges act in certain ways. Sure there might be some physical chemistry, but at that age and by her actions she won't be reliable for anything other than a one night stand and/or getting you mixed up in some drama.

 

[yeahbuddy14]

Sometimes you gotta accept that certain age ranges act in certain ways. Sure there might be some physical chemistry, but at that age and by her actions she won't be reliable for anything other than a one night stand and/or getting you mixed up in some drama.

Thanks man, yep you are totally right, I'm already knee deep in the drama but I'm sick of her, her childish gossiping, constant attention seeking, annoying and loud laugh and voice and boring style of dress have turned me right off her, I'm not enjoying working with her but I just completely ignore her unless it's work related.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

Thanks man, yep you are totally right, I'm already knee deep in the drama but I'm sick of her, her childish gossiping, constant attention seeking, annoying and loud laugh and voice and boring style of dress have turned me right off her, I'm not enjoying working with her but I just completely ignore her unless it's work related.

You can bone her if you can, but don't waste time on her.

As I've gotten older I've started to appreciate wisdom and a lack of games in older females a lot better. Plus they are better in bed.

This board is perfect for a man wanting to have his best shot with ladies in the world these days.