What to do when the girl has interest...... Says she likes u.... U've kissed her a few times.... She turned down going to see a movie this past Tues. and Fri and didnt' put any initiative into suggesting other days to hangout......And she knows i leave for Europe for 3 weeks on the 27th.... Advice......Don Juans.....
What would a Don Juan Do.......?
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dipset_mafia
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okay, you're going to need to read more of the literature!!!
this girl is growing impatient with you. it sounds like you've missed a lot of opportunities to round the bases on this one...
ANNND you're leaving for like a month.. would YOU start dating a chick if you knew she was going to be in europe for 3 weeks in a matter of days? well that part might not matter as much, seeing as you may have already blown it...
you've gotta remember that you're the man. you have to tell this chick that you're GOING to be meeting with her on (insert day) at (insert time)... when you want something to happen with a woman, you need to LOAD your "questions" ... if you've ever taken anything to do with surveys in university, it lays it out, you want to always load your speach with slanted q's that don't present options, or only present favourable options.. the key is not to ask questions.
i.e.
Do you WANT to come over on monday? MAYBE we can cook dinner?
vs...
come over to my house on monday, we'll make dinner. (notice the lack of question marks, and wussiness)
this girl is growing impatient with you. it sounds like you've missed a lot of opportunities to round the bases on this one...
ANNND you're leaving for like a month.. would YOU start dating a chick if you knew she was going to be in europe for 3 weeks in a matter of days? well that part might not matter as much, seeing as you may have already blown it...
where is the power here? you shouldn't be ASKING. you should be TELLING.
you've gotta remember that you're the man. you have to tell this chick that you're GOING to be meeting with her on (insert day) at (insert time)... when you want something to happen with a woman, you need to LOAD your "questions" ... if you've ever taken anything to do with surveys in university, it lays it out, you want to always load your speach with slanted q's that don't present options, or only present favourable options.. the key is not to ask questions.
i.e.
Do you WANT to come over on monday? MAYBE we can cook dinner?
vs...
come over to my house on monday, we'll make dinner. (notice the lack of question marks, and wussiness)
That's the ticket. You leave to Europe.
Chicks use BS chick logic on these things... you go somewhere for 3 weeks and she thinks you are not good to go out with anymore.
The time is critical on the start. When you are in a phase you've just met her and just kissed couple of times and if she is not REALLY interested in you she'll really easily let you go if you are unavailable for a "long" period of time.
I can say you've put some effort on her and she doesn't seem really interested. I think you should ask her again on 25th to hang with you on 27th just before you go because you want a good memory of home when you are on your trip or some
bull* like that.
Don't act desperate. She's been showing red flags enough. If she's not with you soon, she's out of your world for real. Life is too short to waste it on one woman. There are plenty to go around.
Chicks use BS chick logic on these things... you go somewhere for 3 weeks and she thinks you are not good to go out with anymore.
The time is critical on the start. When you are in a phase you've just met her and just kissed couple of times and if she is not REALLY interested in you she'll really easily let you go if you are unavailable for a "long" period of time.
I can say you've put some effort on her and she doesn't seem really interested. I think you should ask her again on 25th to hang with you on 27th just before you go because you want a good memory of home when you are on your trip or some
bull* like that.
Don't act desperate. She's been showing red flags enough. If she's not with you soon, she's out of your world for real. Life is too short to waste it on one woman. There are plenty to go around.
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Don Juan
Let's see if you should call
"hello (name) ill use ***** b/c deep down all gurls are.
so let try this again,
"hello *****, im leaving tuesday and just wanted to make sure we got to say goodbye, maybe over some luch or something?"
Ohh im busy all this week
"well ok, thats definatly cool, ill guess ill talk to you later if you' lucky."
"Bye *****"
and just leave it be this wil let you know if she really has intrest in you. if she calls to hang out before you leave then cool. otherwise you're wasting your time and a total (not a chance b/c she doesnt like you like that anymore)
"hello (name) ill use ***** b/c deep down all gurls are.
so let try this again,
"hello *****, im leaving tuesday and just wanted to make sure we got to say goodbye, maybe over some luch or something?"
Ohh im busy all this week
"well ok, thats definatly cool, ill guess ill talk to you later if you' lucky."
"Bye *****"
and just leave it be this wil let you know if she really has intrest in you. if she calls to hang out before you leave then cool. otherwise you're wasting your time and a total (not a chance b/c she doesnt like you like that anymore)
Magnatolia
Don Juan
Here's a better idea. Tell her when you want to catch up. In your last post you said you were going to see if she wants to hangout? Reread the replies. This gives her the option of saying no. If you're not confident in telling her a time and date, then say "I want to catch up before I leave. what's a good time for you?" If she says I'm busy then move to the next paragraph.
If she declines then say "Well, I guess you're not that interested. Just wanted to make sure because I've heard the chicks in Europe are really hot. So I'll see you around."
I'm not an expert but I believe that if she's at all interested, she won't like the thought of you with other women.
Opinions on this are appreciated.
If she declines then say "Well, I guess you're not that interested. Just wanted to make sure because I've heard the chicks in Europe are really hot. So I'll see you around."
I'm not an expert but I believe that if she's at all interested, she won't like the thought of you with other women.
Opinions on this are appreciated.
Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.
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