What would it take for you to settle down?

[captain55]

The only way I would ever consider a monogamous relationship is if the chick was a 9 or better and emotionally stable. She would also have to be 25 or younger. Now obviously a guy that has never had better than a 6 his whole life can’t set his standard this high but way I look at it is my ex was a 8.5 in her prime so I only go up from here.

I see too many guys getting in relationships with the first hot chick to give them attention. A couple reminders

1. The woman needs to be more attractive than you for the relationship to work. Preferably two points at least.... If you can’t pull a chick hotter than you are you have no game whatsoever. You don’t need game to pull women that are equal to you or below you so why commit to a girl that isn’t a challenge?
2. Her being hot is not enough the sexual chemistry has to be amazing. If she’s your dream girl but doesn’t meet your needs sexually dump her because your just going to end up cheating on her

I’ve dragged women along I knew I wasn’t going to marry because I kept them around for easy sex. Never again. Put in the work fellas, if your in a relationship now and your not constantly fantasizing about your gf don’t be afraid to call it off. It’s not fair to her and it’s not fair to yourself. Being successful with women requires time and effort like anything else in life. You should be day gaming constantly , and going out 2-3 nights a week at least. Time is the most important thing we all have

 

[ohrein]

If you're settling down with a chick just because she's hot and good in bed, you're gonna have a bad time. You've mentioned nothing about screening for other behaviors. Good luck with that.

 

[Spaz]

So as she ages, she'll go from a 9 to a 2 or worse. Then ?

I'm for a girl who is cute with a great personality. Respects her parents and people around her.

The physical aspects of a women diminishes but her character can be highly amusing.

 

[skinnyguy]

Between 25 and 30

Big natural boobs

Works out

Isn’t on social media all the time

Good in bed

Overall, if the girl is highly attracted to me, I might overlook some of these things and enter an LTR

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Be hot. Be sweet. And listen. After that, if you stay loyal and don’t let yourself go, I’m a keeper lol.

If you want me to be your husband you gotta work for it. And if you want to be my wife, you also gotta be my best friend too.

 

[GoodOne123]

The thing I fear, and worried about is that I don't think anything will be enough for me to settle down.

There's a problem in manogamy itself, that it's not natural. Women's true nature means they will bang who they want to bang. They will do it behind your back, and they'e the best at covering it up.

The same way women choose betas for marriage/relationships, is also how they choose alphas for a good fuk every now and then. Women having social media and having 10 guys a month hitting them up makes it easier to cheat by being seduced by an alpha.

I'e got with my fair share of women who are in relationships, and I've heard of many guys banging other guys women. Holding a girl down in a relationshio doesn' mean that she will not bang anyone else...

So how can I really trust now? How can I settle down when in the back of my mind I think she might be screwing some alpha guy at any point? How can I feel satisfied when I know she hasn't chosen me because I'm the most attractive guy, but because she wants my ability to provide financial favours, be a listening ear, and possibly marry her just to shut her parents Up?

Most days I think that playing the field and being an eligible bachelor all my life is the best option

 

[mrgoodstuff]

If you're settling down with a chick just because she's hot and good in bed, you're gonna have a bad time. You've mentioned nothing about screening for other behaviors. Good luck with that.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

I want a girl who I feel 100% totally comfortable around. As in I feel 100% chill and trusting around her. And not "I'm going to get cucked because I'm being a pansy" kind of naive dumb trust, but "This girl is genuinely f***ing cool and I can trust that she's not going to cheat or BS me."

Girls like that are out there, they're just rare.

Both nude together? Feel totally comfy. Both drinking? Having a great time, always. Cuddling on the sofa? Yep, feeling relaxed. Big life stress? We support each other.

Obviously I want someone I find attractive in addition to that, but that's secondary to having that genuine trust and relaxed vibe to me. You can always get a girl working out with some gentle persuasion (plus tell her you will nail her absolutely silly if she does X km a week, job done) but fixing someone's shi*ty personality isn't as easy.

