What would you advise for my situation?

[Eternal_water]

I have had a total of 1 girlfriend in my life when I was 17/18 for about 9 months.

She dumped me because "we weren't spending enough time together", have not been with anyone since. Have not even been on a date since. And I'm still a virgin.

I am now 21, I finish University in just over a week and move back home with my parents again. And despite my best efforts It will probably be a 3rd.

I live in a tiny little town in the country (in the UK) where not much goes on, there isn't a single club and I only have 1 going out friend and a practically non existant social life.

I know how tragic my case is so what do the DJ's of this site advise? I basically want to get more friends and build up a social life again. The annoying part is I'm very outgoing, I just have no one friends to go out with.

Getting a girl would be a plus as well.

I've read the DJ bible and the book of pook, but what else do you advise?

 

[Who Dares Win]

You need to put yourself in a more favorable territory, the best suggestion I can give you is join one of those exchange programs that allow you to leave abroad with other people your age, stuff like erasmus or socrates.

You can do that with your university or as a young guy, the european community has plenty of these so called "integration programs", you will find yourself surrounded by young people and in a friendly environment.

That wont solve your life necessities but hopefully will lead to some more sexual experiences that would kick start your sexual life.

Dont know actually where to search but I have a couple of friends who did that (both good looking girls) and they enjoyed...as much as the guys they met there.

Else just visit some new country where you can teach english, you wont get rich but you'll have the chance to meet new people and actually feel useful.

 

[Eternal_water]

I finish University in just over a week. As In I am in my final year and there are literally only a handful of days left. And then I will not be a student anymore.

 

[Eternal_water]

lol no one else? Can't be that bad surely?!?!

 

[JPlaya]

I live in a ***** town too lol.

 

[Gro0ver]

And despite my best efforts It will probably be a 3rd.

Is this really the truth dude? Did you try your hardest? Because a 3rd class degree is really worth s**t all. Why don't you retake the last year? At least try to get a 2:2, preferably a 2:1. A 3rd class degree is not even worth mentioning on your cv....sorry it's just the truth. You will have wasted ~£15k on university for nout.

For everything else....all I can say is start being the man of your dreams. Does the man of your dreams have a 3rd class degree and sit around with no social life? Or does he work/study hard and find hobbies and people to socialise with? You can be so much more dude but you have to be resilient and make it happen!

You need a positive vision for the next year, and it shouldn't involve living with your parents in a small town where there's nothing to do. IMO, either retake the last year of uni or move to a big city and kick start your career/social life/hobbies. Or go travelling like someone suggested.

I'm from the UK as well by the way, and I can tell you London is great for us young dudes as long as you got a decent job and reasonable income.

 

[FairShake]

I could've sworn that most small towns in England have huge drinking cultures full of idiots and sluts destroying the town every weekend.

Find out where this is happening and go there my man. The English population has degraded alot in your generation and it's time you enjoy the fruit.

 

[switch]

dude my advice is leave the freaki*g town...im in a well similar situation and dont get to see many girls....i'm planing to leave as soon as my buisness is over in this town....

 

[Eternal_water]

I know what your thinking but yes I have given this course my all, For various reasons it just hasn't gone my way. Nothing I can do about that, I will have to make do with what I can get, a 3rd class honours degree in Biochemistry. 1 step better than nothing I guess.

 

[Professor Booty]

Forget about women, you've got your own issues - you hate your small town (nothing wrong with that) but you havent got the gunption to take the plunge and move to a big city (London or whatever). Sort that out first, get it out of your system, then repost about your women issues. In London.

 

[Gro0ver]

I know what your thinking but yes I have given this course my all, For various reasons it just hasn't gone my way. Nothing I can do about that, I will have to make do with what I can get, a 3rd class honours degree in Biochemistry. 1 step better than nothing I guess.

Why are you not considering retaking the final year? Do you not like the subject any more?

Sorry to revisit this, I know there's other important stuff to focus on in your life but I see this as a huge waste and something that will impact you short and long-term.

It might be an opportunity to do a year of university again but better in lots of ways, using the DJ philosophy to guide your way.

 

[Eternal_water]

Re sitting the final year is not permitted.

 

[Gro0ver]

Ok.

I would start thinking about job plans right away. The reason is that job/career = confidence/money/part of your identity which feeds into many things and affects your future in big ways, more then any female will.

Being unemployed or in a job you hate for a long time will not do anything for your confidence & self esteem, plus I think you'd benefit a lot from moving to a big city where there are things happening.

When you leave education and are out in the real world, your job really is the foundation of everything you build. It's not the be-all and end-all but it's pretty damn important. It's also a place you can meet people & socialise. So I think you should start with this otherwise you're going to be dependent on your parents for awhile and will have difficulty building a life you're happy with.