Word, Mike. You do NOT want to be an open book, share your weaknesses and failures, or make an easy target (ie, shy, unassertive, lonesome, of low self-esteem; or loud, boastful, arrogant, overly talkative) - because people will destroy you.
Anything you say can and will be used against you; people will gossip, talk **** and make fun of you behind your back; judge, define, and categorize you; take sides, gang up with their friends, focus on the "weakest", lowest class person in public, and use your weaknesses against you.
Most people are backstabbing *****es and cowards. Even if they complain about being bullied, or too nice - they'll thrash the next person "below" them in a heartbeat - with their loser friends - all the same.
Even if they're claiming to help you - they're really not. It's just another means for them to focus on your flaws, so they can feel better about themselves, and not have to worry about their own pathetic lives. They'll also bring you down throughout - without ever actually helping. But they always want to have a hand in your life, and know about your failures, and make you the brunt-end of their insults and criticisms.
Men, in particular, are your competition, and will do a lot of things to sabotage and make sure you fail, so that they can claim superiority over you. Keeping you on the defensive, focusing on your flaws, hating everything you have, bringing you down whenever you try to achieve, or seeing a success coming your way, and other bull****.
Never doubt this. The ego-competition and jealousy is HUGE among men, and they just want to be on top - and everyone else well below them. You'll find that they'll simultaneously praise themselves - while tearing down others. They especially love to do this with people who are better off than them, and have things that they want - while denying it. And they'll be relentless in their attacks. Everything they have is the best; everyone else sucks. Until they get what the other person had - then it's the best thing ever.
But other than tearing down the competition (while denying having any, or being jealous of anyone - while egotistically proving their awesomeness in comparison to everyone else - only to compete more and more) - people love to have weak, insecure folk to push around, manipulate, use, bully, etc. That's why you don't put yourself in that position, or allow it to happen. If you have no self-respect or boundaries, are a pushover, and come off as an insecure failure / follower (either by words or actions) - who takes a lot of ****, seeks the approval of others, doesn't stand up for themselves, and shares all insecurities and failures - you're done for.
People generally won't feel sorry for you, or try to bring you up, either. Quite the opposite - they'll tear you down, manipulate, and (ab)use you, instead. Especially since predators specifically seek out downers and failures and insecure co-dependants. Happy, content people avoid negative people, so you're left with a bunch of selfish, egotistical, insecure *******s and narcissists - of both genders. So, don't wear an insecure, unhappy, weak mask out there. You'll be viewed as an easy target for *******s to take advantage of.
The gossip train is near endless, though. If you tell a girl something, especially - EVERYONE is going to find out. They can't keep their mouth's closed for anything; are always seeking approval from their friends; are more obsessed with status and social acceptance than men are; always need to know everything about everyone, so they can define and categorize them; talk constantly about people in general; etc.
So, they blurt out everything to everyone, and everyone finds out - including their guy friends, people they date, etc. And it goes round and round. Since *****es seem to date EVERYONE - it's going to come back to you eventually. You date her; she tells all her friends, and the next guy she dates - which she probably met through (or in an area around) you, etc. This person tells that person, and everyone finds out. So, SHHHHHHHHHHHHHH on your personal ****.
Even if you're not like this; can keep secrets, dont gossip or bully or backstab - doesn't mean other people won't. Including those who claim to hate when it happens to them. Don't trust **** until they earn it. Loud, fake, gossipy, two-faced, overly talkative, judgemental people are NEVER to be trusted. And there's people of both genders like this.
Even if certain women are genuinely trying to help - their "good word" usually works against you - because they reveal EVERYTHING - including your weaknesses and insecurities - and end up making you look like an undesirable chump ***** in the process. I never had a girl NOT tell another girl that I was a virgin back then, or not having much luck, or failed relationships, or whatever, and having that prospect get ruined - for the same reasons. Even though their intentions were solid - they still ****ed up my chances from the jump.
So, don't tell people **** - in hopes of gaining sympathy, support, advice, hook ups, etc. Girls are going to tell their SO's, friends, and others - even if they mean well, and are looking out for you. It's going to come back to bite you in the ass from others they tell - who DON'T have your best interests at heart.
Don't share or show weakness unless you REALLY trust someone. People can't keep **** to themselves, and nobody is going to compliment, respect, agree, or "side" with someone deemed as a loser. Talk about how successful and hot you are, or whatever, as you're getting rejected, and people will laugh. Not to mention wanting you to fail in the first place, and having their own competitive viewpoint towards you, and judging you... Whatever those queers do.
But people are ****ing obsessed with status and reputation these days. It's like it defines their entire worth. They all look up to, respect, befriend, and want to date the high status types with a lot friends, who's good with the opposite sex, social and out-going, etc. Even though most of them are followers and losers - the ones who look up to the HS', that is - they'll still look down upon and bully those who are "fake", and trying to fit in. Fake people calling others fake... How cute.
But they won't respect their opinions or take them seriously or listen to anything they have to say unless they're considered "top dog". ****ing sad, really. But these people are the biggest ****ing losers in the world.
A lot of people are also delusional, conceited, and will omit themselves from anything bad. or complain about the same things they are, or assume your anger comes from something someone else did - when the problem is THEM. They might say, you need to change the kind of women you're going after, or that's not a real friend, or they understand how people are, and blah blah - when they're the fake mother****ers. Never fails on this one. Nothing is their fault, but always yours. As well, they never have any flaws, but everything you do is wrong. Everything you have is crap, but you're just jealous of them. And they take sides with all this ****.
****ing fake *****es, man.
But, not knowing any of this before, I ****ed my whole world up. I would chase girls at every job, tell them everything, act like an asexual nice guy dumbass, tell all my co-workers everything as well, end up getting rejected, having the girls tell everyone they weren't interested (even though they were lying, two-faced players), then having everyone judge, gossip, and criticize. I did this EVERYWHERE, with EVERYONE. At work; with friends, strangers, acquaintances; you name it. Told everyone everything, got rejected in front of their faces, had the women lie about the affairs they tried to have (while me not willing to let them cheat, or be in that position, took time off from women, etc. Also had no self-esteem, and the whole nine.
Needless to say, I was viewed and treated as a low-status *****. An insecure nice guy desperate virgin. Even though that was not actually the case at all. But people don't care. They see only what they want to see - as it suits their ego, and whatever is in front of their faces - then define and categorize from there - with their one-dimensional, pea-brain viewpoint. And once their minds are made up - it's not going to change.
What's ****ed up is, because I wouldn't let others cheat with me, wasn't interested in hook ups, etc - my reputation got destroyed, and the *****s who LIED THEIR ASSES OFF got to save face. They told people they weren't interested - when all they wanted was sex - without being viewed as the *****s they are. I didn't follow through on their devious plan to CHEAT, so they got to lie about their interest, and make me look like a *****. And everyone sided with the women - especially the "competition". They went on with their usual, "yeah, she wasn't interested; you're just a conceited virgin loser; no one likes you; shut up".
Funny how that **** works. People care more about status than genuinity. ****ed up. But the guys who didn't give a ****, and had no morals or respect for friends were viewed as top dog, and respected. Unbelievable. :cuss:
But these girls were the same backstabbing, fake, gossipy types as explained above... somewhere up there. They would flirt, act like they cared, and pushed for sex in private - then acted like they weren't interested at all in public. Same as the guys who would act like your friend in private - then tear you down in front of others. And it ALWAYS came back to status and reputation, and whatever bull**** level those faggots put you on.
A lot of people are simply really ****ing stupid, fake, shallow, and worthless. Avoid.