 

[ohrein]

I want a girl who I feel 100% totally comfortable around. As in I feel 100% chill and trusting around her. And not "I'm going to get cucked because I'm being a pansy" kind of naive dumb trust, but "This girl is genuinely f***ing cool and I can trust that she's not going to cheat or BS me."

Girls like that are out there, they're just rare.

Both nude together? Feel totally comfy. Both drinking? Having a great time, always. Cuddling on the sofa? Yep, feeling relaxed. Big life stress? We support each other.

Obviously I want someone I find attractive in addition to that, but that's secondary to having that genuine trust and relaxed vibe to me. You can always get a girl working out with some gentle persuasion (plus tell her you will nail her absolutely silly if she does X km a week, job done) but fixing someone's shi*ty personality isn't as easy.

They are very, very rare and don't think they won't become that if you're AFC. But these are the ideal women. Women who have been raised by people who taught integrity correctly. That at least minimizes the chances she'll act on her hypergamous nature.

A womans parents can tell you a LOT about what type of person they are. I remember meeting a moms plate one day and within five minutes of her being there she was demeaning and attacking her husband. Massive princess syndrome on top of that. I went on red alert and this plate turned out to be very like her mother. The apple never falls far from the tree.

 

[Red Legg]

Now that I am red pilled I cannot "settle down" with a woman,after being with hundreds of women I now know their true nature.(kind of a drag actually) once you swallow the red pill and ingest it you can't go back.I have been seeing a woman for over a year now that love bombed me hard.I identified her as a BPD almost instantly a non game aware fellow would have married her and got creamed,it will be interesting to watch who she devours.

 

[devilkingx2]

For me it's pretty simple:

1. She needs to be around a 7 in looks. A really hot girl may be too much work to get and keep, whereas i don't want a girl who fails the boner test or that I'm embarrassed to be seen with or in pictures with, a good litmus test imo is how she dresses, if she can't pull off crop tops/short shorts/leggings/mini skirts/short dresses or doesn't wear them That's a bad sign.

2. She needs to love sex and be kinky, if she only wants to have sex 1 or 2 times a week or only wants to have sex in a bedroom with the lights off in missionary, I'll get bored in 3-6 months tops and dump her or cheat.

I need a girl that says stuff like "come snort this cocaine off my titties" or "my best friend wants another threesome are you ready?" Or "for your birthday I'll make out with the stripper while she gives you a lap dance, be sure to record it on your phone for a souvenir" or "do you think we have time to have sex a 4th time today?" Or "quick everyone's still at lunch fvck me right on my desk" etc.

There's no point in committing unless she's gonna satisfy you enough to replace your need for other women and give you something that you can't just get from any other woman easily.

3. She needs to have an enjoyable personality this one's key for longevity, so many girls are boring and have nothing to say, so many girls are really annoying or otherwise not fun to talk to/deal with, if I'm gonna have to keep contact with you frequently, you better have a sense of humor, stories to tell, opinions to share, etc. If i feel like I'm talking to a wall then the moment the sex gets boring (see #2) that girl is out

4. I need a reasonable degree of loyalty and faithfulness, there's no way to know for sure, and i only concern myself with finding out if a girl is cheating rather than trying to prevent anything, however, I'd prefer a girl that i can turn my back on without turning around to see her getting fingered in the back by the bartender or something like that. There's some girls that actually just hang out with their female friends in normal girly ways for a girls night out, and there's some that take their wedding ring off and take turns ****ing whole football teams when their men are away, I'd rather the former lol.

To some extent this may conflict with #2, but hey, I'll take things on a case by case and be willing to compromise to some reasonable extent on any of these requirements

 

[devilkingx2]

You literally take the one trait in a woman's that all but assures your relationship will not be stable lol.

ah yes, life is a struggle that way

 

[highSpeed]

The only way I would ever consider a monogamous relationship is if the chick was a 9 or better and emotionally stable. She would also have to be 25 or younger. Now obviously a guy that has never had better than a 6 his whole life can’t set his standard this high but way I look at it is my ex was a 8.5 in her prime so I only go up from here.

