Basically she hasnt found someone she is really interested in or maybe doesn't know exactly what she is interested in but she knows that whatever that might be, it isnt you.
I wanted a relationship but I mistakingly bought into the thinking that she’d just gotten out of a supposedly bad relationship and wanted to take things slow. I should have put my wants above hers and that was a fatal mistake on my part and here I am.
If she texts you today, do not respond. She will text you again, you will not respond. If she texts you this evening, you will not respond. Tomorrow you will not respond. On Friday if/when she texts you, thats when you send it to her.
So you "wanted" (past tense) a relationship with her. I noticed in reply #5 you said you've been seeing each other for a month.......but you also said you two haven't had sex yet....even though you've tried.
Heh....you got that part right. It's like having a destination in mind,but you start your journey out headed in the wrong direction. That's kinda what you did here. You realized you were going the wrong way,(hence this thread)....so now you wanna turn around and get things back on track. That's both good and bad news.....
what does she say when you ask her to come over for drinks and dinner?
She says that she’d love to have me cook for her sometime but I can’t ever get her to commit to it. She will counter with something like “sounds great, we should do that sometime, let’s go out for wings this Friday though.”
Yes. He's become her gay boyfriend. It's going to get hard to break this. The only way would be a hard and fast break, but not sure if it is worth it. There's a reason why Rollo and AMS say DTB if there is no sex (or HJ, BJ, nudity) by the third or forth date. These are rules you need to live by these days.
Well I say wanted a relationship because we never argue, seem to have a ton in common, neber any awkwardness or whatever but the sex thing is the sticking point. If I had to make a list of **** I don’t like about her that would be the only thing on the list but it’s the most important. I don’t want to put in the effort to make it back that 50 miles, not that I’m too lazy but no girl is worth that in my opinion. I don’t want a friendship with her whatsoever and when I do break things off I’m not going to offer that because I don’t want to be friends with a girl I want to sleep with.
And the weird thing is I apply those rules to every other girl, I don’t know why I was making excuses for this one to be honest.
Then you know what you need to do. Hard break and NC if she won't come over and be intimate. No more $$ or time on her.
Hell I haven’t spent all that much to be honest. When we have gone out to dinner it’s been to reasonable priced places like bars with food and Mexican once. Oh and all you can eat crab legs but she paid for that. My emotional investment is way more than my $$$ and that **** got out of balance somehow.
You’re right. I think what made it take so long to realize I was in the FZ was I’ve never been in the FZ where the girl let’s you makeout with her whenever, grab her ass, etc. That’s a new type friend zone to me.
The friendzone is evolving. They will go all the way up make it appear that sex is an option, but it is not. They just give you enough to keep you on the hook. It's a sh!t test where a lot of modern men fail. The appropriate response is always to walk away and have her chase you into your frame. Dude, you need a refresher course. Binge watch Rollo's and AMS's videos:
Then that's your fault. You're too easy.
Yep I was most definitely too easy. I'm glad I started this thread because I was always second guessing myself, sometimes you have to let others see what you see and let them tell you how it really is. It feels good to know I'm done but that she doesn't have a clue that I'm done.
Good that you are done, but I will add she prob. wouldn't care one way or the other. The fact remains, there's a zillion other guys who would orbit her and take your place. This, situation, is more common than you believe. I see it all the time. In a ladies mind, they do not see what's the big deal, but the fact is, men and ladies work differently. Yes, she knows your end game is to be inside her, but she doesn't comprehend the non-sexual part. In other words, ladies get something out of being "friends" with men. Men do not get anything out of being non-sexual "friends" with a lady. After a 3 - 4 weeks and no sex, you just go no contact and move on. I've had others that have reached out two, three even six months later. Depending on my feelings, I've invited them over. The one's who've come over, we've smashed, the others, nope, and that's fine. I don't waste their time, and more importantly, they don't waste mine.
Well, emotionally she might not care that much but I think she will care in the fact that she won't know WHY I completely dropped her. I haven't been giving any hints whatsoever leading up to this, it's just been on my mind for awhile and last night just confirmed it for me which is why I started this thread to see if I was right in my thinking or not. She won't let me go as easily as you think, I did no contact for a day and a half and she blew up my phone over it. I wasn't purposely doing no contact though, I just wasn't the type that just had to talk to her every waking min. She's litteraly going to flip her **** when she reaches out and I don't respond at all.
