what to screen for in woman?

[Ryan Adams]

I want to be able to screen alot better. what are some of the things I should definitely screen for? besides the obvious like no job etc that's easy. I'm talking discreet stuff

 

[Ryan Adams]

there is this gorgeous chick who has been hitting me up. but once again she comes from a highly drug infested family. she herself is doing decent pretty sure she has major add but holds down a decent job. Thing is her makeup is caked on when she goes out and you can literally see the line between her face and neck makeup where it stops. also eyeshadow is fvcking caked on. huge turnoff for me

 

[resilient]

We could give you generalities Ryan, yet I think the best screening you can do will be based off your experiences in dating.

What are your preferences in a woman? Start there.

Learn what you're willing and not willing to put up with.

No one's perfect, though you can definitely navigate around the toxic women when you spot the signs and red flags. That is where your dating history will guide your intuition in types of people to avoid.

 

[Ryan Adams]

well I want an honest woman. that's number 1. good luck right?! haha. but what is considered a toxic woman? because I seem to pick the worst ones. they seem sweet because maybe I care and like them too much but when i look back there are so many things i should of caught on to.

 

[Ryan Adams]

well I want an honest woman. that's number 1. good luck right?! haha. but what is considered a toxic woman? because I seem to pick the worst ones. they seem sweet because maybe I care and like them too much but when i look back there are so many things i should of caught on to.

I would love some generalities? is bad family a huge red flag seems like I attract those types of woman

 

[devilkingx2]

first you have to decide what you want, and then you have to be realistic enough to get it. you can screen for anything, but you will not find something impossible.

for example,

you can't get a virgin who loves sex, unless you want a 13-15 year old (why else would she still be a virgin if she loves sex?)

you can't get a girl who's a 9/10, that wants to have kinky sex 3 times a day, with a loving sweet personality, complete loyalty to her man, cooks and cleans, etc. unless you're brad pitt. because a girl like that would be able to pick any man on earth and would probably never be single.

so you can get a girl who is extremely loyal, but prepare to deal with whatever it is that makes her loyal and give her whatever she would want in return

you can get a girl who loves having sex, starts fvcking you on the first date, and wants to fvck every day no exceptions, but be prepared for her to have banged a million guys before you

etc.

so figure out what you absolutely must have, and what you absolutely cannot tolerate first and foremost, then figure out what traits are associated with your desired traits and learn to deal with them. (for example, if you want big boobs, don't expect to be dating stick thin girls who weigh 110 pounds)

(NOTE: in this context can't doesn't mean it's literally impossible, it means that it's so unlikely, that you might as well expect to become a millionaire off of buying 1 lottery ticket 1 time)

 

[mrgoodstuff]

first you have to decide what you want, and then you have to be realistic enough to get it. you can screen for anything, but you will not find something impossible.

for example,

you can't get a virgin who loves sex, unless you want a 13-15 year old (why else would she still be a virgin if she loves sex?)

you can't get a girl who's a 9/10, that wants to have kinky sex 3 times a day, with a loving sweet personality, complete loyalty to her man, cooks and cleans, etc. unless you're brad pitt. because a girl like that would be able to pick any man on earth and would probably never be single.

so you can get a girl who is extremely loyal, but prepare to deal with whatever it is that makes her loyal and give her whatever she would want in return

you can get a girl who loves having sex, starts fvcking you on the first date, and wants to fvck every day no exceptions, but be prepared for her to have banged a million guys before you

etc.

so figure out what you absolutely must have, and what you absolutely cannot tolerate first and foremost, then figure out what traits are associated with your desired traits and learn to deal with them. (for example, if you want big boobs, don't expect to be dating stick thin girls who weigh 110 pounds)

(NOTE: in this context can't doesn't mean it's literally impossible, it means that it's so unlikely, that you might as well expect to become a millionaire off of buying 1 lottery ticket 1 time)

On your female example. She can cheat on him too. That's what we learned watching the celebs.

 

[ohrein]

You only need to screen if you're planning to date a woman. If you're just gonna hook up with her, even if it's months of friends with benefits, you just need to go on gut. But if you are looking for or think you've found a woman you might want to get into an LTR with, here's a short list.

- Impulse control. Does she party? Drink too much? Take drugs? Gamble? Act emotionally? Pass.

- Emotional maturity. Similar to impulse control but important in its own right. Can she communicate clearly about her emotions? Does she understand them?

- Low lay count. This one is hard to know and you shouldn't find out but you can get a vibe for this.

- Low narcissism. Does she duck face? Post countless selfies on Instagram? Does she always show off her body with her fashion?

- Feminine. This one should be self-explanatory but she should look to you for direction. She should expect you to lead.