I see too many guys getting in relationships with the first hot chick to give them attention. A couple reminders

1. The woman needs to be more attractive than you for the relationship to work. Preferably two points at least.... If you can’t pull a chick hotter than you are you have no game whatsoever. You don’t need game to pull women that are equal to you or below you so why commit to a girl that isn’t a challenge?
2. Her being hot is not enough the sexual chemistry has to be amazing. If she’s your dream girl but doesn’t meet your needs sexually dump her because your just going to end up cheating on her

I’ve dragged women along I knew I wasn’t going to marry because I kept them around for easy sex. Never again. Put in the work fellas, if your in a relationship now and your not constantly fantasizing about your gf don’t be afraid to call it off. It’s not fair to her and it’s not fair to yourself. Being successful with women requires time and effort like anything else in life. You should be day gaming constantly , and going out 2-3 nights a week at least. Time is the most important thing we all have

knowing what I know now, the only thing you'd be able to do to get me to settle down is to hold a shotgun wedding

 

[bigdave17]

between 23-28
cute face
nice body (both curvy and decently fit, doesn't have to be ripped)
strong preference for some kind of ethnic - middle eastern, Italian, Greek, Asian, Spanish. Pure white girls age horrific
decent job/decent with finances
classy/polished
intelligent/well spoken
super nice/sweet

 

[JALX95]

Speaking as someone finishing up college who's had a few opportunities to form relationships and has not taken up a single offer, here is my take...

The reason we as men sleep around isn't because we "can't find a quality girl". There are quality girls everywhere and with travel as easy as it is, there's no shortage of options to find 1 great girl out of multiple billions of girls on the planet.

We sleep around because its in our DNA. We are hardwired to sleep around. Its fun, its exciting etc. For some reason I can't explain I always feel more like a bad ass when I bang a girl the first time than when im in some kind of fwb relationship.

That being said, I will not settle down until I find a girl who is attractive and personally compatible with me to the point where if you put me in a room with 5 really attractive girls who'd bang me then and there if I left her, I'd say no.

I always talk about girls having too high of standards, so this post may seem hypocritical, but the way I view a girls physical attraction often go hand in hand with their personality. For instance if a girl is overweight that is just as reflective of her having a personality trait of not caring, which will carry over to other aspects of the relationship. I'm a guy who constantly stays on top of his style and appearance, so I could not see myself settling down with someone who wears nothing but oversized tshirts and yoga pants.

Regardless I believe that there are quality girls if you are a quality guy and look in the right places. Don't look for love in dive bars fellas.

 

[Skyline]

You guys have to accept the fact that the perfect woman doesn't exist. She's going to have some type of issue. Be it daddy or mommy issues, princesses syndrom, an AW, she might be a slvt, and she might even have cheated on someone in the passed.

It's really up to you if you want to deal with those issues. The best way to go about it is to find someone that has issues that compliment yours.

 

[Skyline]

My experience actually dating all of the above is they are difficult if not impossible to keep for a LTR.

Yeah but you choose to keep them around for a relationship. There's loads of issues that women have like anxiety, jealousy, and even a tad narcissistic. Some guys can only keep women like that as a relationship because that's what they're compatible with.

 

[CMNILS87]

You literally take the one trait in a woman's that all but assures your relationship will not be stable lol.

For me, High character and virtue displayed over a significant period of time. Obviously as a man she has to be attractive enough.

Man, he’s blabbing about time is the most valuable asset, but we should be out 3 of 7 nights hunting for her seems like too much. I could be lifting or anything else that guarantees I’ll be satisfied. And this BS about fantasizing about her all day. Only women and beta romantics do that ****. If she sends a pic I’ll fantasize and be primed for that night....