what would it take to be with a girl that slept with you on the first night

captain55

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Are women that give it up quick an absolute no go for relationships? What if she brings you status and makes you happy would you still be with her?
if she is a 10 and you believed there was a shot for her to be loyal would you still get in a relationship? I always thought it was hardwired in a males dna to not trust promiscuous women
 

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the question is how do you feel about her and about the idea that she was quick to fvck. some men are cool wth it, some not.
From what I gather from here, take it from a plate standpoint 'for now' and see if she is someone that meets your LTR standards.
Right?
 

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Most of my first dates end in sex. Sometimes not, but at least we will fool around enough for her to get turned on. Sometimes women have a thing against first date sex, but if it is just because they want me to call again, then I am understanding about it.

I have fvcked a girl before, and then ignored her afterward, but it was for a reason that existed anyway, not simply because she gave it up too early.
 

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Are women that give it up quick an absolute no go for relationships? What if she brings you status and makes you happy would you still be with her?
if she is a 10 and you believed there was a shot for her to be loyal would you still get in a relationship? I always thought it was hardwired in a males dna to not trust promiscuous women
I assume that they are not looking for a relationship with me. And I only sleep with someone on a first meet up if I am not looking for a relationship with them. I like a woman who has more self control. If I see someone as potential for a quality relationship, I wait until the 3rd meet up. I think this way because I get the feeling that she thinks sex is the only way to keep me around. It's important. But how they function and other non sexual things they have to offer is what ultimately keeps me from moving on to something more fulfilling. If she holds out a little longer to show me more about herself and allows me to do the same, then I see her as higher quality.
 

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One word: consistency.

Does she stick to what I figured out initially or does she flip-flop? I wouldn't care if I fvck her on the 1st, 5th or whatever date. As long as she is consistent in her words and actions which I initially got attracted to then I'll keep going. Most turn out to be an act, but a few are truly themselves from the beginning. Extremely few can keep up the act unnoticed around me as I'm very observant about deviances in personality, I also have zero issue with dumping them in an instant if they've run a scam on me.
 

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My Top 5 Biggest First Date Red Flags
1 - She has sex with you
2 - You learn that all her friends are guys
3 - She hardly asks a single thing about YOU
4 - She doesn't say thank you when you pay
5 - She looks at her phone multiple times
 

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Seems like it's an age thing to me. I know a good many older women, most would even call them classy or 'quality', that have given it up on the first date. I mean, maybe you eventually get to the point where you just don't care anymore? I know plenty of single girls up into their upper 30s who would do anything sometimes just to get some (decent) d*ck. I guess it's about the companionship or whatever.

But anyways, yeah, a girl in her 20s or so, I probably would not respect if they give it up immediately, at least for an LTR. I'm thinking between date 3-5 is about what's practical, assuming everything's going well.
 

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I dont think you can put too much into first day lay these days. Say you meet a woman through work, and you get to know each other over time. It feels natural, pure, and you want to paint yourself and her together in a disney movie. So you end up having sex after escalating slowly over time, and you really want her to be as innocent as possible, as we all want deep down. Problem is, the same woman could have sucked c0cks in a club bathroom within minutes of talking to a guy the week before. How is that? Oh you see, she was drunk so it didnt really happen. (women logic) cute, right? haha. (Based on a true story)

I belive it is hardwired in most of us, even though we might have to learn how to use those powers by messing up a few times. Think about girlfriends or girls you have been with and gotten to know, how often has your slut alert been right? The sum of all those red flags quickly gives your intuition a feel for a person, specially when its a female you have to watch out for and seems untrustworthy. Its quite amazing but also biologically natural.

Are there any attractive girls that havent done one night stands these days? This would not have stopped me from trying with a 10, there are a lot of other red flags to worry about.
 
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