- Strong Family Bonds. Psychologically we learn bonding from our parents and immediate family. If she's tight with her family she's got a better chance of bonding healthily. Daddy issues? Run don't walk.

- Low maintenance. Is she a self described "princess"? Does she expect you to cater to her? If a woman is not putting in effort with you yet expecting the world, run don't walk.

- Monogamous. Do not go near any woman who is at all poly-amorous for a relationship. Only date a woman who wants monogamy and brings it up with you.

- Mental Health. We all have our issues but if it's anything that you notice clearly and that obviously impacts her life, it will impacts yours.

- High interest (Optional). In my experience, women who don't have really high interest in you early on never really develop it. She'll still hook up with you but if her interest doesn't ramp up then it probably never will.

There are more indicators but these are the ones that are coming to mind and seems like a good starting list. Additionally, there is a triad of traits that predict relationship success, psychologically speaking. Mental health, similar values and communication. Now, communication doesn't solve everything, (you can't negotiate desire), but as I said above, it does mean a woman is going to be better at working with you rather than getting wrapped up in emotions and disregarding you.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Families is fair game. Some families are criminal with no ethics, others are educated. It's good to know what she sees as normal for male to female relationships.

Also her friends groups. They tend to do the same things.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Make sure she is dominant in her life, likes to take charge, has tattoos, a lot of ex relationships as that will mean she is experienced, "adventurous".

Sounds like you'll be filled to the brim with drama and rebellious behavior.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

tried to make a little bad joke as I am so ****ing tired and type stupid **** when im in this mood late at night lol

Yeah I figured. She'll have you hot and in your nerves. Like a little porcupine if you draw close.

 

[Ryan Adams]

You only need to screen if you're planning to date a woman. If you're just gonna hook up with her, even if it's months of friends with benefits, you just need to go on gut. But if you are looking for or think you've found a woman you might want to get into an LTR with, here's a short list.

- Impulse control. Does she party? Drink too much? Take drugs? Gamble? Act emotionally? Pass.

- Emotional maturity. Similar to impulse control but important in its own right. Can she communicate clearly about her emotions? Does she understand them?

- Low lay count. This one is hard to know and you shouldn't find out but you can get a vibe for this.

- Low narcissism. Does she duck face? Post countless selfies on Instagram? Does she always show off her body with her fashion?

- Feminine. This one should be self-explanatory but she should look to you for direction. She should expect you to lead.

- Strong Family Bonds. Psychologically we learn bonding from our parents and immediate family. If she's tight with her family she's got a better chance of bonding healthily. Daddy issues? Run don't walk.

- Low maintenance. Is she a self described "princess"? Does she expect you to cater to her? If a woman is not putting in effort with you yet expecting the world, run don't walk.

- Monogamous. Do not go near any woman who is at all poly-amorous for a relationship. Only date a woman who wants monogamy and brings it up with you.

- Mental Health. We all have our issues but if it's anything that you notice clearly and that obviously impacts her life, it will impacts yours.

- High interest (Optional). In my experience, women who don't have really high interest in you early on never really develop it. She'll still hook up with you but if her interest doesn't ramp up then it probably never will.

There are more indicators but these are the ones that are coming to mind and seems like a good starting list. Additionally, there is a triad of traits that predict relationship success, psychologically speaking. Mental health, similar values and communication. Now, communication doesn't solve everything, (you can't negotiate desire), but as I said above, it does mean a woman is going to be better at working with you rather than getting wrapped up in emotions and disregarding you.

wow this is an awesome post. She has alot of these things. She parties alot gets wasted drunk. Her family is definitely not the best pretty sure mom has been around the block and has a few dui's. dad is tatted up, I'm talking neck tats and all. Emotional maturity is very low with her. she is definitely not narcissistic doesn't really post selfies. Family bonds are very low she ignores her parents. her mental health has me 2nd guessing also. she isnt outwardly crazy just all over the place. Like I went in her room and she has 6 coffee cups stacked on her dresser full of coffee. not a huge sign but to me I was like uhhh kinda odd. also she has this really ****ty makeup she puts on its like caked on it looks horrible. As for her lay count I have no idea. How can I tell? weve made out at this point but havent banged yet. I have this weird gut feeling for some reason not to get involved with her. idk what it is k just have the vibe that she puts on a huge front and behind closed doors isnt what she seems like.

 

[Ryan Adams]

Families is fair game. Some families are criminal with no ethics, others are educated. It's good to know what she sees as normal for male to female relationships.

Also her friends groups. They tend to do the same things.

her only close friend I know of is an attention ***** who bounces from guy group to guy group. im assuming looking for what guy has the most money

 

[mrgoodstuff]

her only close friend I know of is an attention where who bounces from guy group to guy group. im assuming looking for what guy has the most money

Hopefully she hates that behavior